staying unhappy

January 19, 2011 10:20pm CST
A friend of mine is unsure whether to leave her partner or stay for the sake of the baby. She kepts on saying, "I stayed because Baby is happy." She vividly expressed her out-of-love feeling towards the guy whenever their daughter is sleeping or at times when they have pity quarrels and heart-to-heart talks. The problem is, the guy is inlove with her and would try to do everything to win her heart back. A lot of friends adviced her to give the guy a second chance and always try to see the good things in him. She gave it 3 months and gave up since she can't teach her heart to love him again. It wasn't working and there is no third party. She feels like being suffocated and her neck being tied up whenever the guy is around, although, he is not the possesive kind. We come to a point telling her that she is digging her on death. Her point is, she'd rather stay unhappy than to let her baby grow without a father. I'm out of words to advice her, what should she do then?
1 response
blessing2u
@blessing2u (496)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
I was just thinking of the past where they both enjoyed each other's company. They went on to have a baby. I don't know if the girl was forced to have a baby with him but I guess it's not the case. The girl is just basing her decision on her feelings instead of focusing on her family. It's not good for the couple to separate and leave their baby. I don't know the real issue so whatever is right, I hope they can do it. Blessing to you.
adnelg
@adnelg (4)
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20 Jan 11
In the beginning, she was unsure about her feelings towards the guy because they just met at a disco pub. They'd went and hangout together, had s*x and then casual goodbyes. It was all play just as she tbhought it would be until the baby came. On the other hand, the guy all along fell in love with her. Since there's already another life involved, the guy decided to live-in with her. With all the worries she had about her parents knowing her condition, she agreed. Through the course of living-in togerther they'd separated for a month and then reconciled because the baby was asking for her father. Without a choice she and the guy were together again. Now, she is suffering. (thank's God I married my husband for the reason of Love)