Money can't buy happiness?
@penniestoadream (469)
Canada
January 24, 2011 10:36pm CST
Really??? I don't know if I truly agree with this saying...sure, it may not be able to change a person's soul. For example, if a person is really lonely, but has a load of money, and the only thing that would make this person happy would be to have a family with kids, then sure, the saying holds some ground. But if we're talking about material possessions and being debt free for once in our lives, then the saying if flawed. Money can buy a person happiness. It would make me SO happy to be debt free and not have to worry about bills or rent or if my car will make it until next payday with the gas that's in the tank, not to mention if it breaks down. Where does the money for that come from? lol So, what do you think? Can money buy you happiness? Or is money the root of all evil?
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Money is whatever you make it, good, bad, neutral. I've heard this saying before. I think it was from a movie or something. It sounds a bit cliche to me. You do have a point, money can buy happiness. For example, during my college days I used to crave for my allowance to get higher for me to go out with friends more often. It means money can make people happy. Although there are circumstances when the saying applies like imagine a couple getting a divorce and they're fighting for who gets the custody of their kids. Money can't solve all your problems in this case coz even if you do get the custody of the children, if they prefer to be with the other then you can't do anything about it. Or to put it simply, you can't buy your kid's happiness. Tell me if I'm not making sense here.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
No...no, you are making sense. It's a hard question to answer, but with every answer comes a variety of circumstances too. Let's say the kids did end up with the one that they wanted to be with the most...but perhaps that person is the father. Now, we all know that most guys get royally screwed during a divorce, so the father ends up not having the most money. Now let's say, the kids are forced to live with dad in a 2 bedroom apartment in a scuzzy neighborhood because the dad doesn't have enough money anymore to afford the house they were previously in...in this case, money would definitely buy happiness, but in the form of a proper shelter. (lol...even my response is hard to explain. It's a tough question!)
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
Wait a second.....did you say you got allowance when you were in college?!?!?! I had to earn my spending money working construction (basement foundation stripping; not what it sounds like! lol) for $8/hr.! That, plus my girlfriend's income at the time, was just enough to put a roof over our heads and Ichiban noodles into our bowls. lol
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Oh.. Then that means you're more experienced than I am. Until I was 19 I was fully supported by my parents. I only learned to be independent upon meeting certain kinds of people.
@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
25 Jan 11
Well the accurate quote is that the love of money is the root of all evil. I do not hear any "love of money" in what you want. You regard money more as a tool, which is the appropriate way to view it. Money could buy me some peace of mind, or knowing where the money is going to come from to cover all of those needs. I think, however, that some people will never be happy no matter how much money they have. Of course that in a way is a choice.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
Actually, now that you mention it, that is the proper saying, isn't it. The love of money is the root of all evil. Uh Oh! lol I may be doomed. We all might be doomed. I've never actually heard a person say that they hate money.
It's true that it's a choice to be happy or not. In most cases, a person that isn't happy needs to change something about him/her self first before happiness can really be accomplished. If a person goes day to day being lonely and never does anything to change it, like going to places to meet people, or even online dating, then that person is probably never going to be happy and might have even decided that there is no hope, in which, this is the choice. Change it or accept it.
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@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
25 Jan 11
Even with people all around a person can be lonely, It is inside. You do not have to hate money to not love it. It just has to be in the proper place in your life. I also knew someone who said "money is just a way to keep score."
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
It really depends on the situation. AS you said, if someone was rich in material goods and yet unable to have children when they wanted them, then all the money would not get him or her that operation when the doctors say 'nothing can be done,' or could someone get to fall in love with you before one became sterile, etc. The same would apply to someone who had his legs blown up, all the money in the world would not get him to grow new legs.
However if you are poor and now with the money can afford good dental care, or pay off all your bills, get you moved to a better neighborhood, then this time money buys happiness.
The trouble is that there are few of us who have the money needed to get things fixed. For instance, for me to get dental implants for the teeth I lost, would cost one thousand a tooth. For someone to get the food that would make them healthy when they are poor and live in a place where one cannot go to a market and good food, would cost more.
Therefore the idea that money cannot buy happiness is only partially right. And the idea that money can buy happiness is also partially right. And they are also partially wrong.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
That's all very true. I know first hand about the dental work. I have a root canal and 2 cavities to be fixed in the near future and am looking at a very expensive bill. Luckily, my work provides dental insurance, but there is still a pretty high 30% to be paid by me. Heck, even just a cleaning costs over $50 with the insurance.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
26 Jan 11
Yep, I know it would make me happy if I were in that situation.
@iceydon (342)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Money makes people smile all day long. It can make anyone happy. Happiness is a state of mind reflecting things that is happening to a person be it physically or emotionally. Money helps in attaining happiness but happiness does not depend only on money.So it would be good to say that without money people can be happy. But its a fact that people really run for money giving a notion that it is money that makes them happy.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
25 Jan 11
Hello friend, i believe that money can't buy happiness. There are lots of people who become greedy after having their needed amounts and that's how their greediness is making them unhappy - they just can't enjoy what they has, because always when they has something new, it's not pleasure for them - they want something else.
