Stuck between a career and love!

I dont know what had happened which made him feel so insecure.But seriously he is dictating you too much.Cant you get job where there are no young people or all ladies?You need to support you family.You can tell this guy to find job for you and let him see how difficult it is.

You have to do what is right for your life. You have to decide what is important to you. Looking at your career and your loving relationships is something that can truly tear you apart. Trying to find balance between them can be difficult. Look to your heart for the answer., It won't let you down.

If you are not sure that he's the right guy to marry then you don't have to sacrifice your plans because if your relationship with him won't last then you'll start blaming your self in choosing him over your career and plans for your parents. You and your boyfriend should take a seat and talk about that seriously cause it is not only your future who is at stake but also your mom will get disappointed. I guess as a single parent she sacrifices a lot just to get you a good education, right? If your partner won't really accept your decision then he's too selfish and insecurities is eating him. If i were you you should consider the sacrifices of your mom and the future awaits you.

Hi!!! This is a deeply tangled relationship which you have got!!! Now as far as I could understand there were certain things in the past, because of which He (your b.f or partner) doesn't want you to be away from him. But How can you leave your only mother!!!! I would be straight forward to this guy. Either trust me and take me in or move ahead. I for sure, won't sacrifice my mother. I will do whatever I have to make sure, I am supporting her. There are millions and Love can always happen Second time. There can always be second chance in love. But Mother happens only once, She who has brought me in this world deserves more than what you are thinking about. Be strong!!!!

hello there inneedofcash! for a relationship to last, trust is important. if this one is lacking expect that there would always a problem that will interfere. about your relationship with your boyfriend, you told us that, he has been your bestfriend before crossing the line of more intimate relationship. but if he was your bestfriend he must understand you with the priority of your family. besides, family always come first before anything else and if he truly loves he must also love your family too. but if he wants that he always keep an eye of you then why not let your mother know about your feelings with your problem that bothers you. mother always care for their child and will understand every little thing that a child want to have or need. speak up your heart. tell both sides what you really feel. one thing you told us is that of your culture that couple cant both work and you also eager and want to help your family, i guess better for you stepped a bit from your boyfriend. love can wait and its really worth the wait. you can still see each other, if there's a wheel theres always a way. dont stuck yourself, the door is already wide open for you to let you out. and its just about how you will manage your life, family, and love. most of all, always ask for His assistance that everything will always be okay with His power. :)

I remember something from the bible that says "you can't serve 2 gods". Its either you choose one and leave the other one. One thing that completes love is trust. Whatever happened from your past should be accepted. Your bf should understand the way your life is before he came in. It's not easy to suddenly let go of your family wherein they need you and I understand your feeling that it is also not easy to let of your relationship. Try to explain to your bf what the situation is. Let him feel that you still want to at least serve your family before going to another phase of your life. Seeing that you're on your 20ish, I believe that you'll still have long way to go. Let your family know your situation as well so you can hear their inputs about your situation. :)

For me, family should always come first. I think a boyfriend has no right to dictate you on what to do with your life. You should consult each other about your plans but in the end it's what you want that you should follow. After all, you are not yet his wife. If you are, to a certain extent scared of him, I think that's quite unhealthy. I think you're still young and you have plenty of time for relationships. Your priority now should be to help your family, I think.

As you said, your mother is your only parent. So she must have experienced lots of hardship in raising you and your siblings. And you also said, you took a very expensive course, and you want to go to job to help the family. I have read all other mylotter friends' advices. And like most of them, i think you should put your family in the first place. If your boyfriend loves you, he can understand and support your decision. If he can't, then you should really have a good thought about his love.

As you said that you are coming from a middle class family, so I guess your loyalty should be with your family. Try to find a job in your city even as you are trying to apply a job in his city, too. If after trying you still cannot find a job in his city than you have to tell him that you need to do good with your family before you are becoming his responsibility. If he does not want to hear that then I guess he does not really loves you. If he has a trust issue because of you, it is the better way to show him that you are trustworthy by working and living in your own city away from him. When he has to see you and know what you do all the time, in the end he will limited your movement and you will feel confined. Furthermore there is nothing better than to be able to support yourself than depending on someone else.

i think you should stick with your family bcuz a girlfriend is something like that which sticks with you when she don't see no one's better than u but when she does they broke your heart and goto another guy and family is some like that never leaves you in trouble never in happiness always here to help please if you like my comment rate me good i need rating

some time life enjoy me but and so thing me because is career not grow time for love in the past thing to so happen life problem not career and love me.all the time sucess for career point to love the family my career sucess in the family .