I want to be happy!

I totally agree with the people who responded especially with Shrijsr. You are unhappy because you are making yourself unhappy. Why don't you count your blessings instead. First, you should be thankful that you have a work. There are lots of people who don't have work. Some don't have anything to eat. They don't know where to get money for their everyday expenses. You should start to divert your attention to something that will make you happy. Find time for your hobbies instead of trying hard to chat with your friend. If you feel that they are not sincere to you, then that is their problem. Your kindness would come back to you hundred times, just don't expect anything in return. You should try to ask yourself if what you are claiming about your brother is true. If not, talk to your parents. Life is so short to be unhappy. Happiness is a decision.

Hello angela! First of all, Welcome to the Mylot family! A very warm welcome to you! First before I respond to your post, please get rid of the pessimistic side of you, which keeps on telling you that you are happy! You should first believe that you are happy, no matter what is happening around me! That will help you a great deal in finding happiness within yourself and you will not be dependent on others for your happiness! Well, if you find your work load so stressful, then I suggest you to either find a better job or reduce the schedules. You need to remember something first that, working is good and a must, but then, there's nothing like more than yourself and your health. Taking so much stress, you can fall ill! try to be careful about it and stress can also take you to the depressed state as you are going through now! So, watch out for yourself and do something about the stress in your work. May be some meditation or Yoga's or some dance classes will help you burn the stress out! When it comes to the family and the people around you, make sure you don't accept anything from anyone! Yes, I'm telling, just love the people around you and don't expect the same in return! Remember, expectations always leads to unhappiness and dissatisfaction! Others start taking you for granted easily if you start expecting things! Just spread the love and thats you and you can't stop yourself! At the same time, just because you are good enough to love people around you, others need not be that good to love back equally! And sometimes, people might love you, but they might not know how to express it to you! JUST DON"T EXPECT! I know its hard sometimes, but eventually you will get used to it! Follow all these, you will find yourself happy eventually as the days pass on! No matter what happens, who loves you or not! Who is with you or not! "LIFE HAS TO MOVE ON". You cannot stop yourself from being happy for others! Remember, nothing in the world is more than you and yourself! Find happiness in yourself and before loving the people around you, try to love yourself! Good Luck! Cheers! Keep smiling! :)

I used to like you. But now, I think that maybe this is not faults of people around me. It's only myself. I didn't express me with everyone. And I don't give them chances in order that they can care me. You're too in this situation. Try to change yourself first, you can feel more comfortable. I also want to say that you must be happy with yourself first. Then, you'll feel happy with other persons. Wish you're peace and happy!

To feel happy is how you think.You do not blame others for not feeling happy.You analyse yourself and review how to act according to the situations.Try to be positive and you will be happy.

I think that's only your instinct that these events happened to you. And, why all of what's happening to you are all negative? Think it over, and analyze yourself, from character, behavior, other people and your family members. Be the first to give something useful for them to follow what you want it to do. Go on with your life and have to get to know them better someday.

First of all, you need to stop being so negative on your outlook on life!! I've found that if you try and see the positive in every situation, your attitude is much better and things just seem to come easier. You listed a whole bunch of negatives... try thinking about what you have positive going on in your life. Secondly, you should probably talk to your parents about the unequal treatment between you and your brother. Parents have unconditional love toward their children... If you're not a bad girl, that might be their own problem that they should address. Regardless, you can always do more to relate to your parents and find activities and subjects that you all can enjoy together. You also probably know what would make them proud of you, so go out of your way and do those things! You will only have one biological mother and father for your entire life... Don't let them go to waste... Make the most out of every situation!

One thing I noticed about your post is you are constantly referring to others not having time for you, treating you badly, etc. There's your mistake. You CANNOT rely on others making you happy. If you do so you'll find yourself in a constant state of misery. Stop wallowing. Kick yourself in the bum. Take frequent 5-10 minute walks outside. Exercise releases happy hormones. Do some yoga, meditate. This will help you settle your thoughts, and guide you towards a more content state of mind. Last of all change the way you think. Notice how every other thought is depressing and negative? Turn it into a positive idea. Instead of 'oh the weather is freezing', focus on how pretty the snow covered landscape is, and how the cold weather makes that hot foamy Starbucks taste so much better. Only you can make yourself happy. Love yourself first.

