How Do You Judge Someone?
@frontvisions101 (16043)
Philippines
January 22, 2011 8:32pm CST
I know a group of ignorant people who judge others by how they look, I'm sure of that. They see someone and they quickly assume whatever comes to mind. To put it shortly, they're superficial. I've met other people who are superficial but they just go as far and they're reasonable not compared to this group I'm talking about.
Normally, I judge others too easily but I also try to talk to them and prove myself wrong because most of the time people are wrong when they judge. I remember someone saying to me "A pond could look still but you'll never know what's happening deep down. You can't judge it just by looking closely or putting your hand in it. You'll only know what's really happening down there if you submerge your head in it and observe." Since the day that I've proven this to be true, I've always followed it. Whenever I see someone that looks odd or off I just keep my opinion of that person to myself and try to look into what is really going on inside that pond. I've met seemingly quiet and righteous person but turned out to be snakes, or loud and cocky but was actually shy. You'll never know what's really behind that person.
How about you? How do you judge others?
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
23 Jan 11
I judge people by their character, how they treat those who are weaker than them and how they deal with every day life, whether they are honest or live a life of being dishonest.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
That's a valuable trait. Most people nowadays don't judge by their character, especially some that I know. 
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
23 Jan 11
It's a trait that will keep one from getting taken advantage of, that's for sure..I learned in my life that it really is not about the outside and looking good, but the inside and if the heart is good or not..
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
Very true. It sucks though that there are some who just judge people by their looks. I'm actually just waiting for karma to kick in.
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@veejay19 (3589)
• India
23 Jan 11
Every single person on Earth is differnt,has different nature, different traits etc. No man is equal to the other of his species and therefore trying to judge a person is quite difficult. One should not judge others because nobody knows what goes on in the mind of the next person.One should also not judge a person only by his looks or personality but should refrain from judging as far as possible. Personally i never judge anybody because i know that nobody is perfect and nor am i. I would not like others to judge me and vice versa.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
Yep, don't do unto others what you don't want to happen to yourself. Some people really just don't know that. I'm sure karma will kick in pretty soon.
@phr4nkr4wk5 (167)
• United States
27 Jan 11
I think your method of judging (or non-judging?) is GREAT. I think that everyone judges. Whether it's a lot or a little, I think that it's just a natural human instinct to judge the next guy that's walking in front of you. It's just.... in us, I guess. However, I think what really matters is how much of that judging you actually let get to your head. You see someone walk past you with tattoos all over their skin, hair in some unusual style, maybe with "too much" makeup on their face, wearing strange clothes... do you make some judgments in your head and then act on them by always avoiding them? Or do you make some judgments (human nature) and then walk up and say hello? I know I judge :\... but I try to keep it to a minimum, and I try not to let it influence my decisions. That's what I think :)
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Yep, but we shouldn't really judge anybody no matter what circumstances are. I've been judged way too wrongly recently and it doesn't feel right at all. I felt like I wanna rip their hearts out and feed them to lions.
I didn't really know what I did but it was wrong what they did and they aren't even sorry about it. Couple of birdbrains.
I didn't really know what I did but it was wrong what they did and they aren't even sorry about it. Couple of birdbrains.@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Yep. Figured if I said Don't judge others would make me sound righteous, which I'm often not.
I'd rather state my mistakes and then state how I solve them instead of stating something, like you've said, unrealistic.
I'd rather state my mistakes and then state how I solve them instead of stating something, like you've said, unrealistic.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
I can't just let it go like that. You know me. I push back if I have to especially if I'm not doing anything and I'm getting dissed. It's my way of living, it's the JD way. 
I push back if I have to especially if I'm not doing anything and I'm getting dissed. It's my way of living, it's the JD way. 
@mysticalecstasy (472)
• Pakistan
23 Jan 11
Such an awful term judging people but unfortunately knowingly or unknowingly we are guilty of the crime!! The question is whether it really is a crime! Is it so unfair to judge someone so that you or the person concerned can be saved from unnecessary suffering!! Suffering which could easily have been avoided had one approached the situation a little more cautiously!!No point jumping in well to find out its depth!! Or walking through mud to realize one does get dirty!! Some things should be judged by their looks!!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
I highly disagree. No body should judge others. Maybe you're happy to do it but no body likes to be judged. I may judge you as someone who is ignorant or selfish but you wouldn't like it, right? or are you?
