Wedding Vows...and after a year or two..a Broken Vow ?

Hi Jaiho, On the lighter side: ...And that proves my theory - Promises are meant to be broken... Seriously - I do love my wife (more than it was a few years ago when we were seeing each other) and remember the promises that I made to her. Unfortunate of me that I failed to keep them up due to my health but she understands... And I feel bad that I could not keep up to them... Doesnt matter, I am trying now, and hope to keep up to them. I believe my God and My Love for her has kept me going and will give me chances to keep up to my promises Thanks for this sweet discussion, Regards, theSids.

well. it really happen a lot. i cant imagine it. today is my 2nd anniv and he is only boyfriend. but we are fighting in our anniv day today :( i cant imagine how marriage will be, if only in relation like this everything has ruined out.what is marriage then? do all of us understand the meaning of marriage if we cant be faithful to each other. however i still glad my fight today is not about cheating. and i hope in my marriage, he will not cheat me or i will kill the bi*** for him

Hello dear sister, The promises will be very nice if fulfilled. But sad to say that it never happens after the wedding. What I felt generally is, among couples, the first two years for each other and after that the attention is diverting to kids and I think we don’t get a chance to know even, getting committed for kids more than the spouse. In my opinion there won’ be any broken promises in that case because both are involved in new responsibilities.

That is why both couple should have a strong foundation of faith to God because saying of commitments before people is just nothing, what is important is the relationship of both couple before God. God should not be blamed on broken vows and marriages, it is the person that deals with their decisions in life and God hates divorce as what my opinion is. Love should also be based on the standard of God and one of the most love verse I like to share here is 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. No matter how both the couple are different in ideas and perspective as long as they will cooperate well and nurture their love for each other just to mirror the love that God is teaching us, we can make our relationship last. I am married to an Indian foreigner but it is not the nationality that matters because what matters to us is our relationship with Jesus Christ as our Savior and Lord.

Hello Jaiho, Nobody is perfect and the Marriage didn't made out of the fairy tale dreams, both people gotta work with that vow even if some promises were broken. sometimes i wonder what can a man be with out a wife, but how can he be stable if he has a wife that he promised to. I believe too many material things that made marriages so weak that it demands a lot of things. only forgiveness and understanding can make up to the broken promise. sometimes, it takes a risk of divorce or break up to realize it.

marriage is sacred one before you get into commitment make sure about how you feel ask for some guidance. Its okay to have doubts but being in marriage its kinda a commitment forever. If ever when I get married I want it to be serious and it should be in my heart.

i really can't remember what have i done with the first marriage, but with this present, we only vowed to help each other raise our kids and be together happy as long as we are able.

Many people think that marriage is just a piece of paper. They don't respect the sacredness of matrimony. This also shows they don't respect God who is the author of marriage. As the Word of God so states in Matthew 19:6 "Wherefore they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."

I think many people get married far too quickly today, and for all the wrong reasons. "To have a lovely big party", "Because I'm pregnant", "because I want to make him/her love me", "to fix our relationship" are just a few of the reasons I've heard from friends and family who have got married in recent years. I want to get married eventually, but only when we are really ready. For me, marriage is an important commitment between two people to spend the rest of your lives together. I will never get married if I have even an inkling that it might not be forever. Because me and my fiance have been together for so long, we are very sure of what we want. We want a tiny ceremony, probably just the two of us because that actually means the wedding does exactly what it should, and unite two people (not everyone else in the room). We also want to decide on a new surname, as we both have issues with our own. We will both have the same surname, so that our children will have the same surname as the both of us and it will feel more like a true family unit. I think that it will be really important when we come to choose our vows. I think that we may write our own, so that we fit everything we want in there. I am not keen on the rhyme-y kinds of vows, as these tend to often be written so that they rhyme, and less thought is given to the meaning than the verse. I just want our vows to say what we feel. That will be enough for me. As long as we both continue as we have for the past 8 years, we will be fine.

Mine was a typical Indian Hindu wedding and I have stood by my husband and fulfilled my vows till now and intend to do so in future too. In our culture, love is important. But it is overshadowed by duty to your husband, kids, your in-laws, your siblings, your parents etc, etc. So, most of the time, the marriage works because of the sense of duty towards their kids. Atleast, they try till they can take it no more. But regarding marriage vows and keeping them, I guess it depends on the individual and how committed he or she is to the relationship.

hello there jaiho! hmmm, sometimes we cannot prevent things that come to its end., no matter how'd you promised to yourself or to your betterhalf still its irrevocable. life is really unpredictable, you made a vow and you were also the one who broke it but as long as you are happy, let it be. no matter what you have done and promised in your wedding, though you made a promised with God eyes, whatever will happen with the relationship, we know that God will always be with anyone's side. promises are made to be broken. :)

marriage is a sacred thing.so i think before committing to this we should ask God for guidance to seek our lifetime partner.and make HIM the center of the relationship.have you watched the movie FIREPROOF? i nice one for couples.

Maybe, the man you married is not really your jaiho or (destiny). There are some couple who does not really love each other. Their just get married because of money that he or she can get. Well, promise is a breakable thing.

Hello. Many weddings today will only end into a divorce which is very sad. They promised each other in front of the Lord that they will stay together and will always love each other but they just broke it.. Really so sad about all the marriage that has been broken!

Thats the reality nobody can change anymore. Well I guess so.. Coz just look at our daily lives, some people pray 5 times some do it 2 times a day, go to church every Sunday and some do it everyday to ask for forgiveness and even swore to God not to do mean things and just be a good citizen but after youll know they begun again for another mistake or sin. Thats how fast people forget about promises and commitment. But of course Im not saying all people are the same. Unfortunately then there are many.