Was it ever love if it didn't last?

I had this discussion with a friend who insisted that I haven't loved yet since, supposedly, love never fails. I have had only few but long relationships in my life. How can one say those relationships that lasted a minimum of three years were not true? Sure it's great when we hang on to the idea that true love is endless, but just because love has ceased and a relationship has ended, that doesn't make it any less real. I actually get annoyed when people give me definitions of what love's supposed to be. What I do is enjoy the moment of my loving someone and not try to define it.

hi there. yes. there must have been a reason why your love for that person ceased, and that could come to variety of reasons. both partners might have worked hard for their love's sake but there might have been strong factors that just kept on moving around them that did not make their relationship work no matter how hard they tried to fight for it. most people tend to just give up, because it's an option for them. i do not believe that when you loved someone deeply before, and ended your relationship with him/her because of that reasonable factors, you cannot love him/her anymore in the future. you can still love that person despite of what you have had together in the past time. it's best not to put it to waste. you can love that person as a friend. On the other hand, if the relationship did not end properly (like for example due to some inconsiderable reason, 3rd party, cheating, abuse, etc.), people may tend to hold on to their grudges and could turn love to hatred. that's possible, it greatly depends on the situation. see you around!

It's not the true romantic love you longed for if it did not last forever. It is still love but not the kind that's meant to last. I can stop loving a person if something happened between us that made our relationship unbearable.