What if your significant other said they want to get a motorcycle?

If the one i love wanted to get a motorcycle., I would support his decision. It wouldn;t be the thrill ride for me, but i would never take that joy away from the one I love. If it would be what he wanted, I would be happy for him. in time i might even ride along.

Thats why I hate relationships. Let the man do what he wants, or if not let him alone. I am a man and I promised myself to not get into a solid relationship. I had many women, all of them where scared of me because i am a long run motorcycle driver. I like to be free and see the world. Having a woman near me prevents me to be myself. i have women motorcyclists in the club, but man they think a lot different than usual women. i do know why, maybe because we belong to the same pack. Put ourself a question. If tomorrow will begin a war and your man will be needed to serve his country you will stop him? Really? What you gonna do? Break his legs to not go to war to help the other people? You are just a little bit selfish. I live in Romania when we have worse traffic and roads than America. If you could see our roads you would definitely let your boyfriend to take the exam and the motorcycle, because he is safe there. Here is like in Mad Max on the streets.

Well considering you live in California and you don't have any snow I think its perfectly safe to ride a motorcycle there. How could it possibly be any more dangerous than anywhere else in the US? Just take the motorcycle course with him and you'll both be safe. My aunt and uncle are from Canada and they ride their bike all over the US. If helmets aren't mandatory there then you should wear one.

I would definitely stop him. Here in the Philippines, motorcycles are such an in thing these days, the problem is, those who ride motorcycles usually doesn't follow the law, and they just ride along like they own the road. The sad thing is every single day, there is an motorcycle accident shown in the evening news, but the drivers just doesn't learn their lesson. I will never make my boyfriend ride a motorcycle, it's just too unsafe specially in the city roads.

I am in a similar situation now.My boyfriend has just got a job and he is very excited that he can now drive a bike of his own.He wants to buy it as soon as possible.So far he had been taking small rides borrowing his friend's or brother's bike.I can say that I am worried by the fact that the traffic is too bad here and as you said accidents with a motorcycle leaves very few chances.But then I cannot stop him.Rather I don't want to say anything negative.All I can do is to keep telling him to drive slow and be alert when on the road.Rest is up to God.

hi, i will not let him because it will only the cause of my nervous every time he drive that, because motorcycle now is the most prone of accidents.

If my partner wanted a motorbike I don't think I would stop him. Where we live it is pretty safe as far a traffic goes, but I would still worry and just ensure that he wore protective gear.

I wouldn't let him... I'd be too worried about it.

Depends. Significant other, no. You are either married, or you are not. If you are not married, you have no say in his life whatsoever. You may think you do, but he'll think otherwise. When he finds you too intrusive, you'll be ditched. So if it was simply a 'significant other', then no I wouldn't say anything, because it's not my place. Now if I was married to them, then that is a little different. First I would want to know we had the money to safely buy the toy, which is what a motorcycle is. It's a toy. If we have tons of debt, and no money to buy a toy, then we don't buy a toy. You don't risk the fiscal safety of the family over a toy. If we did have the money (cash in the bank, not a credit card with 30% interest), then it would be time for a heart to heart. This is, me and them, alone, together, eye to eye, and talk it over, ring on the finger, we're in this together, let's hash it out. Sometimes, people need something that lets them let the stress out. Sometimes guys need an outlet. Something that makes them feel alive. You can't trap someone down under the chains of 'you might get hurt'. Risk is part of life. You can die driving to work. You can die getting up in the morning. And when you take everything away from someone, you risk making them desperate for an escape from you. That's a bad plan. This is why the ring on the finger is so important. It means *we* will find a way through. Doesn't mean you let him go hog wild, but it does mean you might have to let him live a little. So the short answer is, we'd (me and my wife), would have to work it out.

Why would you want to stop him, scarred of the accidents? Accidents would definitely happen if you go by walk. May your BF wanted to take you for a ride in his bike to show himself off to you. If he is able to control himself and has good road judgement, no need to worry. Let him get the driving licence and buy a bike. Wish you both a safe riding and enjoyment.

I don't understand why you are saying if you should 'let him', if he wants would he should be able to go out and get one. As well as being in a relationship with you he is an individual and should be able to get the things he wants just like you should be able to get the things you want. I do understand your concerns, but you could just tell him how it would make you feel, without causing an argument, and then tell him if he really wants one then he should get one but you really would be worried about him.

I want a motorcycle for myself sooo much... and as I'm typing this I'm looking out on the window and it's snowing like crazy. Not much use for a motorcycle here. Sigh. But I'm sure it's better in California, where you can use it all year round. Maybe if you made some tough rules about this, you'd feel better and keep your boyfriend safe at the same time? Like convince him to take three times more learning hours than needed, and getting the safest model available? Motorcycles are indeed not very safe, but a lot depends on the driver.

well here in the philippines, roads are jammed with motorcycles,its popularity had become a national havoc, everyday news are packed with significant loss of lives due to this two wheeled nuisance....but people seem not to get the hang of it and still many want one. my father already owned one, he already had it for like 6 years now, and in those years it had been a trouble maker, maintenance, registration, and etc..my father was not exempted from those who face accidents...but hey hes still in one peace and still have the gut to ride it.. motorcycles are handy easy to maneuver though and cost efficient when it comes to fuel, the point is when that significant others want a motorcyle you initially have to stop them, its a quick non consenting reaction, but giving the fact that its a personal responsibility to own one, i think for me, just let him as long as he knows what risks he is facing..

i've had the same discussion with my husband back when we we're still sweethearts. good thing that up until now we still don't have the budget for it. it doesn't mean that i am against him getting a bike. i trust his driving with my whole life. it's the other drivers on the road i'm little concern about. but as long as he wears his helmet and other riding gears, obey the traffic rules, get the bike with the lowest cc., drives safely and defensively and he has the extra money to buy it then it's ok by me.

If your bf has got good road manners, safe driving sense, and good judgement, no need to worry. Let him buy the bike and show himself off to you by giving you a ride around the city. Wish you both safe riding and enjoyment.