Adoption

I think it's still shameful to give up your own child. It's your own child. You just can't give it up to someone else's responsibility. If you can't handle having a child then why make one?

Was that her big secret she was going on about? A sister she had but didn't know she had? Like that hasn't happened before! I don't care much for Oprah anyway. I think adoption is a good thing. I mean if a woman has a baby and can't take care of it or doesn't want it...and can't do adoption...what's she going to do? Leave the baby some where, abort it, kill it? It's in the baby's best interest to have adoption.

I think if your reasons for giving the baby up for adoption are genuine then it is a great thing. There are people who don't do it to give the baby a better life but just do it to 'get rid of the baby' and not have to deal with the problem. Some do it out of love and others do it to try to erase the problem. It does take a lot of love to give a baby up so that the baby can have a better life. I think the kids that go to a good loving family usually understand why their biological parents gave them up and they are thankful they loved them enough to want a better life for them.

I don't agree with adoption, though if circumstances will force me to give up the baby for better life, then I would go for it, just making sure that the baby, as early as possible will be aware that he/she is adopted and that he/she would know his/her biological parents. My cousin is adopted and it was too late for her to know the real thing. It ended up sadly,causing my cousin to be rebellious and doing things beyond control. Even at present, she's suffering in a disorder brought about by knowing the whole thing. A good reminder: when you adopt, try to know also the biological and psychological background or history of the parents of the child.

Personally, I feel like when a mother makes the decision to give a child up for adoption, there has to be some underlying reason and they know that it may be the best decision for the child. In the case of Oprah's mother, she did mention she gave up the baby for adoption because she knew she was unable to take care of her. That to me, shows a love beyond reproach. And in my mind, when a birth mother is at least willing to see their adult child if they are found, that can give the parent some closure to know that their son or daughter had a good life, and they could hopefully build an adult relationship for the future.

I was adopted when I was only a couple weeks old. I was born with a cleft lip and pallet and in the Ukraine my parents could not afford any of the surgeries that I needed. If my parents had not come along then I would most likely not even be alive right now. Plus I know them as my only family and don't feel anything is missing.

There are some parents who put up their children for adoption because they know they don't have the means to raise the baby. I think that's good. Another family will be able to care for the child and provide for its needs. However it's sad that bearing and putting up children for adoption has become a business for some. I've read a book about it---women from poor communities who get pregnant then find a couple to adopt their babies for a sum. It's sad. My friend is about to adopt a baby. The mother is a fifteen year old girl from a poor area. I think the baby will be in good hands when it is adopted by my friend. Perhaps the mother will feel sad about having to give away her baby. Perhaps she won't. I just hope she learns valuable lessons from her experience.

I certainly don't think there is any shame in giving a baby up for adoption when so many families are waiting just for the opportunity to open their homes to a child.

I do agree with you. I think that at times, you just have to give your child up for adoption. If it's for the best. Plus, there are those couples who do want to adopt, for various reasons.

I think adoption can be a wonderful gift. There are so many people that want children and can never have them. Then you have people that treat them terribly and didn't want them and have several. It is a hard thing to realize and there are some people that never realize how much of a gift it is but I am lucky to know. I went for a long time thinking something was wrong with me and that was why my mother didn't want me. It took a while to realize it wasn't me...it was them. Things would have been so different and maybe even horrible for me had my mother kept me. Even if it was a choice she made for herself..even if..it was the best thing she could have done for me.

For me it is not good because when time of they got old they became worst to the the real kind of the son called.

I think giving up one's baby for adoption is the hardest thing a parent could do.But before doing this I guess they have their reasons.Like they could not support the baby needs or give them what their adopted parents can do for them.

Hi sarahruthbeth! I would rather look at it on a case to case basis. Justifying adoptino as a courageous act of a mother would justify irresponsible acts of women who enter into a relationship without thoughts of the outcome, particularly of an innocent child. Ultimately, the child is the victim, not the mother. I would agree with giving up a baby for adoption on specific valid reasons like rape victims who refust to go for abortion, for one. But I would be careful to generalize acceptance of adoption as a courageous act of a mother, also for the sake of the unborn child.

There are many reasons why people wanna adopt,but the most common would be when a couple wont be able to produce babies. I think that it is difficult for a couple making decisions on having to adopt someone that you don't know, its a really tough one, raising someone who is not your own blood. I really do think that couples who adopt are the ones who really wants to make a Great family. I really admire those kind of people for the unselfishness in them, imagine giving a life for an orphan is one thing that only people with good heart can do.

If we look at it that way, then yes, it is good to give the baby to someone who can do better than me.. I will always try n do my best to do the best possible for my baby... Giving the kid is highly courageous, Yes, it requires courage only to give one's own child to anyone else...

my sister in law and brother in law have adopted two little girls from China to do just that. they are sweet little girls and will definitely have a better life here in canada than they would have in China.

Back then it was a lot more shameful to have a child out of wedlock than to give up a child.

I think that adoption is very deserving. It is a way for childless couples and abandoned children to find a home together. It can be the best experience and opportunity to show how much you care.

Although I have never been in that position, I also think that is very courageous for a young mother to come to grips of reality of not being able to provide for her son/daughter. And instead of suffering through misery or poverty, have a clear understanding that giving up the baby for adoption is actually providing the baby all the necessary tools to survive and have a good life.

Yes you are correct. Giving our own child to another person, is a process which cannot be digested. But if we are unable to provide all the needs for the child, then it is better to give the child to a place where it get all the needs. We are living in this for the happiness of our child.So for the child happiness, it is not wrong to give up a baby for adoption, if we are clear that the child will live happily in another place