What would you do if you find out a friend has been spreading rumors about you?

That's not a "freind" in my opinion. I wouldn't be close friends with her because I would no longer be able to trust her at all. I would forgive her but that doesn't mean I would hang out with her after that. She's not a real freind.

Well, first I slash a very dark line through their name in permanent marker on my friend's list. Then I would not be around her and stay away from the places where she hangs out. I would chose to look away. I don't take friendship lightly and it is very serious stuff and I would not take any of it lightly.

If it's me concerned and i can say a 100 percent that my best friend is the author of the talks i will calmly confront her so i may know who is telling the truth. Its better we know the truth than always having doubts in our minds, in a way we are also making justice for our friend if its not true.

I would seriously and sadly have to say that this person is truly not my friend. There would have to be a reason that a friend would go to such extremes. i would confront this friend and see if the relationship was worth saving.

Hi Inkyuboz! First of all, I don't think she must be called a friend if she spread that rumors. However, sometimes people misquoted someone. I guess I could still be her friend if I have learned the true story behind that rumors. If my friend really was the one who spread that rumors, I will confide her. I will ask her the reason why she has to say those things. If what she will be saying is reasonable enough, I don't think it has to ruin our friendship. However, if she has a lame excuse which I think I could easily know. I wouldn't think twice. She is not a friend anymore.

If the news was a rumor of that kind, I can just say that your friend is quite tolerant. But if it was a truth, I think I could not blame this "best friend". However, no matter the news is false or not, I dislike this kind of people who spreads news about someone. It is immoral and boring.

If I would be in a situation when my 'best friend' would spread rumors about me, I would probably lose trust on her/him. I mean, why he/she should have to do that. In the first place it is not true. It is considered backbiting for me. I won't tolerate that.

it can really do harm in a friend especially when he's very close to you. it happened to me once too in my workplace and i haven't spoken to her for years now. our colleagues tried to get us back together but the damage has been done and it can't be repaired forever. i still deal with her during formal meetings but other than that i don't consider her existence. it's a betrayal for me and trust can't be gained anymore. i just believe that a true friend should make a way to tell you in person about the problem and not spreading false stories. Rumors spread quickly and can be very ambiguous.Whatever the rumor, good or bad , we should do our part to check the facts. We also need to be much more aware of the problems we cause when we spread rumors.

well if some of my best friend spreads any such rumors regarding me then well i would find out what is the problem going on because blindly beliving others we can just break up so first i would personally find out and if its confirmed that the rumors were from his side then well i think i may part ways it the issue is serious and well if its some silly issue then well i would not care about it.

The moral lesson here is this: Do not be too trusting even with your best friend. You can never be sure of what's going on in his/her heart and mind. There are certain things that you keep to yourself. Telling one person who cannot keep a secret is like broadcasting your secrets to the whole wide world.

A friend could spread rumors like what you have described? Such kind of people can be regarded as "friend"? It is really a terrible thing! In my opinion, it is an insult of friend. If I have such kind of "friend", I do not have confidence in myself that I can be so magnanimous as your friend. At least if others do this baleful to me, I will not see them as friends any more.

You ignore such type of friend and politely move away from her/him.

Hello inkyuboz, this seems to be an interesting discussion! Well if i come to know that my best friend has been spreading rumors about me, i would definitely get angry on them first. Since it would be hard to tolerate this kind of misbehavior from anyone. Then i would ask them why they did so. Ofcourse, being my best friend ,obviously they would be ashamed of doing so and if they apologize and assure me not to repeat it, i would give them a chance. And aha, i would also ask them to clarify others that whatever they said was nothing but a rumor. Best friends are important people in your life and you shouldnt let them go.

i'm not that kind of friend. i'll find the explanation why he/she did that. looking for a friend is more difficult than looking for an enemy.

I would wakeup and know that this can not really be my friend.

I talk to my friend, first to confirmed about the issue. I don't want to be biased for something. If that is confirmed I will talk to stop it or else something actions being made...

In life we will always have people we don't get on with, then people we also think we know but later realise we don't. Lies and vicious rumours unfortunately are a part of life. I hate this, there is no point, it causses so many problems and upset. What do people have to gain from this? For me people have to be jealous or something like that to start rumours. This woman would have had people thinking that it is possibly true what her so called best friend had said as they remained friends, then this woman would have a bad reputation all because of the lie that her friend started. That is not a friend, friends would not do things like that. For me i would not associate myself with someone who would stoop so low to come up with comments like that, it is wrong. No point in also spreading comments back to get your own back as you just then are seen as being as bad as they are. With friends like this, who needs enemies?

If I were in that situation, I will confront my friend and ask if its true that she's stabbing me in the back. Whether she denies it or not, the trust has been ruined. It will not be the same before and there will be space between us. Especially if I was able to prove that she is the one who is spreading the rumors, it only means she is not a true friend.

If I found out that a friend or my bestfriend is spreading rumors about me, I will confront her first and foremost. I would ask her what is her problem and why she is doing it.

I wouldn't do nothing to her for spreading the rumors because there is nothing you can do that wouldn't cause more trouble. I wouldn't continue to be friends with her either because no good friend would do that. I'd rather not have a friend then to have a friend that does that and people don't change. If she spread rumors once she would spread rumors again. That would be very upsetting because whats sad is that a lot of people believe everything they hear. I have had someone spread rumors about me before too and everyone believed it. That taught me one thing to not believe anything I hear unless I seen it for myself because it might just not be true.Have a good week.