Are you a Good Listener?
By carrine
@carrine (2743)
Philippines
January 30, 2011 3:12am CST
when somebody is talking will listen attentively? like for example you are in a group then somebody is talking then will you listen? or when a friend of you is sharing something on you will you listen?
honestly when i attend to any seminar, i will just listen if the speaker is good enough, if he/shes not boring, because it he/she for sure i will not listen or i will keep on yawning inside. and if a friend of mine will share something to me, i am a good listener because i am pretty sure she shares it because she wants to hear any comments from me, or any ideas from me. it catch my interest because i will check it also if he or she will apply what ive said to her/him.
i myself i not a good speaker, but there are times that iam effective speaker.
what about you? are you a good listener or a good speaker?
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24 responses
@margeryann (1845)
• United States
1 Feb 11
I am a good listener. I know that they wouldn't be telling me what they are telling me if they didn't want me to listen too it and I know how it feels for people to not listen to me. It is nerve racking when you are talking about something that you think is interesting and people want to start talking at the same time about something different instead of waiting until I'm done. Have a good day.
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@bikerider143 (119)
• India
31 Jan 11
a good listener is not the person who listens all scrap,if the speaker says really attractive and if it is worth full of the time he/she is listening.there is no rule that a good listener should take every scrape from the speaker by wasting time.
you said that you will yawn inside when get bored by the speaker,if you got bored means that you already know what the speaker is saying,if don't known what the speaker is saying and still you got bored means you are not a good speaker
@jeyeem (55)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
I must say, I am a good listener. Whenever my friends need someone to talk to, they need not to look further, because I'm right there by their side. But being a good listener is not all that good if you are a bad understander (if there is such a term), sad to say, just like me. :(. I usually miss the point of what they say, but they somehow commend me for my good advices. So, in order to be a good listener, be a good understander as well. :)
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@sinscythex (48)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
I am better at listening than speaking. I'm not used to speaking with a large crowd, and prefer to just listen to other people's stories, and I'll just comment or add something to what they will say. Usually, I find it hard to speak things when I'm not prepared and I cannot find the words to express what I want to say. So I prefer listening and writing.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
31 Jan 11
I'm neither here nor there?? lol =D I like to listen, only if that's something of interest to me.. hehe ^_^ I dun like to speak, unless i'm giving advice on something too?? haha =D HOwever, most of my friends, older friends tend to talk to me more as they find i'm more of a listener.. haha =D While i will always talk to my younger friends, because i'm sharing my experience with them.. haha 
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
30 Jan 11
Hi carrine: I consider myself a good listener but I am not a very good speaker: when I talk to someone usually little words come to my mouth. I know sometimes I feel bored when someone is talking but if this person need to be listened I try my best to hear him/her because I don't want to be disrespectful and I'm sure their message is important for them.
ALVARO
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@saimrajput (426)
• Pakistan
30 Jan 11
if i am sittting in a meeting or confrence then oiviesly i will listen wether i like his speach or not and i have to listen any way. either i will go out . not to disturb any other.
i am a good speaker and listener also.
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@polaris77 (2039)
• Bacau, Romania
30 Jan 11
I think I am both a good listener and a good speaker,but not all the time;sometimes you have to make an effort to be a good listener and focus on what the person you're listening to is saying.It happens to me sometimes to lose that concentration when somebody speaks if I don't find the speech very interesting,but I try not to show it cause I don't want that person to feel offended.Of course,there's a limit in everything,so if that person says only uninteresting things or nonsense,I give up listening.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
30 Jan 11
Yes, I can say I'm a good listener. Because I think the simple fact that I heard what he had told the person I helped her unload her soul, even if not an expert in giving advice, even to have the good sense to listen to has said my neighbor, and if you mind my opinion is his choice. And I in my turn, I like to be heard, so listen to that and you have listened to your own.All the best!
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@speechteacher (104)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I believe and I have been told that I am a good listener. I try to give the person the same respect that I would hope to get from them if I needed to talk. I don't always express myself very well though, especially if the issue is a more emotional one that I need to try to express. For me I am a better listener and WRITER than I am listener and talker.
@aris76 (13)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 11
I'm as similar as U, if my friend is sharing on I'll listen to N' sometimes I give some advice. In a seminar, I'll listen to if the speaker is good enough, but if he/she is boring, maybe I'll sleep or go to the toilet for smoking. I think I'm a good listener or a good speaker but that depends on the situation.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
30 Jan 11
I am a good listener to a friend also who will share something or say something to me, I always listen attentively because I want my friend to so the same when I am sharing to them......
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
30 Jan 11
I have always thought of myself as being a good listener. i don't like tp push people's feelings aside without listening to what they have to say. I have had that done to me so I know how it feels. Anyone can hear, but not everyone knows how to listen too.
@khalida (1126)
• India
30 Jan 11
well i would say that i am a good listener as well as a speaker. i've been complimented for both. my friends have told me that i have a lot of patience and i listen to them. this is because they take a long time to come to the point but i listen to their comments or explanations to know how they feel about the given situation
i love debating and thats where my speaking skills have got enhanced. i like to frame things in a different and creative ways 
i love debating and thats where my speaking skills have got enhanced. i like to frame things in a different and creative ways 1 person likes this
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 11
I will be a good listener if the topic is interested me. Or else I will not listen to it, like you said, if the speaker is good enough, I will listen. But when friend talk to me and wanted someone to listen to their problem, I will always be their good listener.