Long ago one of my friends was working in hotel, the owner was really rich man. My friend was working more than 12 hours a day, he had the possibility to sleep in the hotel, because daily traveling and not exact working time couldn't be done in that situation. I remember that he spend nearly 2 months near the sea in that hotel. And when he came back we had meeting for a coffee. So he shared one very interesting and smart thought - "some people stay in a sea full of money, but they just don't know how to bow and take a part of their own money". That was a thought because of his boss - he was hard working man, but with cheap manners. For so many hours he paid little amounts to his workers and it was easy for him to say to people who has long experience in their job - go away, i'll always find someone to work for that salary.
The value of the money is wasted if the person who has money doesn't appreciate what he has.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
26 Jan 11
Your last sentence is so true. Greed and arrogance, and even ignorance, sometimes go hand in hand.
@sreejithsreenivas (10200)
• India
25 Jan 11
Money is very important.With out it there is no honey or friends.Money is how we can afford all of our wants and needs that makes us happy.I think money can make me happy but not buy me happiness. Happiness cant be purchased at a store or online, but I'd definitely be happy if I was out of debt.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
Yeah, happiness can't be purchased, but I can purchase things that make me happy, but I need the money first....therefor, money can buy happiness. Right?
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
26 Jan 11
I'm sick and tired of watching where every penny goes. I love pennies, because they add up quicker than you think, but I hate having to budget them all.
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
26 Jan 11
Hi,in my view,most time money can buy happiness.
With enough money, you can let your old parents live more comfortable. Then they will be happy, and their happiness in turn brings you happiness. You can afford the best education for your kids, such give them more opportunities than their counterparts. You can be more romantic with your relationship, which of course will bring you and your partner happiness. Just image the bleak situation without money, you can easily know how money can make us happy.
So i say that money can buy happiness in most time. But some happiness can't be bought with money, it can only be bought with your love, your warm heart. That is the reason why some rich bad guy can't buy a happy marriage with his money.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
25 Jan 11
Money can't buy happiness. But money is a good medium to MAKE HAPPINESS. If we use money intelligent, money will give us many benefits.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
It's hard to use it intelligently when everything costs so much. Sure, investing is a great way to go, but it takes a long time to generate the money that will eventually make you happy.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16763)
• China
25 Jan 11
Today, we mustn't make sweeping generalizations to say,Money is the root of all evil.As a matter of fact, without money we cann't move a single step,but we mustn't on this grounds think that money talks.Happiness varies from person to person,some rich and powerful people are benevolent,they find it a pleasure to help others;others are misers,the more they have,the more they want.For the money they rack their brains let alone happiness.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
I'd have to say I'm a little bit of both...When I get money, I want more. But if I know that I have money, I really enjoy treating people to things. Money can buy happiness that way, but perhaps it can only buy other people happiness. I don't know any more. lol
@mark98 (567)
• China
25 Jan 11
Money can not buy happiness, which is well known truth.While this is absolutely corrent,but being poor also can be exchanged.
We can not live without money,have the money with a right way and rational use of it,our lives will be very happy at least.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
25 Jan 11
So what you're saying is, if you're poor, then as long as the money is spent in a rational way, then happiness will be accomplished? Rational spending can turn into happiness.
@celeste2224 (160)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
I definitely agree with you, yes money can't buy happiness but it does makes you happy. I mean with all the material possessions that cne would want right? I know that money really can't buy happiness maybe that was before but now, with all the hardships that one experience money can do magic, it is true, I have seen people do everything for money, sounds crazy but true...
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
26 Jan 11
Unfortunately, you're right. People do some pretty extreme things to themselves or others just for money. In a lot of cases, it's for the love of money, but for most, it's desperation and need of money. This is where money can buy happiness.
@rj0ys0rian0 (1)
•
25 Jan 11
The basic things is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from our external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in hostile atmosphere, you feel happy.
@penniestoadream (469)
• Canada
26 Jan 11
Attitude play a huge role in achieving happiness. That's for sure! Look at the tv show, "Survivor"...they go through nights of downpours and many days without much food, so the only things that would make them happy would be shelter and something to eat....but with that too, the whole basis of the show is to win money, so I was typing all of that for nothing because it didn't really prove anything. lol
@smartbrain69 (2790)
• Canada
26 Jan 11
I really agree with you dear that money can not buy happiness ... money can buy fake things which has end but happiness is so much natural that it is real good.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
26 Jan 11
I think money buys comfort, comfort is good to have and to have enough money that you don't have to worry about finances day in and day out would certainly be a good thing which a lot of us would like, but it still does not guarantee happiness, it can make our lives easier that is for sure but only we can create our own happiness in our lives. We can choose to be happy or unhappy, obviously bad things happen to all of us at times, but in general we need to choose to be happy and work at being happy.
@Marmot (590)
• United States
25 Jan 11
Actually I think this saying should be money can buy physical happiness but can not buy emotional happiness. Because happiness is a complex thing. When we purchase something we want, we are happy, when we have fun with friends, we are happy too. So, the former one is depends on money because we have to use money to make it real, but the second one is nothing related to money because it is emotional. So, money can buy happiness, but just a part of it. There is also a saying: Money is not everything, but without money is nothing.