Have you ever regreted dating somebody?
By akangirl
@akangirl (2436)
India
January 26, 2011 7:27am CST
Personally almost everybody has an ex but some people part in mutual consent and some relation ends up in tears and that time we regret why the hell i even dated this guy or girl? Did you ever had that moment in your life. I regretted dating a guy three years back.If i can go in past and change anything then i would not to fall in love with him.
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
YES i do. there is this one lady who keeps calling me at home i don't know who gave her own house phone... but knowing my brother its either him or some people who knows my dad. she keeps calling and i dont talk to her for i really dont know her. but since it was very annoying already that she keeps calling my brother told me for once and for all please go out on a date with her. so i did. it did not turn out that well... then after a week she was spreading a rumor that i got her pregnant when there was nothing intimate happened to us. she was not my ex nor my crush, i never should've listen to my brother.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
26 Jan 11
There was one guy whom I would never have dated had he not asked me to watch a rather expensive musical play. I couldn't say no. He told me he'd like to see me again but I did not feel the same. I felt bad---like I was some sort of user. When we were going home I was already silent and he felt the tension as well. I didn't want him to take me home and kiss me good night. He kind of gotten the hint and haven't contacted me again. I think he regrets taking me out, too, because he spent a lot of money on nothing.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
26 Jan 11
I don't believe in regret. I believe everything happens for a reason, and the people that come in and out of our lives do so for a reason. Perhaps to teach us a lesson in life, or perhaps just to be something we need for a time, and then they leave our lives when we no longer need them.
Also I have to add, that if you don't experience a bad relationship, you can't appreciate a good one!
I have been with a lot of guys that I wish I hadn't. I made bad choices when I was in my late teens. If I had to do it all over again I don't think I could make the same choices as I did.. but I know that if I hadn't made those choices, I wouldn't be who I am today.
The last boyfriend I had was a cheater. He hurt me terribly. Because of him, I've lost faith in men, I didn't think there was an honest man left on the planet. But, because of being cheated on and being insecure, I began to see things in my best friend (who was a guy) like the fact that he was really faithful and loyal. So, I ended up marrying him. If it hadn't been for the ex, I never would be married to my husband. I've been with hubby 10 years now.
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@akangirl (2436)
• India
26 Jan 11
You are lucky my friend as there are many people who get cheated and loose faith in relations and self confidence gets low too but there is nobody to talk to because the person she trusted most, gave her whole heart cheated her.Its hard to love again.May you have a great relationship ahead also
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
yeah.. i went out with a guy before, back when i was still in college. he's a friend of a friend, he kind of like me and am just cool with him since he's showing effort so why not.. we went out for a while and i later realized that he's a kiss and tell type of person. i don't like that.. something happened that made me regretted i went out with him. he bad mouthed my friend and he involved me but continue to go out with us even though we're not inviting him then do the same thing again..
i'm no longer seeing him and it's been years now. i don't know what to react if i see that guy again. but for sure, i'm never going to be near him even for an hour.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Never I did and I think I won't. I believe that every person who's been a part of our lives gave us significant experiences that mould us into what we are now. If not because of that ex, I would not know how to value happiness when I'm with him. And if we're not separated, I would not even have the chance to meet my present who let me find true happiness...that's life.
There's a saying "don't cry over spilled milk", and this is true, for we won't discover our strength if we would not feel the pain.
Probably you're just in pain, but in due time that you get over it and find your happiness, you probably thank him for letting you go. Always appreciate the present and take things light. Though, it always says that it's easier said than done, but just let think positive and open your heart and mind for everything that lies ahead for us. Good luck.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
29 Jan 11
You know, I don’t think there are not too many adults out there who have not done that at one time or another (LOL)! I dated someone many years ago who hurt me very badly and looking back I can see that there were a lot of warning signs from the very beginning but I fell so much in love I did not take any notice so after two years of insecurity he left me hurt and heart broken. I too wish I never fell in love with him, in fact now I wish I had never met him!
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
26 Jan 11
I am married now, but before I met my husband I dated other people. When I think about those relationships today, I know that I would have made other choices today.
My first longterm relationship wasn't a very good relationship and there were many problems, I stayed with him for a long time, and today I know that it would have been much better for me to leave him instead of accepting his behaviour. On the other hand I have learned something from that relationship, and the experience that I got made many things easier for in my next relationship.
My second longterm relationship ended in a bad way. I was very sad and hurt, and right after it happened I often wished that I had never met him, because that would have saved me from the pain, but today I know that I also learned something from that relationship.
My third longterm relationship (the man I dated right before I met my husband) was better the other two other relationships, but I am even more happy with my husband. I have never had a better relationship than the one I have today.
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@anjalisharma_iipm (805)
• India
26 Jan 11
Yes i regretted one day. I went to meet a boy for marriage. We both went to a cafe to have coffee and for time to know each other. It was our first meeting. As a person wise we both liked each other but some incident made the moment very strange. He was feeling very down in from of me due to language problem. He started running away from our date and was trying to cut it short. But except this every thing was very nice.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
A lot of people at one time or another have regretted dating someone. The reason why they had regrets vary. Some dates turn out horrific. The guy or the girl was crass, indecent or arrogant. Some dates turn out great. You fall in love but eventually the relationship turns sour. Usually one fails the expectations of the other and that's why regret sets in. It's hard to get over something that you thought was good at first. I just think of those things as learning experiences to help me cope with whatever pain, frustration or even hatred that it had brought me.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
30 Jan 11
Hi dear,
There are a good chance of possibility for an ex for everyone because we are not alone here and all are human beings. So nothing so shocking in it. Still, many are just escaped form such an instances and quiet a few has remarkable experiences even. For me, the friendship I had all are so genuine and I could not count anyone with such a friendship and only because of this reasons, I can't get anybody into this category.
Thank-s
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
26 Jan 11
My guess is that you can not meet that true love of which there is no way to escape. No matter how you try and no matter how much you say you no longer love her, that you do not want that relationship, you can not finish it easily and get rid of feelings. If you are sincere and deep feelings of love, you can not give up on them from day to day.Because of the strife, everyday life-is-that's how those feelings may decrease in intensity, but if both partners Do not try to rekindle the "fire" that I once felt in the heart, feelings will vanish in time. If you truly love someone and give to it, you'll always regret that you tried maybe not enough, that you have not tried to go to that relationship and you want to take it from the beginning with the person, as long as love still there!All the best!
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@varichkzen (7)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Regret is not a thing for me, at first we agree to do such thing. So it means that we have to accept whatever maybe the consequences of our actions, may it be good or bad experience. Will as what other says things happen for a reason, that is why instead of looking for the bad things that happened why not look forward for the things that you learned in that experience. Because this bad moments that we have shape our life that is why be thankful instead of regrets. ^_^
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