Why do you let your kids sleep in your bed?
@shaggin (72141)
United States
January 21, 2011 11:27am CST
So many people I know let their kids sleep in bed with them. My daughter slept in her room until she was about 3 1/2 and we moved her into a different room so her baby brother would have the smaller room that was connected to our room. She was scared being in that room so she would wake up in the middle of the night screaming. I let her come in my bed because I felt guilty making her sleep in a room she was terrified to sleep in. Shes 6 1/2 and still in my bed lol.
I had reported my ex to child protective services and in doing that they came to my home. They said they had to see where the children slept. I showed her both their rooms but told her that my daughter sleeps in my bed and why. In my daughters room she had a toddler bed but it broke and since she wont sleep in her room all she has is a matress on the floor that I dont make her sleep on. I just left it in there to play on. The woman told me that I need to try to get my daughter to sleep in her own room and that by buying her a bed it might encourage her to sleep in there. She is right its worth a shot then maybe I can sleep alone in my bed for a change.
So tomorrow I will be taking the kids and buying a mattress and box spring set. We have a bed frame so luckily I dont have to buy that since money is really tight right now. I also need to get a matress pad that I can put on her bed under the sheets so in case she gets a nose bleed or throws up on the bed it will protect the matress better.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
hello shaggin,
You might not believed but...my 17 years old daughter sleeps in my bed (hahaha)
Yes,she has her own room,my kids has their own rooms.
But this young lady sleeps in my room and so with my youngest son who is 12 years old.
When my daughter turns 3,she sleeps separated alone in her room,that maybe the reason she missed sleeping with me.
I worked night shift,so i sleep during day time while kids are at school and i wake up in the afternoon to cook their dinner and still go back to bed by 7 pm or 8pm and my youngest son will come and sleeps with me,and wakes me around 9:30 pm so that i can prepare myself to go to work (my work starts 12 midnite)
During weekends which is my off days,my daughter and my youngest son sleeps with me,and i enjoy those moments...
thinking,once they had a family of their own,i don't have any chance to hug and have fun in bed with them anymore...so i enjoy each moment while i still have the chance.
have a great day.
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@shaggin (72141)
• United States
23 Jan 11
I can guarantee people will read this and think oh my gosh what is wrong with her. I seriously think what you wrote is so sweet. No matter how old my daughter is I dont think I will have a problem with her sleeping in my bed. Its a comfort for them and if theres room and she wants to sleep there why not its not hurting me any. The last part you wrote was so heart warming. You are very right once they are adults in their own homes I will never get to snuggle up next to them like I can now so I should enjoy it as much as I can now.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
hello again dear,
I realized so many things now that my kids are already grown ups.
When they're still little kids,i can kiss and hug them in public without any hassle.
But when they starts to grew older,there were changes.
that is why,when they asks if they can sleep with me in my room ...i was a bit surprise,but so happy with the idea.
Now i know how i missed those days when they are just toddlers,those times that i give them a bath...i change their clothes,i cuddle them and sing them lullaby ,not to mention the bedtime story.
There's a lot of things to missed once they've grown.
@craigy123456789 (1759)
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22 Jan 11
i have never and would never let my children sleep in my bed, it can be dangerous and also it forms to much of an attatchment if it haqppens often where the child would then never want to have there own bed or room, children adapt, yes they will scream and cause havvoc but the more you give into them the less chance you have of them developing. I hope that you soon get this sorted out. The more special you make your childs room and give them input into how they want the room the more they will go into it. good luck.
@shaggin (72141)
• United States
23 Jan 11
Well her toddler bed broke and I never got her another bed. If I got her another bed maybe that would encourage her to sleep in it. Its worth a shot. I am going to wait until the summer time though when I will be recieving child support so I will have a little extra money each month. Also the bed frame is in the back of my dads garage and with the weather being so cold I dont want to have him have to dig the frame out so I'll wait until its warmer. Her room is really neat though. If I was a kid I would love to sleep in it.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
21 Jan 11
My kids have never slept with us....beside crawling in on a lazy Sunday morning once in a while.
I think it's a bad habit to get into....and an even harder habit to break.
We have friends who bought a king size bed because both of their daughters sleep with them.
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@shaggin (72141)
• United States
22 Jan 11
LOL I actually had a friend who did the same thing. Her and especially her husband and pretty large and with their kids in the bed there was just no way they could all fit. I dont think I could even fit a king size matress into my house lol. I have a full size mattress that my daughter and I sleep on and then my son is still in his crib in the connecting room.
