break someone's trust or not???

@sheen13 (567)
India
January 19, 2011 8:51am CST
Hello everyone. I am in kind of critical situation over here. I have a friend and she was once in my circle of friends but now neither me nor my friends like her. We all kind of hate her completely. It is just because of her character. She is really out of control and has got bad behaviour. But as she sits with me in class, it's not at all possible to ignore her as my other friends do. And so I behave with her nice. But me and my friends thought to show her what's right and what's wrong. I mean that what she is doing "flauntering her attitude", she should keep it with herselves. We are having fun playing pranks on her. But the thing is that my friend trusts me. So, my question that I am doing right? My friend trusts me and she is telling me all of her secrets, so am I breaking her trust. I am just doing the same what she has done to us. She has never proved to be a good friend. I would love your opinions.:)
6 responses
@shrijsr (574)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jan 11
Well, I understand what you are doing with her. But sometimes, forgiving will be the best punishment that you can give to a person and forgiving will make her think what she has done she will surely feel sorry for that! I think it will be hurting her if you are going to break her trust. Just be good to her and be the way you are. Don't do thing what she did and don't repeat her mistake because you don't have to do what she has done. Just try speaking to her openly about whats bothering you being with her. Tell her about her attitude! I hope she will have a check on that! I'm sure things will work fine if you speak openly! Cheers! Happy Mylotting!
@sheen13 (567)
• India
19 Jan 11
Hey thanks. But actually me and my friends have already confronted her many times. And whenever we told her about her behaviour, she still shows attitude. So, now I really don't want to mess up with her. Anyways thanks for your response. I'll try still.:)
• India
21 Jan 11
Well if she still shows her attitude then you have to show her yours then. If you really want your friend to be with you altogether then just leave her for a while even if she doesn't change her attitude!
@sheen13 (567)
• India
25 May 12
Yea, this is a good alternative for sure ! :)
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 11
if u want to be a good friend, i guess you have to be honest too that you and other friends don't like her behavior. but that does not means that you don't like her. you guys could have a better relationship if you are honest with all of them
@sheen13 (567)
• India
25 May 12
Yes, it's better to be straight forward and tell her everything honestly. She might feel hurt but at the end she might even realize her mistake. And hopefully we'll all stay together! :)
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
21 Jan 11
It doesn't matter what everyone else is doing. It's what you do that counts. How do you choose to define yourself? Would you want to be treated like your friend is being treated?? If you are a good friend, shouldn't you be having long talks, pointing her in the right direction? I guess it all comes down to what kind of a friend you choose to be.
@sheen13 (567)
• India
25 May 12
Yes, you are definitely right with what you have said. If I treat her the way she is treating us, then what will be the difference left between me and her. Being a good friend, I should actually tell her what's right. Thanks a lot for the response ! :)
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
19 Jan 11
It is not a wise practice as a friend to break a trust. Trust is not something that can be easily won back. Sometimes when trust is betryed, it can change the relationship and the way back can be hard to follow.
@sheen13 (567)
• India
25 May 12
Hmmm... Yea, You are right. Trust is something which we once lose won't get it back easily. And even if we do get it back, it won't be the same as before. It is better that we resolve all the problems rather than complicating it more ! Thanks for your response ! :)
• India
21 Jan 11
Well i would say that i had been in your shoes before. And it was kinda fun for a while playing pranks and all. My friend has a bike and he used to take another friend of mine from college to home and vice versa. We used to call him driver and that was the name given by the same friend who rode on his bike to home. We also called him sharing partner since everything he does in money he shares it equally. I mean there wasn't a time when he paid for any of us. At first we made fun of him behind his back. He was really hurt when he came to know that and later he decided to stay away from everyone except for his best mate and me. It was kinda hard to blame out the facts to him and show him what real friendship is all about. I went straight up to him after a while till i could stand no longer and i told him about all his weak points and why people make fun of him. It was sad for a while but he became serious in life and studies and now he's an expert programmer in .NET. Others go up to him for advice and he has also done a project for Symbiosis. It's just a matter of time before your friend comes to know about you. So i suggest that you break the news to her yourself. Like one mylotter said No one is perfect. So you should go up to her and tell about all the stuff you have done. The pain or regret that comes while you tell your friend will be nothing compared to the one which you will get if your friend finds out that you have been backstabbing her. Cheers!
@sheen13 (567)
• India
25 May 12
Nicely said. :) All of us have made mistakes in life and she is not the alone. So, yes, she shouldn't be the one alone to suffer ! Surely, she will understand that what she was doing was wrong and we'll be all back together very soon ! Thanks a lot ! :)
• Bangladesh
19 Jan 11
its never really good to break someone's trust. when you do that they will also do it to you. and if your friend does a bad attitude you should make him realize that its not good. and help him/her to make better.
@sheen13 (567)
• India
25 May 12
Yes, I'll surely keep it in mind and never break anybody's trust and try to make her realize what she is doing is wrong. Definitely, It'll have a good outcome, I hope so! :)