Have you ever been in a middle of a fight between your friends? what did you do?

Yeah...I have met the situation that when two of my friends had a fight and after that they started a "cold war", but they would like to seek solution from me. To be honest, it is not a easy task for they are all my best friends and I know what caused their fight is quite sensitive. But I would like try my best to calm them down and comfort them with the facts, and provide suggestions for them to deal with the embarrassment and I will be happen to see them restore their good relations.

I got into a fight like that too- it was originally just us (my friend and I0 then this girl became our friend too. My other friend and the girl fought for some silly reason and I kind of took the side of the new girl- I'm a bit confused at that time.I wish I didn't take sides, but I kind of pity the new girl since she didn't have lots friends and my friend had many.. After a few months we got back together again..

hi celeste I worked with a young brat who did not want to page but be a clerk so she paged maybe ten vbooks then sauntered in to the clerks office abd hung around doing no thing while we shelved her damned books. come one day my boss asked me why I was behind and i told her bluntly I am doing the new girls work and my own. she went into the clerks office,summoned the girl to her office and shut the door. the brat came out in tears got her coat and was gone., I had had enough and when I was sc olded for not getting my own work done I blew u p and told her what she should have been seeing for herself.

Being caught in the middle of friendships is not a comforting place to be. i have been there a time or two before. No matter what you do or say, one of these friends will not understand. sometimes it is better to let friends overcome their differences alone.

hello celeste! i had been in the middle of a fight between friends and it was not a very desirable situation to be in. However, being always the pacifier of the group, i mediated between my fighting friends and facilitated a reconcialiatory dialogue wherein they were able to express their feelings and opinions on what had transpired between them. When the dialogue turns nasty, i intervene, telling them that is below the belt and is uncalled for and all that blah, blah. However, most of the time, i was just there, listening to them, letting them realize on their own, their own faults and contributions to the fight. I did not acted as judge, just the mediator. I was glad when all my efforts were awarded. My friends reconciled their differences and we remain friends until now. The most valuable lesson i have learned though when friends fight, is to never take sides. Since they're all your friends, siding with anyone would create factions and most of the time, when your fighting friends reconcile, you would be the one left out, since in the first place, you were not included in the fight and you just took sides, which makes it really bad for some people.It would be better to stay in the middle and keep the hold on all your friends by mediating and facilitating dialogues for them to reconcile in times when they don't agree with one another.

i've been in that situation once or twice already. i make it a point to never take sides. first, it'll never help the situation if you start backing one up against the other. second, it's kindda petty and immature to be taking sides. and third, i like peace and harmony. i always try to be the mediator but that never really works if both party is not willing to co-operate. so what i do is wait for them to cool-off and be ready to talk in a calm, reasonable manner. i never try to push the issue of reconciliation because it will just trigger the stubbornness of both party. i let them figure things out in their own time.

i told them its their personal matter and i dont need to be choosing sides.

Yeah, I have been experienced situation like this for many times. When I was in high school, two of my female friends had a big quarrel and since then they even don't say a word to each other. But both of them are my good friend and I am a kind of awkward. I tried to make them forgive each other but I failed. So, every time I can just hang out with one of them and it make things a little difficult. But I handled it. Fortunately they don't blame me for I kept friendship with the other one.