My student asked me out!

Hi there Lei, In your situation right now, I don't think it's fine going out with your student without creating a notion of you two might be having affair. You know the rules. If your reputation as a teacher and model to your students, turn him down and move on. However, love sometimes can be our tough enemy. Well if you love him and loves you back, TALK! One must willing to sacrifice if you wanna pursue and once and for all settle the things between the two of you. If love is there, it's either you or him should transfer for your own sake.

Most of responses you received here are suggesting to decline the offer.I clearly see their point but lets see a different view of this...If you are both single and not committed to someone else that whatever be the outcome of your sort of rekindling there's nobody will get hurt then why not.? He is not anymore a high school student.He might be professional already only decided to take another course so the maturity is already present on both of you.If I were you Ill go for it.It was just the uniforms you were wearing is the barrier I see. The bottom line, if you both knew you are not committed in a relationship with other people and you are both free to renew what was started between you years ago then go Girl. But yes if you ended up together just dont mix business into your personal life.Meaning be fair in giving him the grade he deserved in your subject.lol

Hi Lei! I have heard lots of stories that is somewhat similar to the story that you have. In my personal opinion, I would rather decline to the request that you would go out together. It's not because that you don't want to go out with him, but the fact still remains that you are the teacher and he is the student. You need to be professional in everything you do, especially that you are a clinical instructor. However, the decision still lies on you. I pray that you will be guided by the holy spirit.

You have the right love at the wrong time. The situation you're both in won't work if you both want to get into a relationship. You're other students will question your credibility even their respect. People will talk behind your back and even the school may do something about it. If you like the guy I think you should wait until he's no longer your student, he could transfer to another class perhaps.

Are you able to list down what you expect IF you are to meet him? Do you hope to rekindle the relationship? If so, does your school have any policy on such matters? What if it were to cost you your job? I know some schools take a very strong and strict view on this, even at adult education level. It is interesting your discussion topic already classify him as "student" only, so in your mind is that all you see in him now. Do you want to talk even about the past without an understanding of what you want out of the talk? There is no right or wrong answers, just ask yourself this five times: why? why? why? why? why?

you should talk to him for the clarifications so that it will be settle and that should not be a date of course, because you are professor right? and there is no other conversation again like that. just regardless if its about the lessons and it should be done inside the room.

It will never be good to see such since if you consider yourself a professional, you should know where to draw the line between a student and teacher relationship. I was once an Instructress in College too where most of my students are also doing the same, like giving me flowers and such. But just be professional and know your stand since it will never be good to see such and you will be bias also. A good teacher is always concern about how his/her students learn and perform great in school. Keep your personal affairs private and please as much as possible, do not date your student. Does the academe prohibit such? because for us it is strictly prohibited and you will be kicked out of the school if there is such thing.

Sure. Just don't let your feelings for him judge the way you evaluate him. The professors always asked me out! I dated one of them.

hello, You said,the situation is now different,so i sense that any of you is not free anymore. If am i right,then,i advise not to accept the proposal. You can tell him directly that there is nothing to talk about. But if both are free,then go. The final decision is still yours. WELCOME TO MYLOT and have a great weekend

If he's not your student then there's nothing wrong with it but he is. Accepting his invitations would raise a lot of eyebrows, even your being objective as a teacher will be questioned. If you both want to pursue the relationship then it's best that he transfer to another class or wait until the semester is over this way people won't meddle in your affairs.

Well i think you should do what your heart tells you to do. If you are asking for advice then i would say that if you still like him then there's no problem in proceeding with him but make sure that you are ready to face the consequences and be careful with him so that he doesn't mess up your job! Cheers!

Hello maam, I think you should decline the offer to maintain the C.I--Students relationship. I don't want to judge but hopefully your student won't use you to make him pass the subject. I know it is outside of the campus but students nowadays are very wise and some of them use there relationship(FRIENDSHIP towards the instructor) to pass the subject... Please maintain the C.I--Student relationship

Dear Lei110686 I think forgiveness is the best feature of human nature. you must forgive him and should give a new chance to your relation. May be that student can prove something. So i would like to suggest you to forgive only. Thanks

If you go out as friends, I see NO harm in this at all. As long as he is not a minor.

personally I don't think it's wise to mix professional with personal life but that's just me

I would strongly advise you decline as what happens if the date and or possible furthering of a relationship does not work out. How awkward then to teach and or the student to be attentive in class. My thinking is that one should never mix business with pleasure, but ultimately it is your decision. I see you are very new to myLot so a welcome aboard to you.

hello, Sorry, but I think you should decline it because he is your student , and maybe you know that student and professor are not allow to have a relationship. I mean not to have a relationship. In your situation you must understand it. and its been 6 years you must not accept it at all. erase! erase! okay, because some people will judge you and it is impossible that the school wont know about it. GOOD LUCK.