Etiquette and Good Manners?! Are you interested?!

Ever since I can remember I've been against etiquette. When I was really little I'd fight my parents every step of the way when going to a fancy restaurant, etc. They'd tell me to put my napkin on my lap, and I'd ask, "Why? I'm not going to use it there!" Etiquette was made up at some point in history as a guidebook to how people should behave in certain situations. Some person had to have made it up according to what they believed should have been the rules. I think etiquette's rules were meant to be broken. Good manners? It depends. Common courtesy and being polite is something people should do simply because we're all fellow humans. The obvious things you shouldn't do...show up to dinner naked, comment on a person's weight, say please and thank you where applicable. But putting a napkin on a lap? Being forced to cut food with a knife rather than the side of a fork? Ridiculous. If anyone notices you are breaking those rules, it only speaks of them.

I think etiquette is very important. It's really just a matter of caring about how others feel and making them feel comfortable. It would be a better world if people would mind their manners and behave to a certain standard.

I think the basis of good manners is love and respect.. if we have that, one will always behave as a lady or gentleman.. As far as which fork goes where and that sort of thing, I don't much care about that

my wife hates people hwo are like that. and that includes me har har har. she is a person who always says thank you, sorry, excuse me. but for me i guess it is needed when you want people to respect you. if you are a person with manners then people will treat you differently that the rude ones. etiquette for me does not mean that you need to follow rules... its just that you spot a good person when you see one because of good conduct. if you can improve and i think that is good.goodluck.

It's a good practise and everyone around you will admire and will be influenced... Carry on and do what's best for you... Everything that you will act or say will always reflect on you. It's a BIG work, but in the end you will be the one whom will benefit from it.

hi,soleya,I think etiquette is very important!especially for yourself's mettle!

The fact of the matter is, that people do care. It is wrong to set your life examples by looking at how young people under 25 behave. Because those kids don't have a clue. And no-one can climb the ladder of success in this life without good manners and etiquette. If you don't have those, nobody will give you the time of day. People judge you on your appearance and what you have to say for yourself. And it is as much about what you have to say, as how you say it. Even if you are very good at your job, you will not be promoted to a higher position in a company if you don't have good manners and etiquette. You CEO needs to know that he can invite you to diner without you embarrassing him in public.

The very best etiquette is not to never give offence but never to take it. Treat the beggar and the lord the same all the best urban

I would say that it really depends on the situation. If you are among friends whom you can really be yourself with, then etiquette doesn't seem to be a requirement, but you still have to be conscious on how you should treat your friends. When you are in a particular occasion, let's say a formal gathering, I think its quite obvious that one should behave properly and appropriately in that particular event. Sometimes, when I am not sure of what I should do in such events, even though I don't attend to such events that much, I would observe other guests and from them, I would know how I should behave which I hope is according to the event that I am in. (^_^ )

hi soleya I think common sense should provide us with the basic good manners out in public. We do not need some person's ideas on good manners as most of us know those rules we need to eat in public, to talk to people, to introduce someone to our friends, et c. common sense should always be able to tell us do not eat with your mouth open, do not 'push into a line, caring for others should tell us to wait our turn 'and so many other daily things our mothers taught us should be embedded in our minds so we do not have to go to some stupid book to do what should be inate in all of us.

I think that some picky little rules, such as no black shoes in summer, no white shoes in winter are out. But I think, at a minimum, saying please, and thank you, and dressing appropriately for an occasion will never be out.

I do not think that good manners and etiqutett will go out of style nor should it be terminated by secioty. proper behavor is esssual for any sciiety to funchtion. the standers of etiquette may change and evlove but it will never go out of style.

I think etiquette and good manners are things that people take for granted. I'm sure that most people here of age would agree that these things were learned at home or at least in pre- or early school. It is so far back in the past that no one seems to put importance on it. And then wonder why a lot of young people grow up to be disrespectful. I think emphasis has to be given back on learning these basic things at home and in school.