Return Favor? What and How at MyLot

I do help friends on their discussions if ic an contribute something to it but if is something I'm not interested at, I will back off because I dont want to a nuisance, I want to be a help and if I am not going to be helpful I will back off. But thankfully my friends were able to make discussions that actually interest me so I can always give back.

I have noticed that when I respond to a members 2 - 3 discussions consecutively that they immediately thereafter seek out any current and or old discussions of mine and enter a response, which I have found to be of additional quality. I can't say I do the same as well as unless I have something of substance to add to their discussion, I do not see the point. Not to be mean, but I have seen a great many discussions about Cricket, and other types of discussions that I would have no clue on how to comment. I would hope no member expects a comment from their friends and or other members simply to grasp a response as then where is the substance and or point. At any rate when members responds to my discussions, especially if more then once, it gives me a sense of who they are and if we share interests so I often times remember the member and will certainly add to any of their discussions provided that I can add qualitative substance.

Hello Sid, In the beginning I checked their profile and do respond to their topics (if it comes under my interest) as a fvaour and added some people in my list but I stopped (not intentionally) this habit after a particular point of time due to lack of time. I got more friends in my list then I faced difficulty to do such favours. Now I am rating them positively as a return favour. When I have more time then I love to do favours to my responders by responding back to their topics. I would like to add that I am getting more replies from the people who are not in my list.

What I would like to do and what I am able to do are unfortunately two differnt things now. I see so many friends responding on my discussions and so many who are on my friend list but cannot yet really be called 'friends, plus others who I have bumped int here and there that I could not possibly get to all of their discussions even though I would love to I spend so much time commenting both on my own and on the responses that I leave on topics by others if they comment back, that 24 hours are never enough I try and get to as many discussions by my friends as Ican but I also see so many others where I want to respond too that often I miss some really interesting topics. However I have many notifiers filed away and as soon as I have more time again (which might be in a few years from now lol) those will see me participating - and that could well be fun! I receive many requests and I accept most of them immediately and I make a few too when I see a user, especially a new one, that seems interesting and I don't want to miss in future.

Now in fact I just forgetting all the parameters. As and when I get time I look up to the topics and whatever I feel nice, I will comment on it. Sometime it can be of a friend, or a comment to a friends response - whatever it may be, whoever it can be, I feel good, i will go for it. As it is supposed to be, the payment is based on our typing and nothing else, whatever can be a discussion of talkative subject, it will be more pleasing and interesting too. So, if we go by friends wise or any other category, we will be on short of interest and topic. Also, my responding power has gone. I can just go to any of the discussions - like friends started, hot, today's top etc. I can read all the responses that my friends send to me including you. But if I try to comment on the topic, I will not be able to do. So, please understand that I am getting all the responses, but helpless to comment to it. Once I am at home, I will try to find out. But as the email address is different it is a tedious job to locate all the responses and most of the time will waste by searching for it. So, further more I can provide only comment and no more responses from my site. Hope you understand. Even if you respond to this discussion, I will get it and I can read, but I cannot comment back to your response. Thank-s

Hello thesids, You don't need to feel obliged to answer my silly topics, I know not everybody is a dog lover. Now, leaving the joke aside, I don't expect anybody to return the favor of responding a discussion. I prefer a sincere response rather than one written from complaisance. I must admit that I do to others what I expect from them. I don't answer to all the discussions my friend started, because for one of them I have nothing to say. So I expect them to do the same for me.

When I find that there is a person who keeps responding to my posts and I love what and how they say , I may go to there profile page and see if I can respond to any of their posts. If I can, I'll send them a friend request. But some times I can't respond. then I just say Oh Well and go on. Your Behen will always try to respond to your posts Bhai.

hi sid...oh i never thought on this and now after you have pointed out this thing...i think many of the users who are responding here with an expectation to get return response...would have got disappointed with me...i never have done this that if someone new is there at my discussion...i would go back to their profile and answer their discussion....now i will take this into consideration...and if i have enough time here...i will surely go and respond theirs.. had i been very self-centered for so many days??? thanx sid...i will think over it...

