Forgive or apologize?

Indonesia
January 30, 2011 4:36am CST
Have you not able to forgive? Which is more difficult for you, forgive or apologize? I quote from a book, Mahatma Gandhi once said: " The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong ", People who are weak can not forgive. Forgiveness is the hallmark of a strong, well, we often hear the word classic, that forgiveness is a distinguished noble deeds, who did not want to do noble? however, whether forgive as easily theorize it into practice? in the course of our lives, sometimes inevitable to intentionally or unintentionally hurt others, which may result in him a grudge on us, otherwise also, it is possible we have hearts and feelings of being persecuted by someone who makes us into a prolonged traumatic, so we also could grudge him, when meeting, said most people will get an apology from his mouth, but his heart? what has been forgiven, too? only God and he alone who knows right? approximately, you agree with Mahatma Gandhi's words above? anyone ever apologize to you, but it was very difficult for you to forgive? why? or .. do you ever apologized to someone, but he was not willing to forgive you? how do you react to the response? if you then emotions because you are willing to actually come to apologize?
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kendedes2011
@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
3 Feb 11
both are difficult. because of the difficulty apologize So, who want to be forgiven? 'm Sorry it was hard but is not hard to forgive people who have so outrageous? for example, kill or humiliate you in public?
gengeni
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 11
"Forgiven not forgotten" words were spoken from the heart that had just recovered from the hurt from being betrayed by someone who is in trust and love ... This incident could easily we encounter in everyday life. But how does each person deal with it, that's the difference .. It takes time and patience until the liver to fully recover from the heartache and disappointment ... Indeed long enough for us to fully recover and grow back the confidence .. "I honestly say now .. I sincerely sincerely sorry ... " Grudge forever anyway will only sow the negative energy that is not in need in my self .. .. and we all ... :-)
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 11
To me, it's easier to forgive than to be forgiven. Forgiveness is easier for me, because I do not like having enemies, and do not like holding grudges. Forgiven does not mean, we have sincerely forgiven. And will be a burden for life.
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
When somebody has wronged me, i forgive him even before he actually asked for it. I offer him to God, to do whatever is right for that person who wronged me. When he asks for my forgiveness i will give it to him. Sometimes, i hate my self for being a forgiving person, because i sometimes think i am being abused by my transgressors. When it is me who has wronged a person, i would apologize to him. Now, if he don't want my apology, i wouldn't care less. As long as i know i have asked for my apology and tried to repair whatever damage that i have done, i move on.... For me, there's no use crying over spilt milk!
moneyonline2002
@moneyonline2002 (57)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
Mahatma Gandhi's words are totally correct...You cant never forgive if you cant control yourself. Between forgive and apologize, the more difficult for me is to apologized, for something I did wrong, well apologizing from the heart is what I mean....I remember something I read from the internet about the hardest word to say, that is "Im Sorry". I believe its true!!!!
LauraSanabria
@LauraSanabria (15)
• Mexico
31 Jan 11
I think apologize it's more difficult because you need to recognize your fault. On the other side when you are going to forgive someone you have this "power", you only need to hear and if you want said: yes i forgive you and no more, you don't need to accept that you did a mistake. Laura Sanabria.
KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
31 Jan 11
Well, sometimes the hardest thing for a person to do is to apologize, usually being too Stubborn to admit that they ever did anything wrong. And then to forgive someone and then forget and act like everything is OK and never happened, is another thing altogether as well. I find sometimes the hardest thing is to forgive someone and then move on, as when my feelings were hurt from them, it is hard to forget and want to be around or Trust them anymore. But hard feelings left along can create more problems than good, so I am learning to apologize, forgive, and move on.
yogeshdhusa
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
30 Jan 11
nakula2009 It is really good to forgive this is what I believe because it saps our energy unknowingly and I have the experience that after forgiveness I felt light Forgiveness is human Thanks for starting the discussion Let Peace be with You And Let God love you Thanks Again
dayangsumbi2010
@dayangsumbi2010 (1724)
• Indonesia
30 Jan 11
More difficult to forgive. but, that's for people who've really made a mistake which really hurt me. until whenever, I'm not going to forgive him. probably will turn into resentment. but, for small errors or general. I can forgive him. to, sorry. the thing most often do. when I make mistakes, when it also spontaneously I will apologize.