My boyfriend is 20 and I am 21,what do you think of girl older than the boy

Hi Yeah what they is true that when you fall in love, nothing else matters, there have been cases where women have married men 7-8 years younger and their marriages have worked. Woman have married men much shorter than them and again they were happy in their relationship. but in your case you are just one year elder to your boyfriend, tat is hardly any age difference. You age difference cannot be considered as a valid reason for breaking up the relationship, but if you feel that he is not your type and not made for you then you can go ahead and break up, it will be tough, but sometimes you have to take tough decisions in your life.

don't lead him on! I mean if your not into him then there really is no point in keeping up a charade!! I mean your not going to fall for him over time unless that is what you have in mind!! Still always keep the relationship honest and truthful!! Once you start deceiving each other is when things start getting complicated and later messy!! If your gonna break then make it a clean one!! he deserves that!! As for age difference, well i am sorry but i don't think one year even qualifies as a difference!!

Dear Emilieyang I too feel that age is not a factor which really matters in the love. There is no hard and fast rule that a boy should be always more aged than a girl in a relationship. There have been many famous couples in the past where the wife is more aged than the husband and they did well in their lives. It is understanding, care,commitment, concern and true dedication which counts in love.If you find these things in your partner then I think there shouldn't be any problem with him though he may be smaller to you in age. Now coming to your case,If I am not wrong, it seems you are having soft corner and sympathy for your boy friend than actual love! You feel that he is just a boy and needs maturity and he is of not your type but then still you are with him just because he cried once when you told him that you are interested in break up. Now the question is with such feelings and attitude towards him how long can you pull on in this relationship? He is thinking to marrying you and settling the life with you by giving you the status of wife. But it seems you are not even thinking in that direction as you feel that you can never accept such immature boy who is not of your type as your husband. In such situation before your boyfriend gets involved too much with you and makes whole life revolves around you and only you, it becomes your moral and social responsibility to make him realise that though you both are good friends but the qualities you are looking in a husband is lacking in him or tell him indirectly/ slowly that he is not the type of man who actually looking for! Though it is not thing for you to initiate and implement but at the same time it also will be too difficult for him to digest this fact! But then you need to break the ice some where and I feel it is better to have it done earlier! Of course,this is the advise what I can give sitting in front my laptop, but then things must be very different at your end and there must have been many other factors which you might be considering before taking any decision! Well love is like that in life! All the best to you and your boy friend and pray the Almighty to keep both of you happy through out the life! Bye!

for a start, this is nothing to do with age. one year doesn't count at all as an age gap, in my book. and it doesn't matter at all who is older or younger. it just sounds like you are not compatible people. there's no point staying with someone if only one of you wants the relationship.

I can't see any problem with the slight difference in ages between you and your boyfriend. It is how you feel about each other that matters. However, if you don't have any feelings for him, you will not be doing yourself or him and favors by carrying on with the relationship. It is far kinder to break up now than later on when his feelings have grown even stronger. It would be worse then, believe me because it happened to me when I was in my teens after going out with someone for over a year, she lost her feelings for me. It is nobody's fault as it happens. It is life and something that we will all face at one time I would think. _Derek

I think your problem is doesn't the age, just if he isn't your type leave him, if you doesn't in the future will be a very big problem because he can think that you really played with his feelings. Laura Sanabria.

I can readily understand how you would want to be miserable and unhappy for the rest of your life and definitely you will be desperate as well. It would not be fair to hurt this boy because he will have no future without you. Obviously, he will never be able to find happiness with anyone else. He is obviously not yet ready to marry because he is so immature...but I think it best for you to go ahead and marry him anyway and then you can train him to be the person you want him to be. It shouldn't matter that he will eventually become unhappy and miserable too. None of that is important. I know most people usually love each other and are committed to each other and even like each other when they plan a future together but gosh, that sort of thing is SO overrated in this day and age.