When I start a new discussion I am very happy to find responses from my friends, but I am also very happy to find responses from members who aren't on my friendlist, I appreciate both kinds of responses When I get responses from people I don't know yet, I often have a look at their profiles, sometimes I send a friend request and sometimes I respond to some of the discussions that they have started. If I notice a member who often responds to my discussions or a member who starts many discussions that I find interesting I also send a friend request.

I respond to the discussions that interest me. I don't just respond to my friends' discussion. Responding to others is an ideal way to make new friendships.

Hello thesids, I try to respond to a large number of discussions started by my friends. If a new responder makes a friend request, I do the same for this new friend than for older friends. For the other non friends responders, I don't go immediately to their discussions, but if somebody respond to two or three of my discussions, I make a friend request, and I do the same when I noticed that I have responded to 3/4 discussions started by a member who is not in my friend list. When I do a friend request, I check the profile and can respond to other discussions started by the same member.

I haven't really thought about this before and now that you have brought this up, i remembered what i did. When i was first starting out at mylot, i added those people who posted discussions that impressed me and those people who have responded in mine. But nowadays i have stopped adding them as people here keep adding me as their friends. So what i do now is just rate those people who responded to my discussions appropriately, and of course i give positive ratings and best responses that i thought would be proper.

Hi friend.. Well I guess you know about me.. Don't you.. I surely like to make friends here.. But i guess its not instantly. May be after some good interaction I can be good friend to all of you..

I would comment on their response and check out some of their disscusion you know return the favour. I don't normally do it. I don't care about making disscusions anymore because I like posting way more. Mylot is very fun I hope I earn a bit extra from it. Happy mylotting, mylotters.

Hi Thesids I would rate them and respond back to them on the response they have left If I saw a Discussion in my travels which is good and made by them then yes I will respond, but no I do not rush to make them my Friends or anything like that I check through Profiles and things like that when I get requested

I do not look at it as a trading situation. If someone answers some of my discussions and I think they are interesting, I go to their profile and some of their discussions. If I like them, I answer. I do not answer discussions that I do not like or am not comfortable with, even if my friends start them. When I respond to someone's discussion, I am actually doing myself a favor, because I earn by participation. I learn new things by participation. I also really do not start that many discussions at MyLot, so there are not very many discussions for people to visit.

Hi thesids! I usually do try to visit a discussion of a responder that is not on my friends list. Especially if their response is interesting. They are definitly potential friends.

hello thesids, First thing i do when i open mylot is check my email and read comments from topics that i responded,and if i feel like commenting back then i will proceed. Next thing i do is check "friends started" and select topics from friends that i can relate with. Even if you are my friend,it doesn't mean that i will respond to all your topics...i always had this principle to respond to topics that i can relate with. So,it doesn't mean that i always respond to my friends topic/discussion. Favor?...it never came up to my mind. If you respond to my topic,fine..if you don't...fine. But,i also had this principle that...if one mylotter doesn't respond or comment back to my response after he/she made a tons of topic,and i never or seldom receive a comment back...i stopped responding to his/her topic. I am not demanding for a comment back to all my responses,but,i guess i deserve one at least. I understand mylotters who seldom come online..but not those mylotters that always starts few discussion always and never comment back. okay,i guess i've wrote too much (hehe) Just my opinion...and don't take the word "you" as i am referring to you dear. It's a general "YOU" have a great weekend

Hi sids, I tend to respond even to strangers. I might at times miss out on friends though I try to be there for them. :) In general, I already know how my friends think and feel about some topic. It is the people other than friends whose opinion shows me how they think and at times wakes me from my misconceptions. In this context I must mention Gareth who has helped me check my prejudice.

Hello friend! Honestly,I only respond loyally to my dearest friends here in mylot even if I have no answer for their discussions,lol! I never think of giving back to them what they did to me,well maybe because that's mainly what we do here,post replies and discussions. For some that is really not my friend,I just take it as their will to earn money. I just don't have the feeling that I should respond back to others that are not my friends,they responded to my discussion because they feel they can add sense to it. See yah friend!