Why it is so

Dear Suguwillu it is one of the common problems we face when we are facing financial problems after the marriage. The tensions ,the anxiety, the irritation because of failures on financial front practically drains one and one tend to behave in a hostile way, some times with an aggression of higher degree! Normally when ever one suffers from mental tension it will result into digestive disturbances and constipation is one of the common ailment seen in such condition. Constipation makes one more irritable to the existing tensions! Your husband may not really mean that it is because of your cooking he is suffering from constipation as he already has had same food for last so many years and he was OK! This he must have said either when he was anger or he must have said as he was frustrated. There is a old saying what is known as seven years itch, where there is a difference between wife and husband at this time because of several reasons and they may be manifested in different ways. But here I think main reason seems to be financial crisis which is playing the major role1 Please don't get dejected or discourages. At this juncture what all you need is to have patience and have a composed position.Though it may look difficult, please try to be positive with your husband and make him feel that you really care for him and talk with him about his problems and assure him that you want to share his problems and if possible try to help out him to solve his problems. In country like India husband has to carry out various things to make money in order to support the family, if he doesn't have proper job at his hand. He has to face several types of people with different nature and behaviour and as you know the World is merciless and it strictly follow the rule of 'Survival of Fittest'! So in order to survive such persons need to have different moods with different people to fulfil the commitments and they plan many a things to earn money which makes the life miserable many a times and one ends up with lot of frustration and anger. To vent out the frustration and anger who else can be a better person than a spouse, as no body is going to listen him. So under some or other pretext your husband may be taking out his tensions by shouting at you. The excuse that he is suffering from constipation may be just a thing he wanted to say to express his displeasure, where as he may not be actually mean it! So in my opinion please act coolly and try to understand him, pacify him, try to give him ample of love and affection which is is in need right at this moment which he is desperately waiting to have it from you. I am sure the things will be different and you will feel the change in his personality. Such things are part and parcel of every one's life and these things are to be tackled in a matured way to accomplish the success in life to pass such unpleasant moments which are absolutely temporary in nature! Wish you all the best!

Maybe you should change your style of cooking or maybe you messed up. I don't know exactly unless I get to taste your cooking.

ok so I'm going to be blunt here, first off tell him to apologise to you for his very rude comment and secondly tell him to do all the cooking then! Also if it was you're cooking then you would both be suffering not just him. I hope you get this sorted out, it sounds more like he is a bit stressed and taking it out on you.