@mysticalecstasy (472)
• Pakistan
23 Jan 11
well i might not like it but it that is your opinion and i definitely won't draw swords against you!! Its your opinion of me and i totally accept that!! But for me there will always be certain situation which i would avoid on face value!!!
@annie_ako (102)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
hmp..
i judge someone by looking at them and by how they act..
but i also keep it to myself until i prove it true..
there's a saying, "Dont judge the book by its cover"..
and before judging someone else, try to look at yourself to the mirror.. :)
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
Yup, you're right but it's still wrong to judge. I just asked the question because I know a lot of people do judge, even me.
@annie_ako (102)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
yeah!right..
it's really not good to judge 'coz the way you're judging a person is also the way they judged you too.. :)
its just like a mirror, refracting what you've done.. :)
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
23 Jan 11
i dont judge for who or what they are. nor do i judge anyone by what they have or dont have. i judge people how the respect others
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
As the saying goes, "judge and you will also be judged". I've done a nasty thing recently because I he judged me wrongly. I wasn't proud of it but I'm also not sorry because of it.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
23 Jan 11
I do my best not to judge other people. I am not happy when other people judge me. Judgments are not always true of the people that we are. We should learn to accept each other as we are and not judge each other.@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
True. So why do you think some people still judge others quickly even though they know it's always wrong? or are they that dumb??
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
26 Jan 11
I judge them over an extended period of time. I have just lived too much and have had too many experiences to know that you cannot judge a book by its cover. Or even by the first couple of chapters. I think that there are many people who try and act on their best behavior to make a good first impression but slowly revert to their true selves over an extended period of time.
I think that you can only learn so much from a person with their early interactions with you. You might get a general idea but many people tend to be rather guarded at first. Then you'll know. So I give a chance for people to either make a favorable impression or give them enough rope to hang themselves. Still at first, its hard to tell and I know that its hard to go on anything that you've heard.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
When somebody tells me something about someone I don't take his/her word for it. I try to archive that thought until proven right or wrong. And just for the record, I stay away from the person who told me that because I know that he/she can also gossip about me. This last statement is obviously a judgement but I've proven it to be true many times over.
@blue_servant (205)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
I totally agree with the passage. It's just like saying, "you'll never know how it feels, until you are in his/her shoe. Many times, I judge people by appearance and by status. Later on, I realized that every person has its own unique personality, and in every person is a story to tell and to experience. When I learned all of these, my judgments changed. Now, I immerse myself with the people I meet, understand their situation and relate with their journeys.. and from that experience, i drew my judgments. It feels good. It feels right.
judge others like you were the others.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Your welcome. My uncle told this to me. He's a very wise person and most of what he speaks of is based from his experiences.
@Milkypink26 (324)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
It is right that Jesus said that we should not judge others.
However, sometimes we tend to judge people. I might be guilty as well but I keep it to myself. We should always try to look other way around and might be able to see a different view or perhaps a better view of that person.
I remember a office colleague who just got into the team and since she started I don't like the way she speak towards other people, the way she thinks that she is always right and such. I decided not to speak to her but I tried to observe other things that she does. She tried to mingle to the team even if she's a bit outcast but time goes by, I was able to understand her and know her better. She might be off sometimes but she's a good friend I can say. :)
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Sometimes when a person is new to a group she'll try to get their attention just to feel that they're in or something.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
No one can judge another at all. No matter how long you've been living under their shadow or wearing their shoes, you're still not the same person. 
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
23 Jan 11
Judge not, that ye be not judged! Who are we to judge another? Where do we get this awesome authority? Only Government can give this authority, and only those learned enough to accept it, are chosen. All people are different and none are as they appear. Deep water runs still!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
Very well said. But those people have their heads way up their @sses that they couldn't realize what they're doing.
@deciever903 (35)
• South Korea
23 Jan 11
I tend to judge them by how they speak.
Sharp, loose, etc.
Some have really unpleasant voices.
*Shiver*
@dellmore (84)
• United States
23 Jan 11
I only judge people if I've been in there situation otherwise it's not fair at all. A quote from one of my favorite books is " you can't judge a man until you have walked two moons in his moccasins." - Sharon Creech.
But if i am in a situation where i feel like I can judge someone I judge them based on the situation we've both been through, whether or not what they did is appropriate for the situation. Whether thought was put into that decision as well. As well as if they understand the consequences based on their decision.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
That's right. You can't judge people if you don't know where they've been or what they've experienced in the past. You can't just judge someone without completely knowing them. That's just unfair.
