if your spouse made you choose family or them what woud you do

I would never let my husband tell me I can't see my family. I also would not let my family bash my husband. You have to accept people the way they are. But you do not have to let them push you around. If you so choose to see your family then you should be able to. If your spouse or partner does not wish to see them then they do not have to. But it is all up to you on what you want to do with your family.

A harsh conditions. I also will be confused, when faced with this problem. If I had a problem like this, I would not take sides anywhere. For a while I'll be with my husband, and find a way out so that relationships with family and husband can work well.

Hello easymoney. Well in my opinion when you marry you get a new family. You wrote that you have kids and have been married for over ten years. Now this is your family and you should be with them. If your husband wants you to stop having contact with your other family because of the problems they cause you then I would do as he wishes. It may be hard but he is your real family now. Maybe some time in the future your other family will behave better and you can interact with them again. Some time less is more.

Problems like these can be solved with time. Just let it settle down for a while and after everything else is ok, talk to your family. For now, focus on your family. They're your priority now.

It would depend on what type of issues they had caused for me. As my thinking is we do not have to like our families actions but we certainly should not hate them. I would prefer to say to my "husband", that perhaps I would distance myself and not be so into them, but ultimately I would still have a relationship with them.