How do you control your anger?
By kendedes2011
@kendedes2011 (2712)
Indonesia
14 responses
@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 11
Emotional intelligence includes self-control, passion and perseverance, and ability to motivate yourself and survive deal with frustration, ability to control impulses and emotions, not to exaggerate the pleasure, set the mood and keep the stress load is not stifle the ability to think, to reading the innermost feelings of others (empathy), and pray, to maintain relationships with the best, the ability to resolve conflicts, and to lead themselves and their surroundings. These skills can be taught to children. The people who controlled impulses lacked self-control, lack of ability to control the moral suffering.
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@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 11
Everything associated with the character is difficult to be changed, but not impossible.
@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 11
All people may have different ways to overcome this, according to the level of emotion and intelligence in control, and the most difficult thing is like your explanation.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
I am a quick tempered person. I am quick to anger but it would quickly dissipate.
Because of that, i hurt a lot of people and i don't like that. What i will do though when i get angry, is i would just let it vent out - say my piece. Then, i would defend myself for being that and would apologize for mt outburst of temper. But most of the time i don't apologize (because i feel ashamed to put it in words) but compensate by doing or giving something nice to them.
In the office, they all know i am quick tempered , but they say what is good with me is i quickly get out of it and don't hold a grudge afterward.
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@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 11
Really? You are the people who think healthy in establishing sociality, I could see from a settlement that you travel, without having to restore the state is by giving the words, sometimes the words just contain a nonsense, a good way to deliver apology is to act A good and fun for others who have felt the impact of our anger, you good.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
29 Jan 11
During those times when we have offended someone with our outburst of anger, it is best to compensate to that person by doing something that will appease the offense. Thanks for liking my response and giving me a good mark.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Jul 11
When I can control it I just try to breathe in and out or get away from the thing that makes me feel anger. I will try to distract myself from it as well, watching t.v., talking with friends, or going out for a walk seems to help a great deal for me.
@Bianca_mergillano (1067)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
Hi there!
Its hard to control anger. When I'm mad, I just shout for once and that would be enough for me. Or sometimes I just cry so that I won't hurt somebody with my words. I also lock myself inside the room and write or do something there so that I won't be mad and the best and effective way for me to control it is to eat my favorite food then my anger is gone. :)
@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 11
Hehe, I think it is the nature of women in general, and I was just like you in this case, even, I'm more melancholy.
@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 11
I frequently experience a situation where myself eager to wreak the pent anger without any apparent reason, and to the point that I was afraid to mingle with the other
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
Yes, I know.. I kind of had an experience like that. I was angry at some of my classmates for some reason but didn't really let it out, then i had fever. When our conflict was resolved, my fever began to go down. We definitely need to let our emotions out.
@godslove25 (402)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
It really hard to control temper especially when unexpected circumstances happened that I can't really control myself to get angry. But I also observed to myself when my temper gets high I deeply inhale and exhale to relieved for a moment. At least it gives help for myself can released the stress.
@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 11
Prior to control her anger, I search for the cause we are angry.
All I get is:
- disappointed
- great anxiety because of the existence of feeling attacked or manipulated
- driven by something that feels threatening
Then I practiced first by recognizing the anger began to slowly emerge from second to second. I am living this feeling of concentration.
The way then I get is:
1. closed his eyes for a moment, breathe deeply, trying to concentrate on the breath flow in and out.
2. immediately take the white water cold.
3. silent prayer.
4. monologue in the mind to fight the feeling that comes with logic analysis: come now to what I'm angry, obviously this would not solve the problem.
5. if it still does not work, I will soon leave for a moment from the situation, and repeat steps 1-4 earlier.
Only this can I say.
Hopefully useful.
Greetings.
@xinshunhe (132)
• China
26 Jan 11
Our mood just acts like when we growing the pets. We ought to know it very well firstly in order to raise it,then we got to make out ways to keep it happy or calm.
I suppose not any of you have ever had the thought of hurting or killing it,don't you?
@angel_of_privacy (66)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
i used to loose my temper easily and quite frequently... i usually do a long tongue- lashing on the cause of my anger... (be it a person, thing or situation)
now i'm a little calmer... thanks to my hubby... he made me realize that being angry on things i don't have control over is pointless... he also made me aware that i hurt a lot of people when i loose my temper...
so now before i really loose it, i close my eyes, breathe deeply and count 1-10... it usually calms me down... i try to exercise my patience as well by stretching it more...
@fjclolazy (859)
• China
24 Feb 11
Hi,I would think about the things again and again.It's worthy to being angry?Maybe I wouldn't be angry soon.
If I really get angry,I would go to eat more and more.Or think about something really funny,or find some good news.And so on...
If u really get angry,tell me,maybe I have some good ideas for u...Welcome!