Neighbour Is Moving Out
By Janey1966
@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
January 28, 2011 12:25pm CST
Within the next week, I have been told by Caroline at Impact Housing, that Barbara next door will be moving out.
The reason for this is due to the fact that Barbara cannot cope with her siblings whenever they call round (usually at weekends). There is one girl and two boys which explains why there have been so many people in her house creating havoc. Apparently, she could not cope with them taking over the house so has admitted this to Caroline, so Caroline is arranging for her to be moved.
This is actually a good thing because it proves that Barbara needs help as a Vulnerable Adult. Therefore she will be moved somewhere more secure than a residential street. According to Caroline, she will feel safer wherever she will be moved to. Additional support will be available to make her feel less vulnerable than she was when she tried to "go it alone" so to speak.
I have mixed feelings about her moving out. Half of me is glad but the other half feels sad FOR HER as her own children are responsible for her feeling so vulnerable.
Caroline is mindful of the fact we would like quiet people in as the next tenants so I will keep you all posted.
It's sad about Barbara and her circumstances but at least she will get help from now on, so, in a way, I'm glad we complained about the noise, otherwise she'd just carry on being bullied by her own kids calling round, making all the noise. Barbara is really quiet when she's on her own so it's a shame that they are to blame for her having to move out.
I guess it's for the best.
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7 responses
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
30 Jan 11
I think it is for the best and that you did the right thing. She obviously needs more help than she can get living there and she was actually putting herself in danger by letting the problem get out of hand. If someone who was a little less of a stable person than you lived next door, anything could have happened. Instead of reporting her to the authorities, someone could have taken their anger out on her directly. 
I hope that you do get someone quiet in there soon. I am hoping that our house sells soon, so that we can get away from the idiots next door to me. All our bedrooms are on the side of our house which is next to their living areas and they stay up late with the TV really loud and yell at each other. Not just husband to wife kind of stuff, but also really abusive swearing at their toddler son! I feel so sorry for that kid having two dimwits for parents! 
I hope that you do get someone quiet in there soon. I am hoping that our house sells soon, so that we can get away from the idiots next door to me. All our bedrooms are on the side of our house which is next to their living areas and they stay up late with the TV really loud and yell at each other. Not just husband to wife kind of stuff, but also really abusive swearing at their toddler son! I feel so sorry for that kid having two dimwits for parents! 
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
31 Jan 11
We don't know where we will end up at this stage. We want to leave this suburb and hopefully get into another one nearby or preferably a more rural area. It feels like the right time to go, but property prices are dropping, so hopefully we can sell before having to drop more.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 Jan 11
Where are you thinking of moving to? A couple from over the road have moved (been there about 6 years) and I said to John, "follow them in your car, I wanna know where they're going!" but he didn't take me up on it. I'm chuffed for them, though as they love their music (lots of hi-fi equipment as I think the guy is in a band) so I hope it's somewhere bigger.
2011 is a good year for making these kind of decisions so go for it my friend!
@margerydaw14 (735)
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28 Jan 11
it is for the best, but your neighbour sounds a very unfortunate lady. i do hope she finds a settled life. but you touched on something which always my concern. what will your new neighbours be like?? we have a noisy neighbour, but truthfully he s a nice boy, just 30 odd going on 16!! his friends are just as noisy, but there is no harm in them and its not every night , just usually fridays and the weekends, but funny enough its friday night and very peaceful. probably i am the one making the most noise as i am typing this and watching Got to Dance on sky plus and its a little bit loud, well not thatloud, 
. but after saying all that, he is not an abusive neighbour, his garden is a tip back and front, but he's a really nice guy and there is no harm in him. Funny enough all the other neighbours also complain about his noisey music, dog barking and cars revving etc., but they are a little bit intimidated by him, i am not. but if he moved out ,,,well who would move in ???
. but after saying all that, he is not an abusive neighbour, his garden is a tip back and front, but he's a really nice guy and there is no harm in him. Funny enough all the other neighbours also complain about his noisey music, dog barking and cars revving etc., but they are a little bit intimidated by him, i am not. but if he moved out ,,,well who would move in ???@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
28 Jan 11
Caroline from Impact Housing has told me that our future neighbour will reflect our needs..in other words, someone quiet. I have no doubt this will happen as she wants to keep everyone happy, which makes a change in this world doesn't it? She is a nice woman and the caring sort, so I reckon Barbara will be well cared for as well, in Caroline's capable hands.
