Don't You Hate When You're Not the One Cooking And . . . . .

In my opinion, if you don't like what someone has prepared for you, you should nicely and respecfully tell them how they could change the way they make it to better fit you. Also, you could just tell them to separately prepare yours in the fashion of your choosing, or you could just stop whining and prepare it yourself.

Sometime when my husband said he want to cook something for us I'll stay in the kitchen like a guard, lol. Because he really like to add more salt, more sauce, more this and that. He prefer the stronger taste, but he didn't complain my cooking. I think maybe because some people have the passion to make their food more tasting compare for what they regularly eat. Maybe you can talk about this with your friend, that not to often to cook in an unhealthy way. Good day.

So why don't you take over the cooking and give your room mate a break? Actually I don't mind too much what people put on my food. I'm just so grateful that I haven't had to cook it that I'll eat what I'm served quite happily!

Well, that's where some communication comes in. Can't he add all that crap after he cooks it to his plate and leave yours plane? I like butter and feel it is actually more healthy in a lot of ways. And I like alot of it on my potatoes and I like pepper as well. Tell ya what-- I will eat it and you can have what we are eating here.

I read from your answer that you cannot cook due to health problem. Then, couldn´t you talk to him about your feelings for those amounts of spices? If he wants more on his plate he can make extra sauce for him. I invite friends a lot and some of then need no salt or no meat dishes. There is a way if there is a will. Even salt can be placed later on, in each plate. When I have a barbecue, I wrap in foil a salmon marinated in salt and a bit of lemon for a friend who cannot eat meat. We are all happy and it is not hard. Try talking with him.

i am just the opposite, i like everything with lots of sauce on it the more the better i eat nothing plain not even ff.. i dip them in shrimp sauce and the steak sounds goood.. i wish i had someone to cook for me .. i do all the cooking here and would love to have someone cook for me..

Hi, the best solution for this would be tell him the way you like to eat and tell him not to add anything more than required. Once in a while, it makes the food special but not everytime. The best thing for this would be start cooking yourself and give him.

I read your comment above about why this person is cooking for you so I better understand your situation. I think if this person is cooking for you because of your health concerns they should probably be cooking according to what you want or preparing your food separately from theirs. If I were you I would try to let this person know (nicely-because I don't want spit in my food lol) how I feel about their cooking and what they could change. That being said, in my household a couple of family members do the cooking for everyone. I often get annoyed because they constantly cook things that I don't eat (shrimp or fish) and hardly cook things that I do eat. My uncle also uses a lot of ginger when he cooks. I liked it in the beginning but after a while he was just using it too much. A few people in the household did not like it. I personally didn't say anything however because I have no right to complain when I can make something myself. I don't know how to cook but I can learn. I also don't complain about them cooking fish and shrimp all the time because I choose not to eat that because I don't like it, not because of allergies or anything, so I feel like I don't have a right to complain. I haven't really had a major problem like this in any restaurants however so I guess I can consider myself to be lucky, so far.

hi. i think it will be more helpful to talk to the cook how you like your food done. it wouldn't hurt much, just a little. those who cook are always disappointed when the ones they prepared were not appreciated. if the person is receptive, he will learn that it would be to his benefit and for the benefit of those who will eat.

Hi again Zoe, Well, like practically everyone else in this discussion, I answered before finding out about your difficulties with heat from the stove, & that this is a paid cook. What I suggested still applies, but your disclosure does add another dimension to all this. I don't know if it's possible to update the original discussion post. If so, please add that info so people's replies can be more helpful. Anyway, this may seem extreme, but since it seems to involve multiple room mates, this is an idea that needs to be adopted by the group. Such ideas can run into considerable resistance even if they make perfect sense. You'll need to be able to push ideas through in various situations, anyway, so you might as well use this as a laboratory. What I suggest to help is a book called BUY-IN. It's new. It's by John P. Kotter & Lorne A. Whitehead. It's about how to successfully deal with the way people (often irrationally) shoot down new ideas. &, the book's pretty short! :D Sunshine & Blessings, Giovani

I find it difficult when I am invited to someone else's house for dinner. I am used to be the one at home cooking. sometimes I offer my suggestions whether they are welcomed or not. I just can't help myself in the kitchen.

I don't cook so I cannot really complain about foods being prepared for myself. However, often I would say: please use a small dose of oil, no msg, no addictive, small amount of salt, medium cooked for vegetables and so on. I did this also when I ordered foods from a restaurant.

o.o whats wrong with pepper? I love pepper even tho i hear to much may raise your blood pressure. My mom would sometimes cook like what your saying but i find that when i tell her about it she wouldnt add as much so sometimes just politely voicing your opinion changes things ^^

It bothers me so much... actually, not just with cooking. When I see people do things that I know I could do better, it irritates the crap out of me. My grandfathers wife does this most often. She was basically raised with a mother that cooks (who actually CAN cook!) so she thinks she knows everything about the kitchen... god is she wrong. The first thing I thought of when I read this was one time when my pap had gotten fresh deer meat- straight off the bone (it was hunting season.. he lives in the woods..) and she was going to make it for dinner. With fresh, organic meat like that, you'd think you would treat it like a delicacy... what does she do with it? COOK IT IN KNOCK-OFF CREAM OF MUSHROOM SOUP AND GAME FLAVORING! I was fascinated... So, yes, I can see where you're coming from.

Well it is hard when others cook for you. I am vegan so others rarely cook for me! If my mum is making mashed potato, she'll leave some boiled potato separate for me so I can add my vegan butter and soy milk. Perhaps this is what you can say to your room mate? Maybe say something like "I have decided to eat healthy, I'm trying to lose a few pounds/work on my health, would you mind just not putting extra butter on mine and leaving my steak plain please?" That way everyone's happy.

I know what you mean... my hubby loves garlic, and spices and everything else... and I am a plain jane when it comes to eating.... give me simple basic foods, like just cook up the potatoes and let me top it with what I like to add to it. so now he cooks things He has finally gotten the hint when I stopped eating things because they were over powered with everything else besides the actual food that it started out to be...we split the cooking and when my food comes out more plain and he has to add to it, he has gotten the hint so he cuts back and only adds to his plate now...even our kids wont eat his food. LOL

Food is a touchy subject for me. It is this kind of experience that made me define how I will serve food to others. It is partially fueled by watching parents fight with their children to eat ALL the slop on their plate, followed by tears and yelling! My kids were encouraged to tell me what they liked/didn't like about my cooking. Making my mother come to the conclusion my kids had "high expectations" from the cook. I just said, "Mom, you can't dump a quart of creole sauce (home canned)on long spaghetti and call it Italian Spaghetti!" She started making her own marinara sauce. You should have seen what she did to good steak". If I were you I'd start saying, I already ate! I am diabetic, but I don't expect people to eat diabeticly. But anyone who is diabetic has plenty of options. I actually started an online, fun, diabetic cook book all my friends can see. They actually get excited about eating at my home! You are not whining!

hahha the friend of your is too much dependent of additives to make the flavor be good in taste. yah agree, its so nice to prepare food with purely natural ingredients. maybe he/she is not in cooking and add the condiments so that the food he/she prepare be like to anyone. if i were you just confront him/her, tell frankly in a diplomatic way so that by next time, there will be changes.