What about raising children by grandparents?
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
January 24, 2011 10:58am CST
Living in the century of speed and being busy all the time, parents often leave their children in the care of grandparents.What do you think about this method? Share us your experience if you are among those raised by grandparents, or just moms who accesses the topic, which is your opinion?
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6 responses
@geojb90 (470)
• Galati, Romania
24 Jan 11
In the past 3 months my mother had been taking care of my older brothers son because he was busy with work and the mother of the baby had to leave the country because there wasn't enough money to raise the boy and pay the house bills, so she had to leave and work in Italy so she can save some money in order to be able to be on point with the monthly bills. My mother was more then happy to take care of the baby and so did I. Now everything is back to normal.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
24 Jan 11
I understand the situation perfectly. Unfortunately, more and more parents are forced to leave the country in order to survive life, bills, loans, to give their children a better future. And then we can only thank parents, grandparents for their unconditional support.And I sincerely thank you for your response.
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@pastigger (612)
• United States
24 Jan 11
I feel if you are to busy to raise your own children you shouldnt have them. Your parents have already raised you and should get to enjoy being grandparents. I understand in most homes both parents work and that is a whole other discussion. But i do belive alot of grandparents are being rob of just being grandparents and being put in a full time caregiver roll.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
24 Jan 11
OK. I understand your point of view. You probably think that grandparents are from another generation and have other ideas about life.Many are reluctant to accept new and not 'rules' imposed by parents across the street from such a child be raised today. Not to mention the pampering ... In other words, your advice is:grow your own children!And I agree with you, but forget that there are cases when we need to appeal to parents, grandparents, and it does not believe is condemned .... I thought the positive sense of the situation, not as we would not have us able to increase our children!..thanks.
@pastigger (612)
• United States
24 Jan 11
I have no problem with grandparents being from a different generation as I usually agree with how they would do something. My point is I see a lot of grandparents where I am that are almost being forced to raise their grandchildren because of different reason. I want my mom to be able to enjoy her time with her granddaughter and not have to raise her. It is very important to me for my daughter to see her grandparents as much as she can as they all love her very much and I really value having all our family so close I wish my grandparents where closer when I was growing up. So things may be a little different where I am then where you are. I am glad that grandparents are able to step in for a while in parents absence. I have know a few people to leave their children with their parents when they get deployed. I do believe the old saying that it takes a village to raise a child and I don't have a problem with family helping out, I just think most of the raising should be done by the parents.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
24 Jan 11
Hello didi and welcome to myLot. There was a time when two and three generations lived together so the children were raised by all. It is a shame that that is no longer the case. children would have greater respect for older people and would be richer in family history. Now that being said, I was partly raised by my grandparents I lived exclusively for about 4 years and a lot before that. When my children had their children I said that they were not to depend on me for regular babysitting. Well when the need arose I changed my mind and ended up raising two of my grandchildren and would not trade those years for any thing. Raising kids can keep you young.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
25 Jan 11
Few young families today still remain close to his parents' home, most choose to live their lives separately and is very fine. But relations with the grandparents do not have to suffer too much because of it. I'm sure now that you no longer regret that you raised two nephews, and special activities that they've developed together will turn into unforgettable memories.If mom and dad do not have time in hand, you can cook in silence with a grandmother or grandfather can go fishing, right?or what's nicer than your grandfather read a story with his serious voice ....thanks.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
I really don't think that it is right for parents to expect their parents to raise their children. If I hadn't had time to raise my two children, then I wouldn't have had them. That said, I do understand that there are times that unexpected situations arise where the parents can't raise their own children. When this happens, I think that it is okay for grandparents to take their grandchildren in, but they shouldn't be expected to do this if it isn't something that they are comfortable with.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
24 Jan 11
I don't think it's bad for kids to be raised by their grandparents since their parents are sometimes very busy and sometimes grandparents have more patience with children;of course,this doesn't mean that parents should simply let grandparents take complete care of the kids,they must be as close as they can to their children.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
25 Jan 11
Relationships with grandparents grandchildren remain priceless,no matter how much it would change the times. Grandparents are role models in life for children and a reliable help in hard times for parents. Why is Grandma really special?Grandparent-grandchildren relationships are beneficial for children from many points of view. Who else offers them so much unconditional love,patience and reliability, besides parents, of course? Who can tell stories about old grandfathers so interesting about family traditions, about distant relatives? On the other hand, a night alone,the grandparents may help to increase independence and skills development better than a child if it is left, for example, to sleep at friends. Grandma and always have a great interest in the world for their grandchildren, and the attention and care that surround them can not have them than a lot.Thanks for your answer...
@jessiicali (120)
• United States
24 Jan 11
I was pretty much raised by my grandparents from the time I was born until 11 years of age. I turned out fine. My boys however, arebeing raised by me. My mom had to support 2 kids as a single mother with 2 jobs, so she lived with her parents & therefore when she was working, we were with them.
