Someone and someone else

I think if you really love someone you should set him free. If you see him happy and you really love him you must also be happy for him because it is really hard to be with someone that still always thinking the other person and still in love with other. It will hurt you more when you always being with someone that just pretending that he is happy with you but the truth is he want to be free from you and he just feel pity for you.

Talk and let him give the assurance of your relationship ..... I never in the position of miles and then I gave him a chance to think again about our relationship, whatever decision he took my reply will support it and it turns out he chose me ... The only difficult thing here is to try more mature in thinking and trying to understand the feelings of our spouse and then give it a chance.

Love is only love if it is both ways. If I love someone and they don't love me and they love someone else then it really is nothing more than a crush. Real love is shared. If someone is with someone else then it is pointless to dwell on that as it can't go anywhere. Even if he did pay attention well...then he would be cheating on someone he claims to love and I could easily be her down the road. I wouldn't want that so I'd steer clear of that sort of situation.

It is true that each one of us has certain degree of selfishness or greediness and when we like someone so much we feel the need to have them for ourselves. However, when the case is hopeless and we know that those people will never be ours, then it's time to stop hoping and being selfish and learn to let go. I once loved a man who never had any feelings for me. I was like a fool hoping that he would love me as much as i do but it never happened. So, I continued loving him unselfishly and was happy that way. That's why i considered that man my first love coz i have never loved like that in such unselfish way. EVen now that i am married, that person has a special place in my heart but there's no more love there anymore.

Our position is reversed. Me and my boyfriend used to start dating, I still continue to love my ex-boyfriend, every second every minute I'm always thinking about my ex even though my boyfriend is beside me. my boyfriend always says he'll never let me go back to my ex, because he believed the love & patience I'll get over my ex & be sincere heart that loved him. he always says that he will continue to be patient and not be tired by waiting until I can open my heart for him. And it turns out he managed to do so, just a year he was waiting for my love, because in the end I could really love him & can forget my ex-boyfriend. Love, patience, loyalty, and sincerity which makes me melt. And I'm very grateful to have a boyfriend like him. I Love Him so much;)

I am the person of such kind 1 year ago.But now its not like that.I had learn many things and i had lost many things at that time of period. Everyone in the world is selfish only, but we want to give up something for our loved ones.Then we can earn more respect from them. Leaving off them is not the good idea when you are really loving them and trusting them.When your mind starts thinking leaving them, then you are not trusting them nomore.

well for me it is worth to spend my life to someone who i love and loves me the same way. i wont waste my time loving someone who can not love me back... i will find someone who can. i dont need to think of what to do but to move on. of course it is painful but it will just get more painful if i will go on loving a person who does not love me the same way. just my two cents.

selfishness is to harm others. Almost all men are selfish because it is a form of self protection. People are more concerned with toothache he suffered compared to wars that occur in the country side, I think it's natural. Should selfish? Depending on how important is that people self-interest precedence. Which interests take priority? Is it important enough so that even when colliding with the interests of others, still more valuable? of course we think about the logic, not emotion.

There is no point trying to keep a man who doesn't love you.It either works or it doesn't and if you don't feel that the man you are in love has the same attitude and love as yours you should better let him go.The sooner the better.The longer you try to make him love you the more difficult it will be later for you to forget him.

Pretending one is happy will almost always lead to heartache. You are right when you say there is a selfish streak in most of us. If you are with someone that you know does not love you, there are deeper issues here than simple selfishness. Think about it. If you are selfish, you desire personal satisfaction. Is there truly personal satisfaction in a one sided relationship? Can you live your life being "the other woman" in his life? And can your love continue to grow if you are not feeling loved? I believe you already know what you must do but lack the courage to do it.

In my opinion if you love someone you must be prepared to let them be as they are. If they will be happier not with you it is only right that you let them pursue that happiness. True it might be difficult for you but when you are faced with the choice between their happiness and yours love often means that you must be prepared to give up yours for theirs.