not just because you had the last word in an argument it means...

This has been my situation with my husband a couple of weeks back. We were often arguing about something and no one seems to give up his own opinion.At the end, we both shut up. Not because, we both agree with what the other is saying but because it is senseless to keep on arguing when we know that none of us will win. My husband knows that when we argue and all of a sudden I don't argue anymore, it doesn't mean I agree with him. I just want to end it and perhaps, to show that I respect his views but do not force me to believe. My husband is doing the same thing, too.In this case, we are avoiding further arguments and we can just shake the thoughts off our heads.

Oh God, you have no idea how much arguments I'm dealing with right now. When it comes to relationships, I always lose the argument. I just got used to it. When she says something, I state my opinion and when she says "No, it should be like this..blah blah blah.." I try to prove that I'm right and the second time she argues about it I just agree with her. As they say, "Sometimes you have to agree to disagree." What I like about her, though, is she realizes when she's making a mistake, although she doesn't apologize.

I agree with both hands and legs up in the air!! U are so right! When i come across such a person in arguments, i'm really very very frustrated because they refuse to listen and accept whatever i'm telling them. IN their mind, they only believe in what they see, and believe in what they want to believe. It's even worse when they tell u, they shut off everything, not wanting to listen. When that happens, it's natural for us to be angry and more frustrated, thus end up shouting. When we do that, we are being scolded for shouting!! COme on! Of course they can be calm because they are not the ones doing the explaining! As a result of that, cold war began, and things are back to normal after a few days. HOwever, the issue is not even closed yet, as they are not willing to talk or listen! I give up on them!! haha

Sometimes neither is right because it is'nt a right- wrong sitution it is just an opinion and believe me this type of argument can NEVER be won if both people KNOWS they are right. So i just say okay and give it up.

Arguments can bring on so much misunderstanding. Nobody ever seems to get the last word. The one who actually does thinks they have won the argument. What it really means is arguing has lost its momentum. there may be nothing more left to say.

If the argument is non sense then why waste time to that lowlife person right? But then if that is something sensible with level headed then I believe that having a last word wouldn't always mean that the person have won it already. Sometimes there are other people who just want to escape from the argument if they knew that they will just lose it.

I agree fully with you...there are people like that who would never agree that they are in the wrong. To me, keeping my cool and just walking away without falling into that verbal trap, is the ultimate victory. Such people are not only rude and irritating, many of them actually provoke you into starting an argument just for the sake of arguing and proving themselves correct. Also, there are types who just start shouting at the top of their voice and show unwarranted aggression...they feel that they can just shut up everybody by their aggressive attitude and lung power.

Hello my dear angel of charm. Yes i have been in a fight where i KNEW i was right and the other person was wrong, and putting a stop to the conflict was okay, as i gave him/her sorry and i told him/her she/he was right. This is a tactic from psichology, that in most casses (not all) will make the other one that he is wrong, but this is harder for you to appologise and give in when you KNOW you are right. I have done this only with my girlfriend, i achknowledge that i don't know if i would have the strength of character to do it for someone else.

hello angel! i have read somewhere that in arguments, no matter how you fare in it, you would always be in the losing end. How is this so? You see, if you lose in an argument and the other person wins, naturally you lose in such. On the other hand, if you had been able to refute the arguments of your opponent, laming him with your keen sense of debate techniques, you end up losing still because you have made the other person feel less, you made him feel bad about himself, about losing in on the debate. That's why it is strongly advised never to participate in arguments, especially in ones where you know that it would just be futile because your opponent would not budge and would insist on what he thinks is right. It is not worth the effort to win and then lose the friendship of someone else just because you want them to take or accept your way of thinking. For that's the point of arguments, making the other person see your way and vice-versa. Rather than engage in futile arguments, it would be better to just stay away from these and avoid the stress of arguing pointlessly.

Yes, that's true. When i get into an argument which i surely know will not have a stop even if the other party is really wrong, what i will do is recap the most important points of that discussion and just say, "so that's it. . . i have said my piece. . if you accept it, fine with me . . .if not, fine with me too. But don't blame me if something goes wrong with what you are insisting !" Then, i will leave or in the case of my husband , i will leave the room and just watch TV at the sala. LOL