my love situation.. responds needed.. advices are highly appreciated
@curiouscookie (15)
Philippines
January 25, 2011 5:28pm CST
so here's my story.. it'll be long but it's very interesting..
i met this guy summer of the year 2009.. we'll it was like any summer i've had. boring and predictable. you see, i've never had any suitors or boyfriends.. it's not that im ugly or anything. it's just that im very intimidating for guys (that's what they say). i punch harder, ,im always smarter, im one of the girls who'd beat a guy on a video game. for short, im one hell of a rival for a boy... since i was on my first year of high school, i've been waiting for someone to stand up and fight me like a man. someone who would beat me in everything that i do best. someone who's strong enough to weaken my knees. we'll he was a weee bit hard to look for.
anyways
back to summer. i was wasting every single boring minute texting nonsense about evrything under the sun then there he was. i got his number from a friend nd txted him. i didnt want any relationship with a stranger but there was this thing about him that was just pulling me back. and I KNEW I WAS IN LOVE WITH A GUY I'VE NEVER EVEN MET. if you believe in soulmates and felt it, you'd understnd
it was like a magnet that no matter how haard you try to ignore,it'll gradually pull you back.
and because of this kind of ituation, my mom forced us apart. now, we're keeping our reltionship and no matter how badly i want to shout out his name and say what i feel,i cant coz i don't want to choose between him and my family. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH THAT I CAN'T LET GO...
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8 responses
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Does this mean that you haven't met this guy in person yet until now despites your relationship? This sounds like a teenage romance novel or a movie.
When I was young I used to have the same experience. I was almost obsessed with this guy on the phone but i saw him in person. When we met the feeling was more intense. I thought that was love, but I was too young to know what real love is. Like you, I was drawn to him like magnet and couldn't let go. But i have learned to forget him through time and realized that wasn't real love after all.
Take your time! It's too early to say that you love him so much you can't let go. Try to get to know him better, in the future you will know. Listen to your mom, sometimes they really know much more than we do.
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@curiouscookie (15)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
we're almost on our second anniv now :) and if i tell you the whole story, you'd really feel like reading a novel :) there was a time when i cried the whole night because my mom didn't want me to talk to him.. then i had a fever for a week.. and he contacted someone eventhough he knows it'll put him in trouble just to check if im ok... :) we met when we on our 7th monthsary :) now im leavig for california and he wants me to come back for him.. and if i took too long then he'll follow me..
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
wow i am glad to hear that you are on your second year already. distance will tell if you are really meant for each other. hope that everything will work out even if you are far from each other. Good luck!
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@sweetcatastrophe (112)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Wow. Your story actually reminds me of good ol' high school and college days. Anyway, how long have you two known each other? Do you really know the guy enough for you to fall in love with him that much? Sometimes, it's just this feeling that you feel so much excitement from him because of the way he texts you. Most youth feel that way; they think they're actually in love.
Don't worry. If the guy really loves you, he'll find a way. No matter how hard the situation is, he will stick around and find a way for you to be together. If not, then he is not worth it. Perhaps you feel this way because it's the first guy who ever made you feel challenged? Be patient, girl. The right guy will come around. I learned that one the hard way, believe me. :)
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@curiouscookie (15)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
actually i wasn't able to put tell the whole story... :) he left his current girlfriend that time for me.. and we lasted 7 months before we finally saw each other.. and when i saw him, there was this thing that made me feel numb and i didn't know what made me hug him... it was like i knew him already and it was like i've already met him... ayways, we're almost on our second anniversary now :) and i'm leaving for california next month.. he wants me to come back for him and he said he'll wait for me.. if he cant thern he'd follow me.. :)
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
26 Jan 11
Hi curious cookie,
Either you love and stand for your love or dont love at all. All your life you have been stronger than most men and you always waited for a bigger man and when you finally found him then what? I mean you were man most of time of your life but when it was time to be real man ( even though you are a girl) you chickened out. What would you say to a guy who would leave a girl because his family donot approve of her. So my advise is dont let go your love.
@curiouscookie (15)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
i really didn't chicken out.. you see i'm still fighting for it.. for 2 years i've been secretly fighting or it :) BTW, im only 16 so yeah :)
@PSTordilla (88)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
Love is often about difficult choices.
I suggest trying to get your family to accept that you care for each other a lot.
Family often rejects others for various reasons but usually its because they do not
know the person well enough. Yous should try to let them more about him.
If you cannot really get the family to like him think really hard about your love for
him and weigh that against your love for you family. If after that you still are
undecided how to resolve this then follow what you feel strongest for but be prepared
to deal with the consequences of your choice.
@curiouscookie (15)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
i like your advice too :) not judging but implying reality :) thanks so much. yeah, they really don't understand him and his life. he's an orphan.. really, there's a lot of twists and turns in this story and a lot of people says that i can evn do a movie for my love tory :)) maybe i will soon :)
@lexirose7350 (459)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
Have you two met personally? Sometimes we mistake our feelings as love but it is not always the case. I understand what you are going through, it's your first attempt in relationship, right? Excited? You should be but is it not better if you two meet personally and see things for yourself?
Moms dont know everything but they sure do know what is best. Listen to mom and listen to your heart too. Sometimes it is good to use your heart but it is also not bad to use your mind. If you are actually soulmates, then time will tell. You are still young,there is so much life ahead of you. Enjoy, enjoy and enjoy!!!
@curiouscookie (15)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
yeah we've already met each other.. :) read unto my comments for you to get the whole picture :) thanks :)
@ellaiza (2)
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26 Jan 11
i'm 18, maybe my advice could help a little. I've been through the same situation when i was you age being on a relationship like that really sucks (no offences) you know why? you don't see each other eye to eye so you won't able to say that the guy loves you keeping your relationship is a big mistake not only for yourself but also for your family. you're too young to say that you're soulmates. i think your just imposing that you love him because you're just quite amazed of the idea that you love him.
@curiouscookie (15)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
not really. it doesn't really count on how old you are.. you may be a lot older than me but there are these experiences that i have and you will never understand.. we'll i just asked of advices and responds or same stories but don't judge please :) thanks anyway..
@Bloonana (36)
• United States
25 Jan 11
That is completely understandable. If you two really love each other and want to be together, no one else should care. You should just tell your family how you feel about him, and if they love you and care about your happiness, they'll let you be together.
@AMain23 (25)
• United States
26 Jan 11
Love which has been tested by distance and obstacles and has passed is true love. With that being said, it sounds like you are under a lot of pressue with wanting to keep the relationship alive, your family, and the California trip. That is a lot of obstacles to over come. If it is true love like you believe it is you two will find a way and will one day overcome these obstacles and end up together. I have a beautiful story of two people who had that undenying love for one another from first sight. They were each others first love. They were together for awhile but somehting caused them to seperate. They both married other people. Well, neither of their marriages lasted. Years later they ran into one another again. They ended up having the same passion and love for the other. Well, and behold they married. Sometimes the timing may not be right but first loves are hard to forget and the ones that last are truly special. I wish you luck and I am sure you and your match will find a way to work it out with patience and dedication to one another.
