Would you get married behind your parents back?

LOL! What you and others may be missing with this is the point. Most people get married after they reach the age of adulthood and consent, which is 18. At that point, who cares whether your parents know or not if you get married? It isn't their decision at that point and they should no more try to stop you or have anything to say about it than well... anybody. Now I understand if you want them included because your dream is to have a huge fairytale wedding or something, but if your intent is just to elope and go to vegas and make it quick, I don't think it's anybody's business. I also want to point out that the majority of people who DO 'get married behind someone's back' do it out of necessity! If people were less into harrassing each other and trying to prevent each other from doing things, it wouldn't be necessary to do anything behind someone's back! If we never had to worry about people disapproving and having issues and attacking us for every little thing, don't you think life would be a heck of a lot easier? Of course it would. I'm an old, grouchy mom and wife now, but I still remember what it was like to be a teen and a young adult. I think if your parents are nothing but supportive and have always been nothing but supportive, even if they dont' agree with you, that's one thing and including them if you don't live too far away and it's not too expensive to travel would be a good thing, but if they have been nothing but unsupportive and you don't see a change coming, then who cares? I never include ANYBODY unsupportive, and I'm not just talking family, but friends, acquaintances, etc.

I would never have gotten married without my parents knowing. That just mean! They spend so much time raising a child and then go behind their back to wed someone...that the parents obviously don't approve of. Sure, there's probably those circumstances where it would be acceptable and people would understand, but the parent wouldn't. At least in my opinion any ways.

If they are against it, I will still get married without their blessing.It is my life, anyway

I don't do much behind peoples back. My mom hated the idea of "losing" me to anyone. She would and did even try the back-stab method to keep me at home at the age of 22. When I decided I was going to get married I called my parents. My mom answered the phone. The response I received was silence. She told my dad she would not attend or do anything about the wedding plans. My dad said his girls were going to get a big wedding and reception no matter what! I know my own mind. I've been married 27 years.

I could never dream of doing such a thing! Not when they have spent their life bringing me up, giving me the best of everything, encompassing me with love, shielding me from every harm!! Its unimaginable!! How could i not invite them on my wedding!! I can't even imagine a wedding without them!!

i can't and won't do it. it's not just that i owe them my life.it's also a respect for them. but when i get married i want them to be there,to witness my would-be the happiest day.i want them to see an important event in my life.

No but with some parents being the way that they are, I could fully understand why some think they need to be hide it. Mine always threaten to disown me for everything and I could imagine they'll threaten the same thing if I were to marry someone they didn't like. I used to let that bother me but now I really don't care.

For me, it's definitely NO. I can't imagine being married without my parents by my side.. Eventhough we don't always see eye to eye, and sometimes I just hate them, they are still my parents. And they raised me and love me from the start. It would just be too sad if they are not present in one of the most important events in my life.

I am afraid the guilt would prevent me from being happy enough to marry someone behind their backs. it just wouldn't feel right to do this. i would want them to be part of my happiness when I got married.

if they were against the guy and i loved him for real, i would

When i got married both of my husband's and my parents were there. They were so happy to see us tie the knot. They were also proud of us settling down for a married life.

I am pretty sure that when i get the right girl for me and i get marry i wont have my parents in my wedding and yes they are still alive the thing is that i would just fell bad by having them there because they never suported me when i really needed they just think the only thing we need is money and if there is money we dont need suport so my answer is i would get married behind my parents back ^^. Thanks for reading, commenting and rating :)

Why would you in the first place, when you like somebody obviously you introduce him or her to your parents. And if your parents truly love you, which they do, then they will be happy if you are. Perhaps they will give you some advise in some cases, like they will warn you if they think that your significant other is playing a game with you or sometin like that. So no i wont' do this marriage behind your parents back .

I'd never ever think about getting married behind my parents back though i've some friends who dared to do such a thing :( It's like stabbing them behind their back. I could never take such a big step. Moreover my parents are like the cool types, totally broadminded. I really love the way they understand everything though the generation gap is there. I understand how parents feel, though i've not been in my friend's parents shoes, i've seen them get dissapointed. I would never want that look in my parents face. Ilove them a lot

I believe that my parents, above everybody else deserve to be in my wedding.

For me it is depends if you have a choice why not because maybe you had a mature age like 40 it is okay if don't have a parents attend in the weeding.

I don't know if I would. Right now, I couldn't think of any reason why I would get married behind my parents' back. My parents did though. They were already engaged and the date was already set. My mum is a believer of Feng Shui and she had the date Feng Shui-ed and found out that it was an unlucky time to get married, so what they did was they had a civil wedding 10 months earlier that their announced Church wedding. This was to offset the unlucky-ness of their original wedding date. Only a few people knew that they got married before hand. Actually, they just divulged that secret about 5 years ago, and this year, they will be celebrating their silver anniversary. (Well they are about to this january for their civil wedding, then they'll get married again on october, which is their church wedding). Talk about a decade-old secret! haha

I did married secretly. It is not because my boyfriend is not okay with my parents. It was really one of those spontaneous thing you do when you are in love. Both of our parents were not present on our civil wedding. His side knew about it, mine didn't except for my confidante cousin. Weddings are a big thing in our family. But I really don't want to bother my family to spend for it so we married secretly while saving for the big day. My mom, eventually got her wish to see her daughter walked down the aisle. Sometimes, it is good to be spontaneous because the more we plan or think about something, the more it is likely not to happen.

I grew in a family which defines family with the inclusion of the extensions of family. So pretty much, a big one. In time, I don't think I can't have my family around me or behind me in pursuing a marital life. It's not that I want to depend too much on them but I would like to know that someone is happy for me in that phase of my life (with the exception of my future groom). Also, marriages and weddings traditionally ties with family and family life so I think having the family around is the first good step in creating a new one.

i love my parents and i wouldn't do something like that as much as possible. however, there are instances wherein you love someone so much yet your parents don't approve to it. that's tough and you get tempted to marry that someone without your parents knowing at first. but for the time being, i would have to say i couldn't do it to them. that would be showing ingratitude after everything they have done.