Would you lend money to your friend?

I don't like to lend money to anyone or borrow money from anyone because it is hard enough to afford to live having to pay for myself and lots of times people don't pay you back . Sometimes they expect to but can't. I don't borrow money for the same thing. I'm afraid that I will have problems paying it back and it can cause friction in a relationship because it can cause someone to have problems in paying for there bills because of helping you out or you helping them out can cause the same thing to you and it can be stressful. What bothers me is when people ask to borrow money from me because they ran out of money but they brag all the time of eating out , going to the movies and different fun things and I can't afford to do those things and I feel that if they didn't do so much of those things they wouldn't need to borrow money.

There is a proverb saying that "a friend in need is a friend indeed". I used to lend money to my friends until they proved to be a bad payer back. I always think that the way I want my friends to treat me is the way I have to treat them. In these days of crisis and hard life, I try to be understanding and helping with my friends if they need money. But I also learned the lesson that it is better to avoid borrowing money from friends so that I wouldn't be put in the situation to lend them money because I cannot refuse them!

If it was very important to them, and they needed the money desperately, and I had enough money to help them, I feel I would definitely help them. A real friend helps their friend I feel, whether with time or money or whatever else...a real friend never turns their friend away in their hour of need. This is what I believe. Of course...if I was just as poor as them, then I could not help them.

My friend such kind of problems comes in when you dont have really really good friends. I lend money to my friends and they return it to me n due course of time but one thing i want to mention here that when you have intentions to help your friends then just trust them and while lending money to them dont expect that they will return it to you. If you dont have as much financial capability to handle the situation then i would suggest its better to refuse clearly. I agree that lending money can cause disputes in friends but we need to trust and understand the needs of each other while doing such business.

I've lent small amounts of money before like 5 bucks. I'm still waiting to be paid back and suspect that they just forgot. I would be hesitant to lend large amounts of money just because I don't have large sums of cash lying around. I trust most of my friends to pay me back so I would lend without hesitation.

Hi beamer, I agree with you, but sometimes we could not avoid not to give money for a friend especially that you see her in a needy situation, others payback others were not. I just wait for them to have initiative to pay me back, I never did in my life that I am the first one to remind them of their obligations. Sometimes if I see their situation, I even give away.

I try to live by the maxim...Neither a borrower nor a lender be... I think if a friend asks for a loan of money and you say yes, you should consider it a gift, not a loan. You should never expect to get back the money you loan to a friend.

Well, I completely believe that it may bring out friction. Some people are possessive about money. They value it so much that they can stand it to be in some other person's hands. There's nothing strange about it. Also, why would someone not like to save his/her own hard earned money? However, when it comes to me, I would not prefer borrowing. But I would definitely lend to my closest pals, if they require. But, there are some people who lend money and quite after a few days they start pestering the person asking to return the money. I feel, it is better not to lend, if you can not understand the reason why the money was lent from you!!!

Yes i have always lend my friend money,Some of them i don't lend.Some when they barrow they never pay back,and i have a few that always pay back. So those are the one i always lend,but for the ones that don't give back i don't lend.

Hiya beamer, Personally I would only lend to someone I knew not really being bothered if they can pay me back or not. I would of course like to be paid back but if they can´t I would let it go. I can only lend money if I have enough at the time that is another thing. So sometimes I cannot give them what I have not got.

I wouldn't lend money to a friend too. If he or she really needs it, I would give him or her money, but I wouldn't expect anything back. It would just save me the trouble, and the friendship if I don't ask for it. Now, if he or she is a real friend, then he or she would make sure that it gets paid back. The onus is on the friend.

In my past experience, I shall not lend money to any of my friend unless he or she really needs a money to rescue someone's life. If I really have to lend the money in this circumstance, then I shall not expect to collect back my money anymore. Just treat it as a donation for the charity. If a friend of mine approach me to ask for the money, I shall tell him or her straight away for not asking the money if he or she appreciate of our friendship. Lending money to a friend will spoil the good friendship.

hi..what i learnd from loanin money to friends is that it is a small price to pay to meet person as it is ;/

Yes if she really needs it then why not. Money is just money. We have to share our blessings to others. It's better to be a giver than to be a receiver. Just thank God that you are not in the same situation like your friend. It's not easy to bring down your pride and ask for money.

I do lend money to my friends. After all, that is what friends are for. Helping each other. Although you seem to have a point out there. Sometimes, when you lend someone some money and they do not pay, then there is that friction. But well, if they do not pay, then perhaps they are not really such a good friend right?

My best friends and I are always lending eachother money, but mostly just in small amounts. We are really close and so we don't really worry about it much. We trust eachother and know that our friend will pay us back when they can. These friends and a few family members are the only people I could see myself lending a big amount to or accepting a loan from. With other people, I could definitely see a problem developing and that's why I won't do it. If I do borrow money to people, I don't ever expect them to pay me back. That way, if they don't pay me back for any reason, I won't be surprised, angry, or hurt about it.

Hi dear, Money is the worst thing which spoils the relation if not handled carefully. Especially, lending. Taking and giving or money to friends would lead to unwanted consequences. But by keeping in tact, we can resolve the problem to an extent. I used to give money to few (in higher volumes) and finally got disappointed when they didn't returned (I lost it). Also, I took the help also from others (due to this) and still I am continuing. The best part what I can do is that I will return in time and I never tried to pull or push with the money deals, whatever I took or expected to give any body. But all are in between with known and good friends only. I never prefer to ask others who are not having a better contacts. Also, reluctant to ask anybody for a help, if feel that they won't help. However, I am particular to give back the same within the date or prior to the date what I supposed to give back. Even I have helped a lot of people by extending money help out of which many are still not yet returned or paid back. It is experience. Thank-s

hi there. we got the same problem. it's okay to lend money to a friend, if that friend of yours is trustworthy to be paying you. like for instance, that friend of yours had already lent money from you in the past, and he payed you in time then he's quite worthy to be lent your money. otherwise when you know the person to be irresponsible, then you shouldn't. i have encountered things like this couple of times already. most of the time, when a friend lends money from you, you should be the one to be approaching them to claim for the payment. it's the oddest thing i knew. sometimes i wonder if they just want you to forget about the money they lent from you or they're just waiting for you to approach them first? LOL. since then, i never want to lend my money to anybody else anymore, even for my friends. the hardest part is that if they do not pay you, and you've got to approach them first. LOL. i hate that. it would surely ruin your friendship and trust.

I am only lending money to my friends whom I know will pay me and honest. I trust people who are paying back early because I can see that they are respecting me as a friend. Honest friends will make my relationship with them better and improved. I am not lending money to some friends whom I know, will just trick me. Most of them will say that they will pay on or before the due date. But when the due date of their debt is near, they will run and hide from me. That is what I really hate.

i am friends to lend the money give me support that to money as to possible for money to in the time.so i have for this time apporturnity give time for moeney some possible for money.