I really don't think that that is the one year age difference between you. Boys tend to be boys well into their twenties (sometime thirties or lifelong) so even if he had been several years older than you, you might have been the more mature one ;-) That being said, I really don't think age difference either way is a problem. That the man should be older than the woman is quite old-fashioned, traditional and doesn't make sense to me. I don't think I'd be comfortable with someone 15 years younger than me, but then I don't think I'd date someone 15 years older either. So if he's not your type, maybe you should end the relationship. But not because he's one year younger than you :-) Good luck, hope you figure out what to do.

There is nothing wrong about the different of the age for a couple. For me, the gap of the age for a couple is preferred not to be too much. The different of 20 and 21 years old are just in few months only. If you think he can not be reliable and trustable for your future, your decision is still your liberty. Whatever decision you do should not be regret later. Consider independently and carefully.

Tell him frankly that you cannot marry him. Don't let the days pass by and make him wait for nothing. What's the point of being in a relationship when you don't like the person that you are with? Don't waste your time and his time. Tell him as soon as possible, as frankly as you can.

I a previous post you said that you're happy in love and now you want to end your relationship. I just don't get it. anyway I don't see why age should be a problem. age doesn't sho maturity. you can ifnd a guy who is 25 and thinks as if he were 15 and the reverse way. so as long as you get along just well I don't see why age should be a problem

I think a year is nothing, really believe that love is not old if you really want someone you did not mind the age, religion, race. If you age bother you then it is the only thing that matters there are many couples who have more than 10 years of age difference.....

There is no problem with it. Its only a year and age does not matter when you fall in love. But in your case, since he is not your type, why would you still stay with him. You should tell him as soon as possible that he is not your type. But do not tell him directly like that. Tell him in a smooth way. Tell him that you cant be together since you two are different. Something like that. Explain to him very well.

if he is not your type my friend, why don't you just ask for a break up. age does not matter and to tell you honestly i had a girl friend not too long ago when i was 16 and she was 29. she's a real experienced one and that is what i like about her. now i have my girl friend same as my age. and do not ask me to compare them.... lol

I am pretty sure the one-year age difference is NOT the issue here. You obviously have other issues at work here, and with nothing else really obvious to blame it on, you are likely just trying to chalk it up to a minor age difference. My wife is almost 7 years older than me, and we will be celebrating our ten-year wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks...

Well, if your boyfriend is not the type that you like to be your partner in the future. You should be careful on dealing with him. Be cool when you have date with your boyfriend because it will make you uncomfortable after all... My opinion about that: Age or height doesn't matter if you really love someone

Hi, such a very short margin of age won't matter; you know girls mature first than boys. It is a fact that we girls are serious in everything that we do. I'm just wondering why you kept on lying to him. I mean you don't love him and just pretending that you love him. Be real and talk to him honestly.

Being only 1 year the diference is so little to even taken into account. I would say that you both are the same age in fact, despite he's one year younger. But for what you say, you want to leave him not because the age, but because his manners of personality that you don't like. I think that all depends on what you feel. How do you feel with him? Confortable? Or unhappy? If so, then I would speak frankly with him and tell the situation. It's very good tryiing to keep him happy if he really loves you, but I think it's not good to "sacrifice" you because of that.

The best thing to do in this situation is to break up with him. You cannot keep up on a realtionship that has no mutual affection. It will sooner or later come to an end. You cannot also give false hopes to the guy, that will hurt him even more. It is better to end it right away than have you both suffer while in the relationship. HE might be hurt, of course, that comes in every break up, but he will soon recover from it. He's still young and there is so much more in store for him. HE will soon realize that once you let him go. Pain is part of growing up, and most people need it in order for them to mature and become stronger individuals.

To me it doesn't matter if an woman is older then the man she is with but if you don't like being with him it is best to figure out how to get out of that relationship now then later. Even, if it upsets him, you need to tell him that you don't want to be with him and if he cries tell him sorry but I can't do this anymore and leave don't let his feelings keep you from leaving you have to look out for your happiness too. He most likely will get over it.