Love marriage or Arrange marriage !!!!!! Which is better?

hi,raj7shot. i decided love marriage after divorce of arranged marriage. It was normal,content about money, house, ex was older than me when before my life. Now i got a new guy with love marriage who is young he makes my life is exciting. My answer is love is better than arranged for me. ;)

Growing up the only time I'd heard anything about arranged marriages was on the tv. And I always thought how tragic that was. The idea of marrying a total stranger or some one you'd been promised to with out your consent. For the past 12 years now though I have been working at a hotel ran by a lovely Indian couple whose marriage was sort of arranged. They met 48 hours prior to the wedding. I've seen so many people spend years in love, get married then realize they had nothing to talk about, because they already knew each other inside out prior to the nuptuals. Imagine marrying someone that you could spend years getting to know and growing to love. Not sure what the divorce rate on arranged marriages are exactly but I know they're significantly lower than traditional marriages.

I really want to marry the person I love than to marry someone which was chosen by my family. Nowadays I'm not really sure if arrange marriage still exist in middle class families. For sure it still exist on people who are in the high society most especially the royal families. Although there are some arrange marriages that last and they learn to love each other as the passing years. But it is still different from marrying the one you love. Beside marriage is a lifetime commitment and a once in a lifetime achievement.

I think each one is good in its place. Each of the types has advantages and disadvantages. In love marriages, they say, you get opportunity to understand your partner. But it essentially lacks the excitement and significantly reduces the element of curiosity. Curiosity is preserved in case of arranged marriages. However there is a great chance of failure as the partners hardly get any time to know each other properly. Failure in marriage doesn't really depend on how we arrange it. It rather depends on individual perception of reality. I recently published an article http://beyondjane.com/relationships/friendship/how-to-choose-right-partner/ on How to choose the right partner. In this article I argued that most of the failures in marriages are results of our failures in identifying the right person. We often go ahead without any clear objective. Why do you want to get married? Ask this to any single individual and you will find that he is confused. Even if we have a clear motivation for getting married, we often either overestimate or underestimate our partners. Our marriages fail because of our inability to take our partner they way he/she is. We have a high expectations and we demand others to fulfill them. Impatience and intolerance often lead to failure in marriage. So a successful marriage doesn't have to be either love marriage or arranged marriage. Both can be succeed and both can fail depending on the personality types of the individuals involved.

It's a shame that there still exists arrange marriages in the world like the 19th century. I think that, as a civilization, humans have prospered so much, but some things of the dark age are still surprising me. Arrange marriages exist for a reason, and is to threat the woman as a thing and not as a person, a thing that can be sold for the highest price to the parents convenience, or even for a "religious" reason. I see this very humillating for them. One of the great thing we won over the years was the FREEDOM, the freedom to choose whom to marry, why and when. Marriage is an act of love (at least I think that, others use only for their own profit), being boyfriends is great but marring is an even greater step and should be taken seriously, but in any case, it's the sole decisition of the partners who decide what to do with their lives, not in any way their parents.

It depends on the purpose of marrying someone. In my experience, I marry my husband for love and until now i still love him. In my point of view, it is better to marry for love than to marry with someone you do not know because when you love someone you have already accepted him for what he is. But when you marry a stranger, and you're expectations are not met, there's a possibility that you'll end in a divorce, especially if the one you married also had another expectations from you and let's say you're just a different person than what he/she is expecting. Though there are some marriages that still follow the old tradition, like the Chinese that mostly they have an arranged marriage, there are still couples who fall in love after they marry. But it has a low percentage compared to those people who married for love.

Personally I would say Love marriage but with that said I wonder in the day and age if arranged marriages wouldn't last longer. Think about it, people especially our younger generation is marrying all for the wrong reasons. At least with arranged marriages it would be no lie as to why you are marrying and you are starting off on the same page.

hi there. of course it will always be "love marriage". in marriage conception, two persons should always be loving one another in order to become one. their marriage will become successful and much more fruitful if they love one another. Fixed marriage is never a great idea, though very common to some cultures because they need to maintain something related to their life status to their later generation. it does work but they'll live their lives unsatisfied for their marriage and emptiness rules their lives. see you around!

I say LOVE marriage. It's 21st century. People got no time to marry n then fall in love. Busy schedule, gotta earn for the family u see. It's betta if u fall in love first,then u both know each other so there's no room for hit n trial errors. You just got one shot in life. It's more ethical to marry only once and for gods sake people shouldn't opt for arranged marriage in this era.