Is spending time with your spouse really important?
By BeachLover
@BeachLover (520)
India
January 27, 2011 12:09pm CST
I think your married life goes for a toss when you stop spending time with your spouse, rather giving him or her the priority which they deserve. A very small example, a wife starts waiting for her husband from the moment he leaves for his work and just expects
an hour or two of quality time with her. When the husband comes home, the first thing he does is open his laptop and does his work. In such a situation all her excitement of long 11 or 12 hours fades away in a second. I think this leads to loss of communication between the two. Whats say guys! You are most welcome to share your honest views.
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13 responses
@changjiangzhibin89 (16796)
• China
28 Jan 11
I think it is important to spend time with our spouse.Man and wife are lifelong partners,if you are not that share the same bed but dream different dreams,they must show respect for opposite side feelings,cann't ignore the existance of the other.Borne in mind that we know not what is good until we have lost it.
@BeachLover (520)
• India
28 Jan 11
Everybody wants to be happy in their married life. The happiness fades away when we ignore the feelings of others and start taking him or her for granted. This should not happen because we do not want to loose the other person.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
28 Jan 11
It's bad if my husband only open his laptop after he went home from his office. I think I'll up set with him.
We should spend more time with our spouse in order that we can share each other about every things in our life. This is important to keep our happiness for a long time.
@BeachLover (520)
• India
28 Jan 11
This was happening to me, but thanks to the discussion I was able to place my point of view clearly and make him understand the importance of spending time together.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
27 Jan 11
well we have been married for 23 years and while we dont spend a lot of time together, we do spend time sitting together, even if it mean watching tv and sharng a snack. now that our daughters are older, we do have more time alone but we enjoy our time together.
@BeachLover (520)
• India
27 Jan 11
thats a nice and long time you have been married together. I think involving your partner in what you are doing can also allow you to spend quality time together.
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Jan 11
I do think that it's important to be able to spend some quality time with your spouse. I feel that this is something that is important, and that's really why I try to spend quality time with my husband. In today's society, sometimes, it can be easy to just get caught with jobs, with school, with so many different things, that sometimes we can forget to just relax. I think that it's important to spend time together, which will help the relationship stay healthy.
@BeachLover (520)
• India
27 Jan 11
Thats absolutely true. Spending quality time together with your spouse despite of all the responsibilities and day to day work problems is the mantra for healthy marital life. if you cannot be happy in what you have now, you can never be happy in what you are admiring off.
@Chastised_Dreamz (559)
• United States
27 Jan 11
I think that it is very important to spend time with your spouse. I am not married but I think it's important because it gives the couple time to communicate and share the details of their lives and days. If a couple spends very little time together then I would wonder if they're even a couple. That's part of the fun of being in a relationship or marriage, enjoying time with each other. I think the couple will start to drift apart if they do not spend time together.
@BeachLover (520)
• India
28 Jan 11
Yes a couple does not remain a couple when they do not have time for each other. So its very important to enjoy those little and silly moments to keep your excitement and relationship alive.
@blueblink (246)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
even though i am not a married man, I say yes to this discussion because time is very important to every relationship. I broke up with my GF because she cannot give anytime for me. how much more if i will enter into married life. Priority will be for my wife and not for anything else, because according to church, "we are not two but one.
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@BeachLover (520)
• India
28 Jan 11
Very nicely written dear. Priority should always be to relations and human beings and not to anything else because she is the one who will make you so special in life. If people understand these simple things, it would be difficult to have problems in relationships.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
I think the reason we marry a person to be actually be with the person because you love her/him. Not just to be able to stay in the same roof with her. Marriage is a lot more than shared expenses and responsibilities. It is about growing together with the one that you love. So how is that possible if you to not spend time with that person right? In time, you both will grow older and, sad to say, you will grow apart. Communications and spending quality time with your spouse is very important.
@celticeagle (168490)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Jan 11
I really think that people in a relationship get into rutz. A lack of communication is the problem. From the very start of the relationship. You jump into something and one person cares more than the other and it just ends up in a ugly situation. The wife needs to talk to the husband and ask for some time when he first gets home.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
28 Jan 11
Before we marry someone, we have our independence and freedom and we have the choice to live life the way that we want. Getting married does not have to take any of that away. now we have someone to share our joys and hopes and dreams with. spending time with the one we marry should be important to us. the relationship and only grow. growing together and spending time together will make that relationship stronger and lasting.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
That's not a very nice scene you've created. I don't think I'll ever be like that to my wife when I get married. Although we'll never know, right? Well, I'm not really the type who works a lot so my wife will be getting a lot of quality time with me.
@evsamaghanoy (67)
• Philippines
29 Jan 11
if you have busy lives and dont get to see each other much, i think the best way is to plan ahead. pre-plan a romantic evening, make a reservation for a romantic meal out or cook one. have a bath together with champagne, candles, massage to make it special. if you can afford, book a weekend away or a night in a hotel. leave love letter or sexy notes that tells what are you going to do to each other that night. sometimes its the big things as well as the little things that count. spending time together as couple is very essential to nourish the relationship even both are getting old, sweetness should be remain.
@hlgmdt (300)
• Philippines
28 Jan 11
Spending time with your spouse is definitely a Must in a relationship. I think that even if you have been married for a long time, it is a important to make efforts to keep the spark alive. What happens in some relationships is that both husband and wife feel that they already know each other very well that they can sense if their partner is faced with a trouble or an issue. As a result, they stop communicating. They stop asking each other the basic question, "How are you" or "How was your day". Especially when their are already kids around, it does happen that the wife and the husband spend less time together.