can you still give an advice????
By asliah
@asliah (11137)
Philippines
January 22, 2011 9:00am CST
when i am broken hearted,of course it will reflect to me,the way i think, to move, to talk and even in my face.
so when someone ask me for giving an advice about their problem especially in love problems,i couldn't give any advice or thoughts.because my mind is completely ruined by my hurt feelings.
even i tried but my mind is scruffy and really hard to think.
how about you, can you still give an advice to someone if you are broken hearted?
what is the most affected when you are broken hearted aside from your heart..?
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14 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
22 Jan 11
You know I am great about giving advice simply because I have lived a life. Trouble is that I am not good about taking my own advice.
I think that the reason why I can put forth great advice is because I emotionally attach to the circumstance and somehow hope that I too can experience the same effect from my own advice.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
23 Jan 11
Hello annie_ako and welcome to myLot.
Same for me as well.
@annie_ako (102)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
:D
its really funny.. hehe
the better you throw advices, the lesser you advice yourself..
hahaha :)
how come? :D
@annie_ako (102)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
yeah!!
i like giving advices too..but when it comes to my own problem..so hard to give myself an advice.. LOL! :)
@Kikotay (74)
• Malaysia
22 Jan 11
Consequences of me being broken hearted can go two ways. I could either be demotivated to do anything else but sit in a corner, feeling sorry for myself, or I can be extra motivated to do something, anything.
I find that helping other people takes my mind off things. I like to give people advice, help them get out of their sadness. So I guess giving advice is more of a happy and useful thing for me to do during when I'm broken hearted. I am not really sure if it'll affect the quality of the advice I give though.
@annie_ako (102)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
but when you are heart broken, most of your mind don't really work..i mean you can't even think rightfully..so how can you give advices to someone though you are in pain also?hmp..
@Kikotay (74)
• Malaysia
26 Jan 11
I think that really depends on the individual. If you're a person who can put your own emotional matters aside and help other people, then that's good. If not, then it's better not to give advices.
There are people who make profession out of this. Counselors, Psychologists... they have to put their own personal matters aside so that they can help their clients.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
24 Jan 11
Time is the greatest healer friend, wait, your wound will heal up, you can advise others in love matters too.
Thank you so much for sharing your feelings.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
Cheers have a lucky day ahead.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
23 Jan 11
Hi dear,
In most of times we say our experiences and more more about our imaginations. In my case, I comes with my imagination and experience mixed. Many people come with their comments are not form their real experience, but from the way they feel only. Here also, you may be hurt. But when you talk about our opinion, it may be from our mind and not necessary that your experience.
So what we have a concept on love problems or whatever it is, an open opinion is always advisable and it can mostly good for others also. If it is backed up with your thoughts and experience well and good. The result may be fair or not, but the concept can be of importance. So, our comment is always having value from your own point of view and it is always welcome, may be it is good or bad or fair or not.
Thank-s
@Jacobus1919 (1683)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
If I was broken hearted? It would really hard to give advice. Thinking of another person's problem is hard specially if you have something to worry about. In my opinion, before giving advice, it would be best to fix your problem first.
@rammohan101 (23)
•
24 Jan 11
No one will accept free advice, i think you agree with me. At times when we are hurt from within, we will be in a situation where we our self require good advice from others ( Parents or Friends), so better don't advice to others when you are in a broken hearted situation.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Jan 11
My mind, my pride, my future, everything was affected when my heart was broken! There was a movie where a girl who experience war in her life, but pretty much fell apart when her heart was broken more. I wouldn't give advice when I am not healthy.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
If I have issues I don't give advice, I know I won't be able to anyway. I deal with my own problems before meddling with another's. When I'm in deep sh!t, I wouldn't be able to think rationally. Even my own decisions would be banged up so I avoid giving advices.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
22 Jan 11
C my friend.
Our proble is our personal.
suppose asliah was betrayed by some one means, that is a problem limited to you.
Rameshchow(its me) is failed in love means that is limited to me.
The world has not stopped because of our problem(already you know).
We have to make our heart like rock, and have to glow others heart.
I love the habit of caring about others, i leave some valuable time to listen my friends(not close friends, like you also, sorry sorry u also my close friend).
hahahah../
have a nice day.
@dineshprayagmishra (14)
• India
22 Jan 11
First of all, I do not understand how people says that they are broken hearted. Those days has gone, one should be so practical and do not waste their valuable time in such silly things which are outdated today. Question of giving advice does not arise for a simple reason that i don't wish you waste my time instead.Things like "Broken Heart" is looks good only in novels and cinema and not in personal life rather to say in practical life.It's nothing and stands nowhere.
@Lance26 (956)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
Yes I can. Always in control of myself despite of any problems. Even though I have my own, I still want to hear my friends and relatives' sentiments and somehow advice and help them in anyway possible. When I give advices, there's this feeling that makes me happy and delightful especially when the advices are really working for them.
@kameleon100 (89)
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22 Jan 11
There nothing wrong in giving advice while you yourself is suffering. You can always base you advice based on your experience.
@yhanie (188)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
it really is hard having a heartbreak,, and for that i know i wont be able to give some advice to friends who asks for some,especially when it is about love,, i cant even talk to someone about love when im heartbroken,,
@annie_ako (102)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
well, just like what you felt..
being heart broken, you will really hard of giving such advices 'coz you are pre-occupied by the things happened..you are asking yourself why did this happen,what will be the outcome, how come you feel this dumb thing..hmp..
so hard to think..
honestly, when you are heart broken your mind really effected..as what you have said you totally don't think the right thing..even the way you move..