do people change after they marry the one they've loved

When people first fall in love, they see each others flaws as endearing. Those same qualities can and do get on their nerves as the blush of blind love becomes a daily event. Unless you fell in love and got married in just a few days, you have already seen the basic qualities that will drive you crazy when you are not caught up in the passion of the moment. No, people don't really change because of marriage or any relationship. What you see is what you get. Remember, they have been using those behaviors for some time and they are successful with them. If you marry someone thinking you are going to change them, you will not. Sometimes people want to change and make an effort to be different, but it must come from them and without asking. The person must want to be different. If you have to ask for the person to change, what is in it for them? If you believe being with you is enough, once the initial passion has past, it wouldn't be. The other person will distance themself from you either by taking you for granted or just not being around. People are what they are because of where they came from, how they grew up, and the emotional experiences they have had. To change 20+ years of experience just doesn't happen because of falling in love. Lovers show their best qualities to each other. When love because a committment and a daily experience, all the baggage comes out to protect the psyche.

Hi Francis, People change constantly whether they marry or not. There is no getting around it that when a couple lives together or gets married that their relationship will change over time. If they don't both put the effort into keeping the relationship strong then eventually they will grow apart. It's true that it does take some effort to keep love alive.

I guess people change after getting married. When you're with someone everyday you'll unconsciously take that someone for granted like your siblings, or roommates, or friends. You hangout with them all too often that you'll think Yeah, they're always there anyway. Although it's just right to keep things spicy when you're married, it's important to take care of your wife or the relationship will suffer.

Well, there are others who do change after being married. I do not know what is the main reason but maybe, they realize that they were not prepared for the big change they will have in their lives as married person. And maybe, they missed the things they do when they were still single.

Some do. Some people change, married or not. Change is expected also when the guys put their best foot forward during the courtship phase and gals act in a calculated manner just to impress. These couples only discover a lot of interesting things about each other after they tie the not. I just have to share this joke. Husband to Wife on their first night together Husband: Hun, do you really love me? Wife: Yes, I do. Why do you ask? Husband: I have a confession to make. My upper set of teeth are fake. Wife: Oh, God! That IS fine! Now I can take off my artificial eye.

Of course, it's really true, I have the experience. And of course in marriage we look at different point of view, we except more because we thought we've gave more. A strong relationship will prove that a married couple will pass those exams of live, and finally (maybe after several years) had everything running smoothly even as human they keep changing. And I can say this because this is what I feel in my marriage. Good day.

I think it's natural to reach a stage that is more unpleasant than early marriage. The truth is that people do change a little bit over time and they may get along less with their spouse. But the trick is you have to learn about the changes going on between the two of you. It's also important to try and make time for that person to keep your relationship alive. Half of the fighting that goes on in marriage isn't really about what's being argued about. It's usually some bitterness from another time. That's why communication is key. It's also important to try and genuinely be romantic and kind to your spouse, if you disagree don't yell just talk.

It is hard to tell from person to person. Every couple have different story to tell. some people change, some people might not. So, from my own personal opinion, you are who you are, and if you know that person long enough, you should know him/her better, even after married. If he/she changes, there is a red light warning you should consult a counselor.

I think so. For me He got worse than what he was before we got married.