tell your husband ugliness

indahfth we are so human and need to relieve stress sometimes and there is no problem because you simply want to vent a little. This is one of the reason that I enjoy myLot as we come on here and relieve some feelings where as you get some objective advice and or simply someone to speak to. I am not married but I live with my boyfriend for 5 full years and I for the first time am truly blessed. He is a wonderful man who treats me with total respect so thus far I have absolutely nothing to complain about. I understand that it is part of your religion to be private, but honey you need to release a little steam from time to time as not doing so you will become overly depressed and that will not be good for your health. I sincerely wish you the best and please remember we are here to discussion and never place judgment, ever.

Alloh SWT in surah Al Baqarah verse 187, tell us the parable which says : They are (wife) your garments and you are their garments. Alloh SWT compare the relation between husband and wife as clothing, subhanalloh, this gave us information that the equity between husband and wife. Not only wife that have to protect all kindness and ugliness of his husband (since the kindness of one to another is can be an ugliness for others), and also husband must do the same to his wife. Why Alloh SWT choose a clothes as the parable, lets we analyze: 1. Clothes beauty you, a husband and wife compliments each other, in this life and next. 2. Clothes are close to you, its protect your bare skin. Your spouse is close to you in that manner. 3. Clothes hide you. A husband and wife not suppose to discuss each other's their faults. 4. Clothes makes you comfort. You can describe by your own... :) Then, when you tell people about your husband ugliness, it just the same as you took off your clothes and get naked in front of people. Astagfirulloh... naudzubillah min dzalik...

well here in mylot you can almost talk about anything and maybe that is your way getting other's opinion in a way that you can also learn from them. When it comes to your brother, then maybe you should tell him beforehand to make it a secret whatever you are confiding. Remember that the negative things that you said about your husband will bounce back to you coz u are one as married couple.

Are you talking about physical ugliness, or behavior? If he is behaving in a way that upsets you, there is no problem, in my opinion, with discussing it with your female friends. Every woman needs her "girlfriends" as a support system.

I used to discuss things about my husband with friends and family. I think you need to respect your husband but you should be respected as well. If not it breaks the entire contract.

hi indahfth, talking to your husband didnt make u all the more happy havent you? or are you able to talk to him without him getting angry or upset with the topic you present? i dont think so. your husband married you supposedly to make you happy. husbands protect wives but why is it that his attitude making you upset and inferior? yes solutions are there, but marriage is not one sided. both listens to ideas and works on the solution. your brother loves you and it is best that he knows what is happening to you. he can give advises but it is still you who is going to decide what is best for your relationship. ann

I am agree with your last sentences "According to religion, a wife must not tell her husband ugliness to others". As you are staying with your husband's house and eating his earning, so you cannot tell any outsider about his ugliness. Of course you can tell it to his family members who are guardian type members and inside your family who is guardian type members and can do some remedy about your problems. But if you tell it to outsider and same time you stay with your husband you cannot disclose any odd or ugly behavior of your husband. This will be wise and perfect work.

I can't say I have never mentioned Hubbys faults, but unless I am very upset I don't do it. He is my best friend and you don't want to talk about your friends behind their backs.

It is a human need to have someone to confide in and it is a shame that you cannot do that with your husband who appears to be one of the causes of your unhappiness. In our culture communication between husband and wife is encouraged and if there is no friendship between a man and a woman it is difficult to sustain a healthy relationship. Your culture is different I know and I respect that. I would not feel bad for needing to talk your problems over with others; you are not doing to ‘ bad mouth’ your husband, you are simply sharing your concerns and asking for advice as you are not able to talk to your partner...

I am a husband, and I do not like, if my wife talk about my ugliness, to others. A husband and wife should keep the honor. The wife must respect her husband, as taught by religions.

iam man and off course i had not husband...:)

actually, we are human. all we have good and bad. may yr husband can have opinion about you. its happen. take good things. love husband. handsome is not important. but character is vital. keep smile. be happy.

I hope my does that, but I always think I am a handsome man so I am content myself.