Hi angela welcome to mylot I think all parents love their kids equally irrespective of gender, your brother must be earning and giving money to parents, hence there may be 'more' liking for him. Please stop thinking negetive.. Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .

I think sometimes there comes a time where everyone of us feel the same way you do..were only humans were allowed to have emotions..but I think theres always a choice... how about try to appreciate small things around you..anything that you know will make you happy... sometimes I mistaken boredom from being lonely .. and not only other people can make us happy.. you should start it with yourself...:)

You are punishing your own self dear. You feel sad because you wanted to feel that way. Think how beautiful life is, look at the brighter side instead of the gloomy ones. You are lucky to have a job that pays you while others are still looking for one. There must be a reason why your co-workers don't understand you. Try to analyze if there is something wrong with you. Adjust to them and don't expect people to adjust to you. Don't feel sad when your bestfriend can't talk to you, remember you are not the only priority in your friend's life. Don't consider people your friends if they are not sincere to you, because if you cherish them and they don't cherish you, you only end up hurting yourself. There's only one way to be happy and that is to change your perspective in life! Good luck!

I think you expect a lot in return to things you are dealing with. Slow down, try to rationalize that what you expect from them are not what they expect from you too. Being happy, is a state of the mind . Actually, you just have to focus yourself to things that can make you happy. If your parents treat your brother better than you, then try to analyze what makes him endearing to your parents. Probably you can do like him too, so they could love you that much too. But, that being the case , then don't take it hard on yourself. Try doing other things that you enjoy without the aid of those people who disappoints your expectations. Tone done your expectation of things. Most of all, learn how to love yourself. Work with joy in your heart so it wouldn't be so tiring. Think positive. . that everything has their own time.

Oh!You are really very poor!But I think that yours unhappiness many come your feelings and little come from realstic things. First of all, many people every day have a lot of work to do and no one can help them, But they feel very happy,Because they love their job. So you shuld learn finding happy from your job and stop complaining your busy live.Secondly,I think what you said is you friend said.One man always feel he paid is more than he gain.Because he remember well every time that he care about other people, and he usully forget that other people care about him,even he don't know other people care about him.So you need work hard find that other people care about you and forget that you care about other people. Third and fourth,I think is one thing,you spend too much time with yout best friend and too little time with you families,and,I can tell your other thing that my parents treat me better than my older sister,he always complain my parents bias,but he always don't think that if I at home no one can treat my parents rough.and she always get help from my parents if some one treat her rough.I know that my parent treat me best come from many reason,and she only complain my parents treat her rough.

I think each of us have encountered difficulties in our daily lives. Difficulties are not reasons to make us unhappy. The key is our own. Adjust our attitude of life we will find a better life and be happy.

Hi Angela, I feel that way before. I also think my mom love my elder brother but as what others have said it is only the way you think. Thinking about misearable things in life would really make you sad. People have their own lives and you can't really tell if they're going to be available for you if you need them, don't get mad at them. Try to understand their situation as well. Not all friends are true but try to appreciate every friends you have weather they are there or not. If can't talk to anyone try praying and talk to God. I do it most of the time if no one is around to comfort me. Life is happy, its just a matter of choice. Don't be sad because of not so good matters we have in life. Life have both its up and down. Learn to love the small things you have. And expect nothing from the things that you've been doing for others. Hope everything gets well.

Hello to you! I am so sorry to hear that, i am sad at this moment too. But that doesn`t stop me to give you some advices. First of all i guess the fact that you are very tired, makes you so depressed, maybe you need more time for yourself to get rest, and to take care of you as a woman, and after these things done, you will feel much better. About your parents, maybe the fact that you are always depressed and tired and angry, maybe this makes them act like this with you, but still, i guess you need to talk with them about this problem, maybe they will understand you, you`ll never know.