Who runs the relationship? Who's the pants in your relationship?

I think it tends to switch back and forth in our relationship. I guess for the most part I would say that I wear the pants in the family. But I don't need to. I told my husband from the start that I wanted us to both make the decisions for our relationship. Most the time though he folds to what he thinks I want or says yes because he doesn't think he can say no. I'm trying to change that. He gets his way too, I don't like to tell him no either.

My boyfriend does more often. However, I don't feel like I'm giving up or he always wins. I'm the type of person who feel very strongly on a few issues. Other things I'm willing to compromise or don't care about. My boyfriend is more about details and honestly bossy. When I want something, I get it. I would say, he wears the pants.

I have a rather young relationship and I have to admit the girl get\s her way. But it's not like I let her be but I don't see the point to be too demanding. But even with my past relationships I'm like this. I only take control when I need to.

I always believe that it takes two to tango. In order for a relationship to work out and goes smoothly and harmoniously both partners must learn to compromise. Besides, it is not that often that we all have the last words and that we can never be sure sometimes if what we indeed decide for everybody is the best. However, being a wife, I'd rather let my husband be on the driver's seat. It is better that way because as a man he needs to feel respected and I think he deserves that. It is also written in the bible that we, wives, must be under our man's authority so it is ok to be the one who is following instead of the one who is steering the wheel.:)

I don't know how old you are or what kind of relationships you've had, but it's not true that one person always wears the pants in a relationship. Lots of relationships, including marriages are equally shared. No one's on top or on the bottom. A relationship where two people are always struggling to get their way isn't going to last very long. Unless you can respect the other person's needs and point of view and find ways to compromise, you probably shouldn't even be in that relationship.

I think it is important for both individuals within a relationship to "wear the pants" once in a while in order to make the relationship a healthy one. If one person has too much power within the relationship, I doubt it will last very long.

In a relationship, there is what you call give and take process there. It is very important to recognize what are the goals in that relationship and in my opinion, achieving such goal is very important, the manner of achieving the goal is based on the decisions the parties have made. I think, it is vital for the woman to recognize the needs of a man and vice-versa. Remember that there are two individuals in the relationship and each should respect each one's strengths and weaknesses. I guess the dominant personality should also learn to adjust and the non-dominant should also learn to assert him/herself. There is no point of letting someone just do the decisions and let the other be some sort of outcast to it. One should still know and share the responsibility/obligation. Besides, who would benefit the whole thing from it? Today, our changing roles in the society has direct/indirect impact in the way we handle relationships, couples/families do have their own manner of dealing with problems but do notice in history that a strength of someone is not solely his but there are several people involved, a motivator/driving force; whatever you call it. In my opinion, "strong mothers" build nations.

Well, i have to admit that for a very long year my partner is the captain of the ship even she's months younger than me but she's really good in balancing and handling our relationship. She's more mature than me and an expert in dealing with my mood swings. I have a changeable mind and impatient so most of the time i relay on her especially in decision making. I have to say that she decide most of the time and she run my life that's why i became a better person. We won't last this long if she's not a good captain.

I think we all like to think that we run the relationship. being in charge gives us the power we think we need. the man may think he wears the pants in the relationship, but that is not always so. The one who shows the most strength and perseverance in the relationship is definitely the one wearing the pants!

saldy me. and i don't like this situation. I hate it that he doesn't have any point of view. he told me that he wants us to break up and I said ok. and the next day he sent me a message saying this was everything between us? you really don't are? and I told him hey you said that you want us to break up. he replyed that he said that just to see what I will say....I would like him to be capable of deciding

In the case of my husband and me, we both run the relationship. Much as i want the relationship to be like this and that, it would not prosper if my husband will not yield to it. There should always be a point where both of you could compromise for the betterment of the relationship. The husband should also be vocal in his opinion of what you would like it to be and vice versa. There should be no such thing as who decides, or who gets their way more often.

When me and my partner are just starting in our relationship, I used to decide a lot for both of us. I think the one who has more brains gets to decide a lot. I'm not saying though that he's dumb but he relies mostly on my decisions. And now that we are living together and have one kid, we make decisions together, especially when money is involve. I guess it's better if we do it together so that we wouldn't feel that one of us is superior or inferior in the home.

I let my girlfriend decide most of the time. It's not that I don't want to decide for the both of us but It's just that I don't want her to regret anything because of my decisions. I think it's not healthy for a relationship that's why I'm trying to work it out.