Marriage, is it worth?- Let us have an honest discussion on this now

I think marriage is a wonderful institution, as long as both partners take the vows seriously. It is a commitment that both people have to make. If only one takes it seriously, it will not work. I'm pretty well fed up with marriage, personally. I've tried it, I can't find a man who will take the vows seriously or who will fullfil the promises he made so I've made the decision to live the rest of my life alone. Oh, I may date men but I won't be getting serious about them anymore. Who knows? The right man may come along when I'm in my 90's but I won't be holding my breath.

To me marriage is a gamble.Some win in it and some lose in it.Now days it is very hard to get a good and honest person as your spouse especially when you are going in for arranged marriage. For me marriage has made me a stronger and determined person.It has taught me many lessons of life and i can say that i have evolved as a very determined and strong willed person now.Moreover i am blessed with a son who has changed the meaning of my life.He is the only reason of my existence and for him only i am working so hard.

When I was a teenager , I was super skeptical about marriage. In fact , up till now I still am but I'm slowly improving. I am with the notion that marriage is for the good , better and best and shouldn't deteriorate someone's character. But whatever it is , any marriage is like growing up process; to become better .. a better husband or a better wife. And if fate has it , a better dad and a mom. Good topic here. Life is about learning and it never stops. So marriage is a learning journey of life. And even though I was skeptical about it and still a bit am .. I still believe that marriage is sacred and should be honored. And that the most important people in a marriage is the couple itself. They have to really be comfortable with each other and accept each others flaws because we are talking about 10 to 15 and more years in a marriage. I really admire people of last time where they could be married to each other for 20-30 over years until the day they die. Really respectable and this is my opinion: young couples should learn from them pretty much. The rate of divorces nowadays , it says a lot. But who is to know what goes on behind closed doors. Very good topic , sorry to take up much space here.

marriage ..is a tough call...U should fall into one,only if you think She or hE's the one for you..and you cant be any happier than this.. MArriage is always a nice thing to have..and children tend to keep the MArriage intact..and also remove difference between husband and wife...

My advantages: 1. I feel security. (Before marriage I felt a sort of un-security) 2. I get two angels as children. 3. Many of my needs are being fulfilled. 4. I am a queen and an important person in a small house. My disadvantages: 1. His problems has changed as my problems. 2. I lost the whole chances to show my talents, intelligence, skills. I just shut up in a house and expected to cleaning, cooking, washing, ironing and looking after my hubby. (because of my immigration to a unknown, non English speaking county) That is a great great silent pain. This is not happen to all ladies. this happen to some ladies after marriage. Nowadays internet helps me a bit. But to get the former position I have to work hard for years.

marriage really is not worth the hassle. If it ends in a divorce, the people will have to split their assets in half and this hurts a kid if they have one. if 2 people are deeply in love with each other they dont need a marriage certificate to say so.

So , what has kept you away from my lot all these days? Happy new year! Marriage is a necessary evil if you are not a loner and want children .If you are confident of going through life alone, without hankering for companionship and can be happy with your job or are dedicated to service then you do not need marriage at all. WHether it is a gain or pain depends on the individual's capacity to adjust, handle his/her partner without losing his/her own peace of mind .THe best thing about marriage is children.THe hardest thing is adjustment and compromise and if a partner is likely to be after another to the extent of making the other person lose identity, self-respect and peace then it is better not to stay married at all.

I have to say I don't see any reason to marry in this day and age. You can have kids without it. Once upon a time one Had to marry to properly have kids.You can feel a real connection where no other can break you apart without it. Once upon a time , marriage was the Only thing that kept a couple together. That is why to this day many see a straight couple who never marry as fearing commitment not understanding that the connection is Already there. They decided Not to marry , they didn't decide to keep it light an non binding!And if they are gay , in many places they Still can't get married so this is as close as they You can leave your love Everything. Once the Only by getting married you could leave all your possessions to your love. These days a well written will can do it for you. The only thing that a married couple has that a non married couple does not is the automatic right to visit at the hospital. But for me it isn't enough to make me marry a man I love.so for me it isn't worth it.

Hello vijayanths, I see that you are an Indian and so am I. If this is your picture, then I can say that we both are of somewhat same age. Now I will give you my honest comments on worthiness of marriage First of all I think the age of marriage in India, which is 21/18 (Male/Female)..is not matured age at all. Since our culture is not free-minded, at this age boys and girls have no proper knowledge of what marriage is. What they know at this age is , just incomplete knowledge that they gather from what they see around them, what they see in movies, some desires due to growing age. etc etc....For example, I got married, because all were getting married.....lol. We Indians are asked to get married to strangers that others select for us and then we are told that it is our duty to spend rest of the life with your married partner because God chose this partner for you in heaven.... Most of us believe in this and life becomes more of adjustment and less of excitement because real marriage is a bundle or responsibilities and duties and efforts to please everyone in the family. For Indian couple marriage is working like donkeys, think about parents, husband/wife, children. Children - Do we ever think bringing a child in this world and giving him a good life is a very important and unavoidable responsibility of parents. 90% of Indians spend their whole life in educating children, making property for them, always worried about their future....and in all this, we don't even realize that our hair have turned gray and our face and tired eyes have started to show the lines of wrinkles. After some years Children start thinking of their own life and their is no place for us in their house and they have no time for us. So now lets think.......what did we do whole life.....where is our life in all this mess......Is this what we wanted after marriage.......Why is this happening. Is marriage really necessary.......?????? I know I have still answered you question.....and now I don't even want to , because I am so confused. Ps: I like the idea of living in relation...I think it is much better than marriage.

