Can a women and men just be friends without...or falling in love?

@mark98 (567)
China
January 25, 2011 7:38am CST
Can a woman and men just be friends without eventually growing some kinda attraction or falling in love? Even if there is already or was a strong spark between them...can those two people be friends without completely falling madly on love with each other?
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13 responses
25 Jan 11
Yes I have many male friends and have never had any feelings for them, I think if you already have a spark for them then that is different and it will lead to something more than friends.
@mark98 (567)
• China
26 Jan 11
Friendship first,and then there may be love,could you?
26 Jan 11
I was friends with my husband for a few years before we started dating so I think this is a great way to start a relationship.
@mark98 (567)
• China
27 Jan 11
Me too.I think the relationship may be only love at first sight is not the case.
@alokijon (665)
• Malaysia
26 Jan 11
Yes we can. I have so many female friends and we are very close and some even married. We just visit each other, hang out together even clubbing together. The main point in the relationship withou falling in love is that...respect each other. We have to respect that men and women are not the same. Single and married also diferent. If we know how to differentiate these issues we will have a lot of respects from and to our friends. Another things is that we do make mistakes. So we have to forgive each other. Then, we can for men and women be just friends without falling in love. Oh ya if your friends are already married, try to know their spouses so that their spouses know who you are and see..you have wider your friends' circle.
@mark98 (567)
• China
26 Jan 11
Thanks for your sharing.
@jhartana (1084)
• Australia
25 Jan 11
Of course they can be friends without falling in love. Though I am a married man, I still have female friends, including those who I got attracted to before and I once had feelings to them. Until now we're still remain as good friends. We're still active in church service. My heart is now belonging to my wife, but I can still showing care and compassion towards others. The same goes to my wife, though she has different past and did not want to remember her past lovers.
@mark98 (567)
• China
26 Jan 11
I agree wiht you. I am also a married man,but my female friends is reduced. I think this is my own reasons.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
26 Jan 11
Why not, it is possible. It happens to me once. There is a girl I like so much, but eventually it was a huge misunderstanding. She never likes me, and I just deeply falling in love with her. So, the ending is I am a fool of myself, and I hate to admit it. She never treat me like a lover, or anything, she just treat me like a best friend, that is all.
@mark98 (567)
• China
26 Jan 11
I am afraid I take the liberty,If the girl was also like you ,may not be the case.
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
hello mark98! i really believe that a man and a woman can remain friends without completely falling in love with each other. I do also believe that friends of opposite sexes can have some spark or attraction between the two of them but either they're already both committed to someone else or would rather have such a platonic relationship than risk losing each other's friendship through engaging in romantic love, they remain real friends without benefits. I say this through experience. I have gained friends, males, who had been close to me, and i acknowledge that there was some attraction between us but we have chosen to remain platonic and become real buddies, because we realized its more important for us to be friends than lovers. It would just complicate things and that's a situation we were not ready to face. Besides, we both have other relationships which are also into our friendship and betrayal could be such that it would be difficult to heal, when the people involved are friends and close ones.
@mark98 (567)
• China
26 Jan 11
You did a very successful relationship in friends.
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
i've been in this situation once or twice before. sparks developed because of my closeness to a guy friend. but i opted to stay friends than pursue the spark because the friendship took some time for us to reach that certain level and i'm afraid that it could go to waste if things don't go well when we become a couple. i don't want to loose him that way. of course, there is a possibility that we can remain friends if things don't work out but it won't be the same. by prioritizing, a man and a woman can remain friends. even if there is that certain current buzzing between them.
@mark98 (567)
• China
26 Jan 11
Thank you for sharing.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Why not? I think there are many men and women that stay as good friends than committing to each other because they tend to save the friendship. Especially when these two opposites have their own relationships.
@mark98 (567)
• China
26 Jan 11
I very much agree with you.
@liolia79 (15)
27 Jan 11
I think sometimes they can can be just friends but sometimes there will be a spark:) Probably not love but some kind of attraction which may lead at least to a one night stand... Simply because you are close with a friend and one day you look from a bit different angle:)
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Of course they can, I made so many friends with females all my life and some of them are really attractive, even had that spark you are talking of in some of them but never ended in romance, even now we already have our own families, we are still very good fiends.
@mark98 (567)
• China
26 Jan 11
You must be very capable in handling the relationship between friends.
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
Of course it is possible. Especialy if neither of them don't give any malice in their relationship.
• United States
26 Jan 11
yes, it is very possible. just because their friends doesn't mean that any feelings with develop. that would mean it's possible for you to fall in love with any person potentially if you get to know them.
@e_mendo2 (127)
• United States
26 Jan 11
Yeah of course they can! I have a bunch of friends who are girls but we don't share an interest in each other.
@shawn824 (25)
• United States
26 Jan 11
I dont know. But if you watch the movie no strings attached it is basically based on that idea