Oh Yeah Sorry About That..My Mistake.. huh??

yes you are absolutely raised a administrative level doubt.

What's frustrating is when people take a false-understanding and make the whole series of assumptions derived from their inability to accept it as a misunderstanding. The way--I think--is to re-learn it through their eyes.

hi workinggurl good discussion., so many times after I respond I wonder if I was clear enough for all my many friends here. I do try to be every since the hot dog bet and the poor fellow who thought that old lady was eating dog meat. He let me know that he did not think that old ladies should be eating dog meat.s o I hurriedly explained that our american slang hot dogs are really beef weiners. and no we do not kill dogs and eat their meat.this is as repulssive to us as it was to you. sorry I confused you. so yes we can all be more careful with our language,our native tongue so we are clear as can be to all the other mylotters from all over the world.

Thanks for making this wonderful topic.i came from a country where English is not the primary language.so even english is one of our subjects here, i still got confused when someone posted here that is new to my ear.so what i do is i approach Mr.Dictionary or i ask the initiator or the responder on what he/she wants to say. Misunderstanding cannot be avoided here because as what you've mentioned, we are born with different cultures and beliefs.But inspite of that,we get to communicate to one another.and the misunderstanding that is happening here leads to a healthy debate.happy mylotting!!

I am not saying anything! When I do, I get accused of violating the guidelines. We are not allowed to criticize another members English! Even good advice isn't allowed. One particular member has a habit of reporting every violation!

Hey HardWorking Congratulations about your new avatar - first. I can see it's changed Now about your question ... i hope i could understand it right. I like to make longer posts, because of some reasons: when i say something i like it to be clear for understanding, i always share personal experience and how i reached my opinion, because i know that it can be useful. I know that some people doesn't like to read long posts. I know that it's getting bit annoying sometimes, i'm the same when i'm not in mood - i start reading with interest, but in the middle i'm just lost and nothing more But still - i appreciate when someone share opinions and explanation why the person thinks so. Words are little tricky method for communication ... Everyone can understand them in different ways, so for me it's more than needed to be clear, because english language is not my natural language and i want to be sure that will be understood in the right way. Mylot is far from tabloid system and i like to express myself as good as possible.

Hmmmmmm ok Sweetie you have confused me, now come on I am a blond so be gentle on me lol I will only add as much detail as it is needed to respond to a Discussion and no more then that lol

There is nothing wrong with saying to a poster "can you explain some more?" and I have said that to people who respond to me and I do not understand. It is not the responsibility of only one side of a discussion. I have also asked people to explain their original topic, so I can get it right. If people do not understand what you mean, instead of getting mad or upset, they can say to you, " I am not sure about what you are saying." and you would gladly explain. For the most part, this is a great site, and yes, mistakes are made. However, there is nothing wrong with admitting imperfection.

I have responded to somone here dont remeber who but they asked for me to clarify my responce which I did just said it another way and they understood what I meant with my slang it is sometimes hard to get what I am saying I guess lololol

ok so now im confused. when you started out i was with you for a ways, then around "might make for comfort" you lost me. but then im a bit of a ding bat some days and even my primary language (english) dont compute in my own brain. so i can certainly forgive any misunderstanding others may read from me.

Hi GF In case I do not understand a response at the first go I ask for clarification... I know English is not my primary Language and even if it was, I doubt I would understand everything that gets written here. Words mean different many a times and so best way for me is to ask for clarification. If it is someones discussion that I dont understand, I state that if I respond to it at the start that hey, I am not getting it correct but from what I understand is this - "..." . Then I ask if there was something that I misunderstood, please provide some info so that I can either provide a better response or understand the thing. And yes, for the words, Sorry and My Mistake, I do accept whenever I get an option to

I was in a situation on Facebook where I asked something and the person flew into me thinking I was saying something else, and after a week, I explained to her what I *really* meant, and she sorta calmed down. I don't think she believed me though, and yes, she speaks English.

I actually do try to be as clear and easy to understand as I can be when I type responses to people. Sometimes, if it seems that English is not their primary language, Ill leave out the slang every day terms that I use when I'm speaking to help them understand.

Okay. I'm a newbie here so I'm just going to take your word for it. Sometimes I also don't understand where the person talking to me is coming from. It's like they're talking about something that doesn't make sense from this world. During situations like that, I try to ask questions so that I would understand what the person was trying to ask or tell me.

I know what you are saying. I have given my opinion to some (particularly in the politics interest) and literally was blasted by the author of the discussion cause my opinion disagreed with theirs. Those kinds of people don't want to talk/chat/discuss...they want it their way and if you don't agree, you are crap and they tell you so. I stopped commenting in the category for the most part. I am her to talk/chat/discuss....LEARN, GET INFORMATION and have FUN!!!! I don't want to argue. I will discuss back and forth for awhile..SHARING opinions and such but if it gets nasty, I just end it and don't respond back. There was a discussion, tho, about marriage I had with a friend...Hello "SRB" if you are reading this! We TOTALLY and COMPLETELY disagreed with something regarding marriage. We batted it around a couple times, back and forth, got a little testy there......then we stopped, agreed to disagree and that both were "right" in different instances and said "thanks for your opinion, it was an interesting discussion" and we are still friends and still chat back and forth. Those are the ones I enjoy. Not everyone has the same opinion and not every agrees...but it is informative, and interesting and a nice "brain work out" to bat things around awhile....and still remain friends. I think the key is "discussion" and "opinion" and if both aren't respected...it gets nasty and hateful and I don't go there.

Hello there hardworkinggurl .. it seems that you have been hardworking because your topic here is really good. I get where you're coming from with that. It would help to alleviate tension of communicating should the better speaking one try to break down into simpler words or something .. then it would be a more better communication with the other person who is not using English as a primary language. I think that would help to prevent confusion at times. A communication breakdown is a bad communication.. But like in your story there , knowing that you have made the effort , then it can be said that the other party took it the wrong way. You have done your best. And that's all that matters..

Oh yeah, sorry about that... :D

It is very esay to be misunderstood when you are among so many people from different places and cultures and of course languages. Does it make it any easier when we are? No..but it helps us learn and opens up the chance to finetune our communication skills. I think that it is a mixture of things but if we all take a few extra moments to try and understand..it makes it easier for both parties involved. I think that detail is very important and awesome advice you are offering!

Sometimes, language barrier is the problem.. No matter how detailed we are with our post,sometimes, it simply doesn't help that much.On the contrary, too many words to read makes it more confusing to some of our friends/users who are not adept of the English language. If I am the respondent and I do not understand the topic clearly but wanted to support the poster, it will not hurt me to ask for some clarifications. But, I'll only do that after having to read the post a couple of times. Oh, yes, I am that patient sometimes.

I have been flamed once for a misunderstanding, and I chose to not comment back : the guy was too arrogant, and I thought that my response was clear enough for the other members. I understand English quite good, but my grammar is bad when I write it, so if a member does not understand me, I try to explain again with other words, and I ask also some details when I am not sure of the meaning. Sorry about that ? But you are taking that too tragically. Misunderstandings are also comic sometimes, and can make digestion easier after a good dinner . I received some really fun comments made because of a misunderstanding of my bad English or because the member had not read all my response -- I was probably too long and boring to tears -- : I am rarely commenting back in this case. It is difficult to be sorry after a good laugh .