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
21 Jan 11
My daughter is 7 months old, and I usually insist that she sleep in her own bed. I enjoy cuddling her, but I have a hard time sleeping when she's in bed with my husband and me. But she is teething right now and sometimes she is in so much pain that she needs the reassurance of having us there to get some sleep. I'm willing to sacrifice a little of my own sleep for hers. She is good at sleeping in her own bed most of the time, so I think it's alright that she sometimes sleeps with us.
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@shaggin (72141)
• United States
21 Jan 11
7 months old is not bad to let her sleep in your bed. You just have to be careful you dont roll over on here or cover her with the blankets. I didnt let my kids sleep in my bed very often when they were little because I know they would want to stay in my bed all the time. I only let me son if he is sick and wants to lay in my bed with me. But thats mainly because of seeing how my daughter is I dont want to have two kids sleeping in my little bed with me all the time. Its only a full size matress so its hard for the three of us to be comfortable in the bed together.
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
21 Jan 11
I never let my daughter sleep in my bed when my husband was also in it. He is such a heavy sleeper that I was afraid he would roll over on her and squish her. Occassionally, I would sleep in the spare bedroom with her in the bed with me, but I did not sleep well, if at all.
She seems to be fine at 2 years old, in her own bed. in fact, last night she put herself to bed. I thought she had gone upstairs to destroy her bedroom again, but when I went to check, she had pushed up the side bar on her toddler bed, and had climbed in.
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@shaggin (72141)
• United States
21 Jan 11
My kids both go to bed each night at 7:30. My sons been sick so the last two nights he has fallen asleep on the couch at 6:30 and then at 7:30 I would take him up and put him in his crib.
My ex was a very heavy sleeper to but he never slept in bed with me so since there was room and my daugther was so scared to sleep in her new room I just let her come in my bed so she would feel safe but I've never been able to get her out of my room into her own since then.
@elysiamarie (147)
• Canada
21 Jan 11
This could be a touchy subject for some people. But I personally do not allow my step daughter in my bed, or will I ever allow one of my own.
When people have children, the lose everything that once was theirs. Just having my own bedroom is precious to me. It is a kid free zone and will remain one. With the exception of new born babies of course.
@shaggin (72141)
• United States
21 Jan 11
Well that is true. If you feel that your bedroom is like your only kid free space then I understand not wanting to share your bedroom with your children. I just feel if it helps my daughter sleep better why not let her sleep in my bed since I'm the only one who sleeps there anyway.
@tash01 (2030)
• Jamaica
21 Jan 11
Pleasant Good day to you,
Am a mother and i live Jamaica where i have a 4 year son who still in my bed some times.
From he was a baby sleeping my baby, he slept on my arm now he is 4 years old and he still sleep same place.if he sleep in his bed he wake up and come in my bed he just love to sleep in my arms.It's a natural thing for kids at that age group when they get bigger they are going to want their room.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
And, why not?
Here in the Philippines, it is a normal thing to let children sleep in their parents bed because some families do not have spare rooms for children or do not have beds at all that they all together sleep on the mattress at the floor.
My daughters age 3 years old and 10 months old sleep with me and my hubby in our bed.Since we are just renting a studio type house where there is no bedroom (we occupy one corner to make it our sleeping room) and the baby is scary enough to be left alone,we decided to have them sleep beside us. My 3 year old daughter couldn't sleep without me by her side. She was so used to sleeping beside me, I let her since she was so sickly when she was younger and I don't want to worry anymore if she's all right or not. I'm not sure if for how long but maybe, when she's old enough to be on her own, she will have a bed and room of her own, too.
Here in the Philippines, it is a normal thing to let children sleep in their parents bed because some families do not have spare rooms for children or do not have beds at all that they all together sleep on the mattress at the floor.
My daughters age 3 years old and 10 months old sleep with me and my hubby in our bed.Since we are just renting a studio type house where there is no bedroom (we occupy one corner to make it our sleeping room) and the baby is scary enough to be left alone,we decided to have them sleep beside us. My 3 year old daughter couldn't sleep without me by her side. She was so used to sleeping beside me, I let her since she was so sickly when she was younger and I don't want to worry anymore if she's all right or not. I'm not sure if for how long but maybe, when she's old enough to be on her own, she will have a bed and room of her own, too.@shaggin (72141)
• United States
21 Jan 11
In the United States boys and girls have to have seperate bedrooms they cannot share bedrooms. I have different bedrooms for each child but my daughter is just so scared to sleep in her room so I let her sleep in my bed. I've tried so many times to get her to sleep in there but she just wakes up crying all through the night and doesnt get good sleep so I'd rather let her be in my room where she will feel safe.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
22 Jan 11
When my children were younger they were allowed to sleep in our bed. My late husband and i did not mind this. If it was comforting to the child, it was also comforting to us. By school age, they wanted to sleep in their own beds. that was all right too.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
22 Jan 11
There was a time when my son would sleep walk to our room and hurt himself. His room is across the hall, and sometimes we would have stuff on the hallway. Like the laundry hamper as washer and dryer is in the middle of the hallway.
