Have anyone been going through like this?

Whatever it was that caused you to isolate yourself must have been quite difficult since your isolation has been for so long. Expressing this desire to end your isolation is a good first step. I might try to reconnect with some of the old friends and at the same time put yourself in the position to make new friends. Concentrate on enhancing your strenghts to build your confidence. People are drawn to confident people. And in those times when you feel so alone, talk to your higher power, it will help you spiritually.

It is understandable to be afraid, but I think you should take the next step. You can start by trying to get in touch with your old friends again. Call them, send a text message, or send an e-mail to say hello. Ask if you can meet up and catch up. Now, if in case, they are busy and can not, at first, meet up with you again, don't despair. Just keep the communications open, and I'm sure one day, they will find some free time and you can have a sort of reunion then. Another thing you can do is start going out more. You can do it little by little. Say hello to your neighbors, ask how they are. Start with some small talk, get to know them, and maybe eventually, you'll find some good friends in your neighborhood. You can do this! I wish you the best. =)

breathofja, Since your unfortunate incident(s), you mentioned that you've cut off your friends. But what about your family members? And, what have you been doing for the past 3 years? Maybe if you would sit down and ponder what I've asked, you would probably have the answers to your question. Sometimes, you just need to sit down and recollect yourself. You cannot just keep on walking without stopping to check your directions and most of all your destination. Take care and have a nice day.

Hi breathofja! I can't imagine the hurt that you felt or is feeling right now but I can share the time of my life when I hurt the most. It was because of a friend's betrayal. I was trapped within myself. I was focused on the heartbreak. It took some years to overcome the burden that the experience caused. I also got tired of the negative feeling that it caused. I was such a grouch then. What helped me overcome the hurt is acceptance. Acceptance that I cannot control how other people would act towards another. Acceptance that I am the only one who can make or break me. As I have learned in one seminar that I attended, everything you do or become is DOY. DOY means Depends On You. Hope this helps. Be happy always.

yeah, I personally feel comfortable and just enjoy being alone. maybe take baby steps to get back a social life if thats what you enjoy. Go out every now and then and if your more comfortable getting closer to people and becoming stronger friends then you can take those steps towards that.

tell yourself to do good and have fun sometimes

In life people would come into your life and people would leave but God remain with you.20 friends cannot play together for twenty years. You just have to pave your own part, refuse to dwell in the past, picture what you want your life to be and work it out.Have the courage, have the will, because where there is a will there would always be a way, you shouldn't live the way your friends are living if you know that it would not favor your kind of live. Move on, you will meet with people who would appreciate you. What i want to say is that refuse to live in the past just live your dreamss. cheer!