Do you negative rate ..

Hello Zandi, i'm not sure that negative raters think when they rate. For me it's something like habit or just personal opinion/attitude for someone else. That's my thinking, because of my experience lately. I was out of Mylot for a week or so and when i left my rating was 10, now when i'm back today, my rating is 9. How that change happened if i haven't wrote here for days? Also i started to think that negative raters got their favorite members here and their favorite members are people with blue star. Now my explanation - i am here from 7 months. I started with the lowest star and at the middle, when i reached 9 i was out of the site for more than a month - may be two months. When i get back, my star was still red and still 9 - hasn't moved at all. When i started to participate again somehow i reached blue star and all of that strange moving up and down started then. One day i was with 9, the other day i was with 10, next day again 9, the day after the next day - again 10. It was that way for a week, then i stayed few days with blue star and today i am red again. I don't mind that, at all. But just i wonder ... how come that i didn't move at all when i had red rating star, i mean i didn't move down, but now it's kind of my daily experience here - every day my star change her color. For myself i can say that i rate negative only people, who are rude. It's not because they have different opinion than mine, it's because they express their opinion and feelings rude and usually they insult someone else, even if that someone else doesn't react at all.

Plagiarists get a negative from me every time I find them If someone has a different opinion from mine then the more we can debate it, the more plusses they will receive, especially if English is not their first language and they are doing a great job of getting their point across. I love those occasions which happen here. I have made some great friends on those times too!

Hi Zandi! A very pertinent post. I also feel that some members act on an impulse and if someone does not respond to their liking, they rate him/her negatively. I think, we should be liberal enough and welcome views which differ from our own thinking. The fun of discussion gets doubled if you get to know about different angles of thinking, how people view a certain situation. I do not rate anyone negatively. I appreciate each and every response, which I receive while starting my own discussions.

Hi zands, Technically speaking negative rating is legal practice here on mylot. If you can plus rate one you can minus rate too. But the million dollar question is who is playing the fair play? This is very often posted discussion about why people negative mark and why the star keeps changing color? Well, not necessary that you rate every one or not rate at all but why negative rate a post which is by no means a scrap. There we are not able to settle things down. People easily get offended for the right cause or for nothing or for misunderstanding the point of the post. Personally I do not negative mark any one, oh, yes I might not rate at all. And when see a good stuff surely I plus rate.

no i donot. i never do that. if i don't like or not good respond etc, i just don't give a rate to them. but i try to give positive rate to all my discussion.

I will be giving negative ratings to those person who will respond unrelated to my discussions after I created my last discussion. There is a perfect answer if you are WELL VERSE on that experience/incident/discussing about. If I don't know the discussion even I like to participate it will be nonsense. So I would rather skip the discussion and proceed to the next one.

this is true I am here to learn different cultures and make friends I dont put neg. even if they dont agree with mebut I may answer in kind and tone the way they did to my responce. Havent seen you in awhile hugssssssssssssssssssssss

Hi Zandi, i never negative rate anyone for not agreeing w/me unless they are tacky acting in doing so. A discussion is to get everyone's opinion whether it's the same as yours or not. THE WAY IT IS DELIVERED IS ANOTHER STORY.

Hi zandi... I actually don't remember rating any discussion..as I have said before if for any reason I do not agree with some discussions [ or I have nothing to offer] I will just pass it and go to another!

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, This dicussion has been raised many times by many members including you , may be in different shape and pattern. You are a very sensible and accomodative person here, what I observed, then why do we all forget other part of coin, why do we not expect Dark side of it. EWhy at all we feel guilty that one should have done as per other's will and plaesure. We are all free and frank and everyone should accept everyothetr's opinions. Remember, if one wants really improvements in one's life, one should find out one's weakness first. In fact, I appriciate someone rating negatively, provided reasons are well explained.. If one does not agree that mother should be born before child, one should explain and we should listen carefully. Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.

Hi zandi, I only give positive ratings or no ratings at all. In fact i love to distribute positive ratings, even to those who don't agree with me. It makes mylot all too interesting. Where is the fun when there is no one to disagree ? Everybody just agreeing with me, would be so boring. Yes, we do get to learn a lot when someone disagrees in a positive way, but sometimes there are some who just disagree to undermine, that isn't good and i don't give them any ratings. Fortunately i haven't experienced such mylot users lately. Why not distribute positive ratings and make everyone happy??

No I don't; I just don't participate in some of the discussions if I don't like it. Sorry but I guess it's better than rated it as negative.

Once we start a new discussion, we should expect the different of responses from most of the members. I should appreciate of the responses from other people for my discussion. For me, I never think about rating the responses negatively although some of the responses were very irritating. They have their right to sound whatever they want as long as they are not violating the rules of mylot.

Oh and zandi, for the negative reasons that I mentioned (personal attacks) I will give a negative rating ... never because anyone strongly disagrees or has a different opinion.

I don't give negative ratings to those who do not agree with my opinion or point in discussion. I prefer to be respectful of other people's point of view. BUT I definitely give negative ratings to those who are RUDE to others.

I don't actually notice the positive, negative and exclamation point. I just read others' responses and if I really find the person very rude, only then would I be moved to rate his response negatively. Otherwise, I would just not rate. Sometimes I even forget to give a response a positive rating. When I find responses that I don't agree, I will choose to ignore them. I'm not a confrontational person and I hate it to get into a pointless argument.

Greetings!! I don't give negative ratings. If I don't like the respond or discussion, I just ignore it. Its also an effort to respond, comment and to post a discussion that's why I know how it feels if you're rated negative. I always rated positive. :)

Abusing the negative rating will also affect the rater, it is clearly stated in the guidelines. I have only rated once negatively when a member was making fun of another about his English language. Along with that I reported the member as I stumbled across a great many occasions in one sitting that the member was intentionally hurting new members. Rating positive costs me nothing and I figure if a comment from any discussion graps my attention whether agreeing and or opposing I will rate it positive. As I am one who likes to re-read comments to see if there is some ring of truth. I do rate all responses in my own discussion positive, unless the member is way out of league and completely off topic. Those I simply reply to and do not rate.

Hi zandi458, I have started around 18 discussions, mostly I like to respond to others but I have never marked negative on others responses. The first thing is why should we mark it negative it is their own point of view and we can't say it wrong and mark negative. As you rightly said it is an alternative view point and the meaning of discussion is itself exchange of opinions and views. Others may or may not have the same opinion what we have, the five fingers of palm are not alike so how can we expect everybody behaves the same. I agree to you 100%. Happy Living Calpro

I agree ... I like to say that it's just a conversation! I'm one who enjoys the sharing of good information. I believe that any and all participation can be important ... it means that people are at least engaged on any given matter. What I find disturbing is when folks attempt personal attacks, if not assassinate someone's character ... when they attempt to focus solely on the commentator rather than the issue posed. That, in my estimation, speaks volumes about the discorder and not about the person offering an issue for discussion. When people make wild assumptions regarding another's intent or personal being in bringing an issue for discussion .. this I find can also be used to immediately discredit their own opinions.