Just Got Through Another Argument

It looks like the problem is with her not you. The least you can do is point out to her that you're risking losing her trust for being honest. But then, her actions could just be a result of you not being too open with her on what you really feel. You said, that she has no idea that you worry too, maybe that's really the main reason of her actions, she thinks you're indifferent. Just remember that girls need to be pampered, they need constant assurance that they're the only one. If you think that her friends could be manipulating her, maybe they are because they are the people who your girlfriend go to to express her insecurities with you so in effect they could only be giving her advices based on what she told them. Long distance relationship is a challenge, mine didn't work out but if you want yours to work you have to do more to keep it going.

Honestly I cant blame her because if you cheated on her before when you are not working far that time.... what more now....men are weak..lets face it... shes paranoid with it now..I just think ,I hope shes not... But I think you should explain to her that you really love her and you dont have any intention to do what you did before (I hope so).. Or you can just ask her to work there too... (I know its not easy) or you can go to your province every weekend to see her... Call her everyday you can chat and text..whatever just to keep in touch...or if you think its really affecting your relationship just work to your province.... (I know its not a practical advise) Whathever happen theres always a way you just have to choose..I hope everything will be fine goodluck...

It takes more trust to handle a long distance relationship. And I think you did the right thing being totally honest with her. Now it is up to her.You have to ask Can she Truly trust you? If the answer is yes but she needs assurances, then stay together and work it out. But if she Has to check up on you 24/7 then sadly she isn't the one for you. Just because you cheated in the past does not mean you are cheating now. But being a accused can Truly tear you down and make the love fade. You have to talk all this out.

You know in every actions we do wither its good or bad there will always be a consequence or payback even we have repented. Do you believe on it? You cant expect that after your gf knew your once infidelity even you confessed it to her she will quickly get over it. Women or should I say some women including me lol are paranoid when it comes to cheating matters. So give her sometime to feel angry and suspicious. After awhile shell get over it and learn forgiveness. Meanwhile, dont get tired on giving your understanding to her. Be cheated while being so devoted in a relationship is really painful. There could be many factors women who are cheated be going thru. Not just jealousy but might as well insecurity. Insecurity of their partner's love and insecurity of their selves. Many question they have to answer and most of them are WHY. Just be persistent in showing to her your repentance and willingness to be a changed man. show to her your determinations to keep her in your life. Im sure she had lots of good memories with you before your cheating moment that are more worth reasons to keep her love and trust on you and in your relationship. This I told you because this is what I wanted from my husband. Just hope that your GF and I shares the same views on this matter. Oh before I miss it. you might be true she's being influenced by her "concerned friends". but friends are friends and boyfriend are boyfriend. Wish you both surpass this test of love and trust.

greetings! i admire your honesty, but i also can't blame your girlfriend for acting that way. you broke her trust and it would take a lot to regain it (if you can even regain it). she's probably paranoid about you doing it again, since you've done it before. i hope you can work things out and eventually earn her trust again.

Hi! I guess that women in general like to feel that they are assured of their men's love and loyalty. It is not enough that they know they are loved, but they have to feel it and see proofs of it. With this, I suggest that you show her how much you care for her and how much you love her. Regular communication is very important. A daily text or a weekly call would be appreciated. I'm sure she will appreciate it very much if you try to visit her regularly despite the distance. Women are said to be intuitive and sometimes they could this to a level which becomes unhealthy (example - negative thoughts, jumping into conclusions, etc) so if they feel and see that there is nothing to worry about, then they might stop being 'paranoid'.

Firstly, you are an honest man. Secondly, is it the only and real reason she argues with you? If it is, then give her more time. Maybe she can't believe you were cheating her, so your image in her mind changed. Maybe she is afraid she is not the only love of yours and lose confidence in your love. If so, have a good talk with her, to let her know, if you not really love her, you may choose conceal it. To let her know how important she is to you now. And let bygones be bygones. If there are other reasons for your arguement, then try to find them and solve them. Wish your relationship be mended as soon as possible.

Hi Frontvisions, a suggestion - get married. No. I have my reasons from your discussion. You are an honest guy no doubt on that and your logic and philosophy is really great. But the fact is that the distant relations dont just get on well. It is always the distance factor that keeps bringing in the insecurity thing. If you or she believes that this is a testing phase and you should get through with flying colors, it is okay but at end you are going to lose if this continues for long. I have seen people wait for long long years to get together but all were in the same location/proximity. A few who dared to move out either broke down or went unnoticed. So dear, take care and think it over again

one time for arugements for some matter for friends arguments to why for dicussion to solve to your self not a arguments for dicussion to your mylot for think.

i commend you for your honesty and bravery. not all guys have the courage to tell their partners everything (even the bad things) in their lives. moving on, i can't really blame your gf for being a little paranoid. specially having the knowledge that you cheated (even though that incident was from another time of your life). of course she'll be thinking that you were able to cheat once you could certainly do it again. (i hope not...) what i can advice you is to be more patient with her. she's under a lot of stress lately because of your new situation. (you being away from her) try to be more supportive and understanding as well. make her feel loved all the time specially now that your far. make her understand that you are trust-worthy and loyal to her. i hope things go well for you and your gf. good luck... ohhh, and one more thing... don't forget to pray. :)

Long distance relationships are quite hard to deal with especially if you started out always being together.You are miles apart now so it would really take sometime to make adjustments.Open communication i guess would help both of you.Its given, you said you cheated but its part of your past-you were able to openly tell her about it.I think she is dwelling too much on that past but who can blame her probably she loves you that much and she doesn't want to lose you.Arguments worsen your relationship. Why not sit down and talk.Make it possible that you gain her trust again.Maybe, compromise! If you are really meant for each other, time and fate will make a way whether you are poles apart or just within the city.