Why you cannot say "no" when in fact...
By FX777222999
@FX777222999 (437)
Philippines
January 26, 2011 5:22pm CST
Why can't you say "no" when in fact, what you feel & want to answer is actually "no"? Like for example; You're together with your girlfriend/boyfriend, when suddenly, your best friend approach you and say, "Best friend, we have a party tonight, lots of handsome/beautiful people, want to come?". Would you answer "yes" or "no"? or lie in front of him/her? What's your reaction and why?
6 responses
@yoniarnon (1079)
• Israel
26 Jan 11
I will tell him i will go but with my girl, it can be the best than, hang out with your best friends in a cool party and when your girl is a round, every body happy :)
@blahokay1 (84)
• United States
26 Jan 11
Yeah, I really agree with this. I think I would tell my best friend, "Yes," I would go, but only with my boyfriend/girlfriend. Then if my best friend was all like, well we don't want you bringing her along, then I would tell him back that's the only way I'm gonna go. If he didn't understand that, then you can have no soul, and dump your boyfriend/girlfriend right there, or get some new friends. :)
@FX777222999 (437)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Well, accepting the offer in front of wife/husband/GF/BF is much better, if your partner's understanding enough of the situation. But, you have to refuse the offer, if you don't want to go or not, at least in her/his presence. Got your opinions guys.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I would say no in respect to my boyfriend. I would not entertain such informal invitations or rather rude . What if I am the girl? I certainly won't like it as it's clear as an insult on me!
@FX777222999 (437)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
You've got it very clearly edna. You're such an intelligent girl.
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
26 Jan 11
Sometimes, based on our commitments and responsibilities, we may want to do something and realize that we have to refuse although deep down we may want to do it. Its a normal reaction. It our concience or "super ego" influencing our decision. I would probably tell my best friend no outright and also explain why. You know, "I would like to but i really cannot because i am with my girlfriend tonight." There was a time when I found it difficult to say no to those close to me. But years of experiences has taught me that the word "no" is my friend and will help me avoid trouble more than the word "yes".
@FX777222999 (437)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Great Mr. ptower...your reaction's well accepted. You have an edge, you know..
@aeisle (377)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I know that this kind of feeling is common to most of us. Some even says that it's really hard to say no. I have also experience these situations where you really wanted to say no but just can't do it because of worrying about what the other side would feel. I've also remember this one question in our exam when I was actually applying for a job. It asks if I find it hard to say no to product vendors or if I could just say it no straightly. It got me realized that its actually true. I'm feeling a bit shy to turn down the vendor and just say no as quickly as I could. Then I'll be pretending to be hesitated at first but in the end, I'll just have to say no maybe after gathering all that courage I guess.
@FX777222999 (437)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
If you're on this situation, just decide at once if you say or no, if you are sure of yourself. Just a little training can make a long way. Train yourself to be professional in all your undertakings and you'll find that motivation to act and speak in front of others are very important on our daily undertakings. I've got you point.