Marriage is certainly supposed to enhance life and not be a burden. If the marriage you are in feels like a pain it may be worth either working on improving it or getting out of it. I think that although marriage may not be for everyone commitment from both parties is essential and if each one does all he or she can do to make the other happy they have a much better chance at a long time together.

hello dear anna, Advantage of marriage- legally heir of husbands property (his money is mine and my money is mine ) Disadvantage -you can't claim (wife) if you are not legally married (assets..never liabilities okay) Best thing - sweet nothings Hardest thing - when husband/wife doesn't want to sign the divorce/legal separation papers Gain/pain - sorrow,tears,heartaches,headaches,hypertension,wrinkles etc I want to add one more ... KIDS- SOUVENIRS (and my life) Have a great day dear anna..missing you=)

Before we discuss honestly about marriage I would like to know what is your honest opinion.Do you want all the pleasures of marriage without marrying.What is your definition of pleasure and pain with reference to marriage.What are the pleasures and what are the pains in marriage according to you.If you tell them frankly we can frankly post our opinions..Are you married and pleaures you have found and what pains you have experienced in marriage. Let us hear them...

Marriage is definitely a commitment, but for me personally it is an advantage and gain. I gained a loving husband that I love and I know adores me. We have a beautiful home and two gorgeous kids that we love. We have built a loving family together and healthy and trustworthy relationship amongs each other. Trust and honesty in a relationship for me is the key factor, without it, I pesonally don't think any type of relationship will survive. And we have that going for each other. Like I said the hardest thing to establish is trust and honesty as well as a commitment to one another. Marriage is a beautiful thing, that one should try and cherish. That is just my personal opinion.

I am a little young but personally I think should get married if your ready to settle down with the one person you love. Weddings are alot of money,but the divorse could be even more costly financially and mentally. If you really love this person and could picture being with them for A LONG time then go ahead and get married. You only have one life so live it up to the fullest.

Marriage has its own advantages and disadvantages. In allows you to love a person thoroughly, inculcates responsibility and on the other hand brings some unnecessary tension. People usually think that to lead a happy married life , money is very important. This is true to some extent, but in the process of earning money they neglect the small delightful moments which can rally touch your heart for ever. This is the start of an unhealthy married life. So if we can uphold the present without thinking of the future and the past, we can have a successful married life. Now it depends on the spouse whether to make it a gain or a pain

I have an open and practical view of marriage. First off marriage is one of the ways to show true love for your other half. A marriage can last as long as the couple are dancing the same dance. But if not it spells doom. I for one agree with divorce, if two people don't love each other anymore then go your seperate ways. But thing is divorce now a days is being abused and so goes marriage. People just get married for the sake of getting married and divorce the next day. What is that? I would prefer a live in partnership where there are no legal bounderies between 2 people. Just True love all together

You got a it a good discussion about present problem of all ages young and old who had already married. When we start dating to our love one we would like to be with each others arms forever and to jump into marriage. As soon as possible as they wanted. But when it was happened and they really know well each one this is the time that they are bored to their relationship and either one of them get another partner. If the husband get bored to his wife they tried to fine another woman and some woman are like him trying to fine another man but it was rare. And this is not ordinary to a woman to fine another man in their life unless they are not love by their husband.

Hi dear, Marriage is not just a contract or commitment. It is a kind of rebirth. We have different phases of life and by marriage we enter into a different phase and the life get changes with more experience and challenges. A living being is get completes when he or she entered into a marriage. A life with difference and still deep meaning and responsibility with commitment all are comes after getting married. It is not a burden or responsibility. We learn more to live and the varieties togetherness with totally new person make us more good feelings and sharing of life with a different person teaches more things in life. Now-a-days, these things have not much relevance or importance. But as soon as we entered into a married life, we will become mature and more conscious about life, and it is like this and it should be. However, for many, it is just a time pass and for such people it does not mean that it should be a success also. But understanding each other and living with others with family makes a marriage to a complete person and the rest of the life is their own family and there emerges a new life again. Thank-s

Well, getting married is a good thing and is always worth it, if you do it for the correct reasons. For marriage to work, you need to sacrifice and make it work. There will always be pain and there always be gain as well.

Hi, I think that marriage is all worth it even with all the responsibilities that goes with it. It is the bond that puts a hold on the couple. Without it there is controlling factor to check the actions of every couple.