In general if someone calls you fat, do you do something or not?

in life i have been both skinny and fat as a kid when i was fat i was very sensitive about it. When i was called fat i said that i wasn't and to leave me alone. When i joined a basketball team the weight just dropped right off of me. As time passed and got mature i became more comfortable in my skin. Now when people call me skinny i do nothing because i am who i am and nothing can change that. If people are proud with who they are, words can't affect them.

I would find it quite rude really of someone just to turn around and say something like that to someone. Especially if they have tried to lose weight but are unable to. There is nobody on earth that is perfect, we all have a flaw in different ways. Better to have some meat on you than look like s stick insect, we could compare many things really. For me i have not had people say that im fat, but people have gone around that by saying "your putting weight on", this then makes me feel that i need to and want to do something to help lose some weight, not because of others noticing but because i want to. If something is to be said it is better to word it carefully rather than just not thinking and saying something like "your fat" that can be very hurtful.

i don't know i think that if somebody call me fat i will watch him/her also becaus ein amny cases other people which are really fat they can say towards other they are fat but never watch themselves as well!!In reality i don't think i would feel bad or scared also ebcause i am not really fat so may be if you are you can touch by this..but if you aren't and othe people say to you just to hurt you...you can simply ignore them!!

I was called fat a number of times. Sometimes it's okay for me but sometimes, I get a bit ticked off. I'm offended but I admit I'm fat. I usually don't really do something about it because despite my weight, I'm pretty agile and I know I can do some things better than others. One time in college during Physical Ed, we had to do sprints and I was partnered with my skinny classmate. I know in her mind she thought that I'm fat and she can do better than me but we just ran the same speed. If I didn't have excess baggage, I would have ran faster. Anyway, I want to do something about my weight not because someone teases me but because I want to have a better and healthier body. I'll do it for myself and not for anyone who has nothing better to do than teases others, lol

Honestly, I do not understand why someone feels offended when they are called fat or skinny. Sigh... I don't think being fat or skinny is just the same as ugly and gross. I'm a skinny, well, I think I am. And I hate it not because others do tell me that I am skinny, but because I want to gain weight. I am not offended when others tell me that I am skinny but rather I am taking it as a real assessment of my body and how do I look. I do not have to conform to any standards, though. As long as I am health and happy with who I am, then, I do not have a problem being called skinny or fat.I know what is best for me and how can I make things work better for myself .

it is normal i think. women always want perfect in everything. but for me, it doesn't matter if someone says that i am fat or i am skinny. i just accept that my body is look like she/he said. i am not fat but i tend to skinny. my weight is 48 kg. my husband always says that i am skinny. but i never heard him. it depends to you. happy mylotting...

People's own perception of themselves is commonly very different from other people's perceptions and most people would feel uncomfortable at or insulted by being told that they are fat (or skinny) when that disagrees with what they think themselves. I have met MANY women who cannot accept that they are just the right size/shape when their own perception of themselves is that they are too fat or too thin. What they REALLY find insulting is not that they are fat or skinny but the suggestion that they themselves are wrong in their own perception of themselves. In other words, they perceive that their intelligence and self-image is being insulted. One also needs to be very careful with one's choice of words around these people. "Fat" and "Skinny" are usually considered derogatory (unless someone uses them of themselves). The other thing to be considered is that people may either be accepting of their self-image (and may not mind being called fat if they are) or uncomfortable with it or over-sensitive about it (and therefore don't like being called fat even if they are and even if they, themselves, say that they are - they will usually say that they 'need to lose weight' or 'have hips, &c that are too large' or something like that, rather than say they are 'fat'.

If somebody calls me fat, I'd say "I can lose the weight, but you can't lose stupid or ugly."

The only person that ever called me fat was someone who has never so much as seen a pic of me. It happen right here on mylots. He was very rude and obnoxiuos. With slanderous insults. For no reason what so ever. I reported him. I dont know if anything ever happen. He is still here. I see his post sometimes but i never post to him. One of my avoided areas.

I think it is quite mean to call someone fat, even if it is true. The reason I think it is mean is because being "fat" has negative meanings. Sometimes overweight people can't help it. And most times, overweight people are struggling with something inside, be it emotional or physical. My brother in law told me many years ago that I would be fat later in life. It upset me very much and I still think about it twenty years later. I think your friend is with the wrong boyfriend. I don't think it was very nice what he said. If he is going to pick on her about her weight, then he shouldn't be dating her. He should love and accept her for who she is.

Am not fat. But there are those who greet me with...."You're so thin!" And I would reaply. No! Simply malnourished. Generally, that floors them and they get on the defensive. Then I smile. I don't think people should comment on the general appearance of people. It is rude but there are those who are quite and definitely thoughtless. I just don't let them affect me and ruin my day. Have a nice day, infatuatedbby!

I will take it optimistically and start doing workouts to get back into shape. Positive criticism well with people who have great sense of humor. But commenting someone too personal not very good on anyone's part.

For all my life, I have been skinny. When I was young I was so embarrassed with myself. But now, I managed to et used to it. There is no way I will gain more weight or fats because I have a fast metabolism. My digestive system absorbs the energy quickly from the food that I eat. Instead of making the nutrients as fats, it makes it as a body hydrant. No one calls me or tease me "skinny". But still there are people who do not understand me.

It feels really bad when someone calls you fat or skinny. The best way to react is to tell the other person that you do not like it very politely and tell them not to repeat it again. If you avoid tell them now, they wont stop and that may hurt you more. The point is they may be calling you that just for fun but for you its hurting so you should just speak out once.

well first of all, it's not nice to call people fat. If you have a friend or loved one who you think is over weight there is a way of expressing your concerns without being mean or nasty about it. and calling someone fat is being mean and nasty. when you care for someone you don't talk to them that way!!!

Of course any derogatory comment in regards to my looks or the kind of person I am is hurtful but much depends on where it comes from. I usually just suck it up and don't react. What good does it do to react. It doesn't change how a person sees you whether they are right or wrong in their assessment. If it were my husband or boyfriend talking to me that way then I'd be more hurt. I would expect someone that loves me to express their "concerns" in a more respectful way. If it happened all the time then I'd probably re-think the relationship. Is he joking? If so then it is up to your friend to tell him that it isn't funny to her and that she is offended. Some people are thinking they are funny and not even aware that they are being hurtful. There is a local cop that non-stop picks on me for living in low-income housing and being "ghetto". I do get offended to a point but I've not told him how irritating I find it so I guess that'd be my fault. I do know he is kidding and if I spoke up, he'd feel bad and probably stop.

We all have a mirror don't we?...soooo if we are fat we know it! but no one have a right to tell some one they are fat! that is rude and uncalled for...in my life I have meat some very fat people and they are the very best there is! I know I Am a few kilos heavier but I dare any one pointing it out to me!

Fortunately, being called fat is not something I have had to contend with. Just the opposite has been true for me. I was always a thin child. i had more bantering to deal with because of that. children can be cruel to each other. Weight always seems to come into play and we are judged harshly for it.

If someone calls me fat, I'd say thank you to that person. No reason to get angry about it. I'm thankful to God that he provides me with such good food to eat and that I can still eat.

greetings! i don't get insulted since most of the time, it's true, LOL. but there are times when the intention is questionable, and that could be the only time i get offended. i value honestly a lot so it's ok, but when it's meant to humiliate you in front of a lot of people, then that's a different story.