Your noisy neighbour, what time does the noise stop? I wouldn't have a problem with it either, so long as it stopped at midnight lol.
Your noisy neighbour, what time does the noise stop? I wouldn't have a problem with it either, so long as it stopped at midnight lol.
@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
29 Jan 11
We have one neighbor that sometimes makes some noise, but he is a good neighbor and will do anything for you if he can. Would not want to lose his sort.
@margerydaw14 (735)
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29 Jan 11
the latest was about 3 ish, but he had turned it down. one morning i woke up and music was still playing!!1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
29 Jan 11
Janey, You said that it was her siblings, but then you say it is her kids. Was she just over run by all of the family? It is good if she will have some security. Was this house too large for her, and causing them to think thay were welcome to come in and do as they please and stay as long as they liked? I hope when you get new neighbors that they are respectful of each other and of you as well.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
29 Jan 11
I shouldn't have used the term "kids" as they're late teens, early twenties but there are 3 of them, not just the daughter. I guess Barbara (the Mum) will be found somewhere that these siblings of hers cannot access as easily, otherwise she may as well stay where she is. She'll be OK, I'm sure of that.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
29 Jan 11
Hopefully Caroline will pass on my good wishes as she knows my issue wasn't with Barbara but her siblings. Something must be in the air because neighbours across the road (who've been there about 6 years) have moved out today.
Lucky sods!
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@derek_a (10873)
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29 Jan 11
Hi Janey, I can understand that problem that Barbara is having because it recently happened to a friend of ours where we used to live. They had a nice house and good neighbours but one day the neighbours split up and it was only the mother and kid left who just did what they wanted without their Dad around and started playing music at full volume. It was the neighbours in the area that started moving away because nobody seemed to be able to control these noisy kids who were obviously reacting badly to the break-up of their parents. It seems that as families break down, this has an impact outside of that family too. 
_Derek
_Derek
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
28 Jan 11
Sometimes things happen for a reason, as how fair of her children to cause so much havoc. I surely hope she gets emotionally stronger as her having allowed them in a sense was enabling them. I hope where ever she goes her childrens havoc do not follow her.
I am glad you will no longer have all the noise. Let's hope your new neighbors some day will be better and life resume's normalcy. I would not feel sad as to a sense you really have helped her, as maybe now she can peace with out all the racket her children create.
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
28 Jan 11
It is sad (and happy that the noise will stop) that Barbara's life is being ruined by the "kids", if you can call them that. Aren't they young adults (20's)? Since Impact Housing has so much "control" over the matter, I wonder why they didn't deal with the "kids", like warn them not to come to the house or get fined/jailed? I wonder if anything will really change for Barbara by moving her. Even if she is put in a smaller place/non-residential/etc., my guess is, without dealing with the "kids", they'll find a way to continue to harass Barbara. I would have dealt with the "kids"... But then, I fault Barbara for her apparent lack of good parenting. If she'd been a good parent when the "kid(s)" were truly kids, I wonder if they'd be such a mess now. In any case, you'll hopefully now have peace and quiet. And hopefully, your new neighbor will actually be a good neighbor...one that will help you patrol the alley :D
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
28 Jan 11
"Patrol the alley" lol. Don't tempt me for goodness' sake!
Well, the Impact Housing property next door is unusual in the fact that it's a one-off down this street. Usually, they are clustered into little estates. In fact, there is one nearby that houses (mainly) elderly people that live independently and there's a warden that lives on the premises, as far as I know. I guess this is where Barbara will go (or somewhere similar). Security will be much better so I doubt very much the young people (sorry, shouldn't have called them kids) will be able to gain access. Because Barbara has now admitted she cannot live on her own without support, the siblings will no longer give her grief. If they do, no doubt she can involve the police.
Well, the Impact Housing property next door is unusual in the fact that it's a one-off down this street. Usually, they are clustered into little estates. In fact, there is one nearby that houses (mainly) elderly people that live independently and there's a warden that lives on the premises, as far as I know. I guess this is where Barbara will go (or somewhere similar). Security will be much better so I doubt very much the young people (sorry, shouldn't have called them kids) will be able to gain access. Because Barbara has now admitted she cannot live on her own without support, the siblings will no longer give her grief. If they do, no doubt she can involve the police.