He would wake up in the middle of the night and stumble on tha hamper and hit his head on the wall. After this happening a few times, and hitting his head even without the hamper, I let him sleep on the bed.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
MY family and I have slept in a really big bed for almost 10 years. 
My 2 daughters have been sleeping in the same bed as my wife and I. They just had their own room and bed when they were 11 and 12 years old. My older daughter was ecstatic at having her own room but my younger one felt scared at first- but as time went on she began to love her room to. Just give them time.
My 2 daughters have been sleeping in the same bed as my wife and I. They just had their own room and bed when they were 11 and 12 years old. My older daughter was ecstatic at having her own room but my younger one felt scared at first- but as time went on she began to love her room to. Just give them time.1 person likes this
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
21 Jan 11
Hi dear,
I got 2 children with age of 14 (boy and girl (12). Now is the fun. We all are sleeping together!! Ever since, they born we all had the habit of sleeping all on the same bed and the same habit we follow. Since last 14 years, my children are with me and still we didn't had a feeling to give them separate bed or separate rooms. Even though they had their own, while sleeping, all will come together and I need my children both the sides. I like it and this is just only because of my love towards them. May be a year or more, then they will demand for their own freedom. Till then, we all 4 are on the same bed.
Thank-s
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@pastigger (612)
• United States
21 Jan 11
My husband and I decided that our daughter would sleep in her own room when she came home from the hospital. She was 11 weeks early and it took 11 weeks for her to come home. From day one she slept in her own room and her own bed. On the weekends she usually comes in with us and watches a show until we get up. I know good parenting there but it is usually just one show that is on the dvr as I don't let her watch live tv as I don't approve of all the shows. It wasn't until she got a regular bed last year that she started sleeping with us sometimes. She is three now it is only if she is sick and having trouble sleeping or if she has a bad dream. She has never had a problem of sleeping in her own bed and I sleep better with her in her own bed. If she is in our bed I don't get much rest at all as I need to know where she is at. I am lucky in the fact that if she kicks anyone it is usually Daddy!! I have know other couples that want there bed back and because they let their children sleep with them they won't sleep in their own rooms now and they are miserable. I guess if it work for you that is fine. But I really need my own space when I sleep. I am not a suggley kind of person when it comes to sleeping.
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@verybusymom (4)
• United States
21 Jan 11
I dont see why she told you she has to be in her own bed. It is your choice,not theirs. Mine slept with me as babies,i nursed so it was easy to nurse in the middle of the night. I liked having them in bed with me. My now 11yo went into her own room at 18months,my now 9yo slept with me till 2yo and my now 6yo slept with me till 4yo. She was a snuggle bug. No matter how snuggled we made it was not the same. It did not bother me that was in bed with me. We got her to sleep with her older first,then put her bed into big sis room,moved in that bed. Now at the age of 6yo,she is in her own room. She on occasion climbs in bed with me,usually when she is sick and snuggles with me. I really loved sleeping with my girls.
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@shaggin (72141)
• United States
21 Jan 11
She didnt say for sure that I have to get her out of my bed but I dont think that she liked that my daughter was still sleeping in my bed. She probably thought it looked bad that all my daughter had as far as a bed goes is a matress on the floor lol. She used to have a toddler bed but it broke and since she wont sleep in her room anyway I havent bothered to spend the money on a new bed.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Feb 11
I've actually never been a parent that has allowed my children to sleep in the bed with me. There are a variety of reasons for this. The main reason that I never let them sleep in our bed is because I didn't want to start bad habits with them while they were young. In addition to that, I haven't let them sleep in my bed because of the fact that I have a bad back and if I were to allow them into my bed it would make me crowded when I was sleeping.
@shaggin (72141)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Well that makes sense. My sons in his crib but my daughter is up sleeping in my bed as usual. My bed is only a full size so it fits my daughter and I just fine but on the nights when my son is really scared or sick and refuses to sleep in his crib I am so crowded in the bed that I am so sore the next day. Its awful.
