Hard choice..lover over mother/father

hi sammy, althought you have the right to choose, i say listen to your parents. i would always trust their instinct. they will never want anything to make you unhappy so i know that when they do not agree to your choice of a girlfriend, they have seen something they know will make you unhappy in the future. get to know your girlfriend very well before you plunge into a more serious thing and regret later. ann

This is a very difficult thing, because there are dozens of factors and possibilities. Sometimes the parents could see something an inexperienced younger person can not. One girl I knew met a guy, and thought she had found the perfect husband. Her mother was against it, saying there was something fishy about him. Turns out the guy was married already, and was sleeping with yet another 'girl friend' besides her. Her mother was right, but she didn't listen. On the other hand, I have known parents that were upset over some unimportant aspect, like where they came from, or what job they did. In these situations, you must be careful to consider all the ramifications of marrying a spouse your parents disprove of, or if their parents disprove of you. One of the 10 biggest factors in marriage break down, is extended family problems. If you go into a marriage where you can't stand your father-in-law or Mother-in-law, you best get ready because they are not going away. And if your parents don't like the other, get ready because they may leave you, because of them. I know of one guy who literally had to have a 'family meeting' with his own parents. He brought his wife to their house, and sat her down in front of them, and said specifically "This is my wife. If you choose to not accept her, then you lose me and my kids. We'll disappear, and you will not see us again". And he intended to cut all communication with his parents if they didn't shape up, because it was ruining his relationship with his wife. So parental approval in marriage is important, and it does matter. You need to determine very specifically how you are going to handle it if you choose to marry against your families wishes.

In the first place, why do you need to choose? I mean, if we have to choose between our parents and our lover, then that there exist a problem. If our parents ask us to stay away from our lover, then that means they can see something wrong. With that situation, ask yourself why. When we are in love, we tend to see things in good shape in good condition always. We also tend to be in denial on things about our lover. On the other hand, if our lover makes us to choose between our parents and him, then you have to think twice also. Why? Is it reasonable for him to make us choose hum than our parents? Parents will remain as our parents, hence there is a blood tie that links us to them. Parents as I know are just protective to us. But they never let us choose without any reason at all.

I fought a lot with my mom because she didn't liked my boyfriend and now i really regret it.She was right about the guy.He was not right for me.Now i have understood family is most important for me

love to parents is your obligation as a child. They are your parents, they both love you, even though their own way. On their love you can live. Love to the lover is your obligation as a person who has expressed love. Although this love also an obligation, but obligation on this love must not exceed and beat your love to your parents. Why? because your love to your parents is a primary obligation you as a child ..

No one, as in no one can ever outbeat the uncondition love of a mother. One musnt choose but instead reflect and think why its happening that a choice must be made. But for me, its non-negotiable. Lovers may come and go but a mother will stay through thick and thin.She will be the very last one standing when everybody leaves.

No one wants to make such choice like this, unless either party force you do so. Well, our lives aren't perfect, and we can only do the best we can. Sometimes, you have choices harder than you don't have choice at all. That is my personal opinion on this subject.

I would always choose mother and father because they are the ones that raised me and gave life to me and that means a lot to me because I am in this world now and I truly love my parents and I would be able to provide for them in the future when they get old so that they could retire and so that they won't have to work and can just do what ever they want. I guess what I want to do is to return the favor because I owe them so much I mean they bought me clothes cooked for me did so many things. For me I would never choose my boyfriend over my parents because they are my family. Well peoples decisions are different, but I stick by mine by 100 percent that's for sure.

I think parents feel and know when such boyfriend/ girl friend will be suitable for you. That is why some parents are so opposed to their son's/ daughter's choice of a partner. If you understand that your parents then you must know that their decision is moved by love only and nothing else. Can you say the same about a girlfriend/ boyfriend? If so, then try to make your parents see your partner better.

My mother chose my grandparents when they said that if she didn't get married with a boy whom they chose, they would die! I don't know what can I do if my parents say the same! It's very hard. I believe that I would choose my parents. However, I'm very patient to persuade them about my boyfriend. We can have many boyfriend, but we can't have many parents. Right?

When we have to decide who knows best then it comes down to us. We are adults and we have our own mind, we can listen to what people say but in the end we make a decision on what we feel is right, no matter who we are in agreement with, we may be proven wrong in the decision we make but that is life. Better to make a decision based on what we feel is right rather than going with what somebody else says just because they may be right. Best not to choose between people and make our mind up ourselves.

You can't deny that your family is very important. But if there is such a situation where YOU feel and know that your partner is someone you can't be without, you will have to choose. Unless your so-called "important" family supports you completely, and respects your feelings. You are an individual. Your family is supposed to respect that. I'm pretty sure your parents have taken their own decisions when they were growing up, instead of pushing everything to their parents to decide things for them. A family is SUPPOSED to bring up their next generation, it's their duty if they have decided to have the next generation by their own choice (i.e., to have children, and that means YOU.) And about your partner, well, you know better about him/her. You have to decide whether you are making the right decision. Later, if you realize your choice was wrong you're going to have to suffer. Well, either way you have stand on your own feet after a while. You can't depend on your family forever. Good Luck :)

family will always be a family no matter what may happen. they will be there for you what ever it takes. so for me i would choose my parents because i won't be here on earth without them and because of them i am what i am now. A lover will just come in some point in our lives to make us feel happy but the happiness of family is different because there is no such more beautiful place than being with your family who will love you and care for you till the end.

greetings! i guess i'm lucky that i haven't really faced this kind of issue. but if it happens to me, i would also choose my family. there are things in life that you just can't replace.

i havent been in such a situation and i dont ever wish to be in it. but i think i would choose family, love fades away and family is your blood and you that will never change. but if my family wants me to stop loving my lover to love another one of their choice then i will choose my lover coz, my family will be wrong