Husband,I Deleted My Number On Your Phonebook

Hi eureka! Knowing fully well that he does not keep you informed about himself, deleting your number from his phonebook will work fine with him. In case he is away from home and there is no word from him, he might say - "I did not have your cell number, therefore I did not inform you about my whereabouts". On the other side of the coin, I would say, even if you deleted your number from his phone book, he should have 'saved' your mobile number again. If he deliberately chooses not to do so, then you getting annoyed is in order. I think it is a duty of the spouse (either of the two) to keep the other informed about his/her whereabouts, when one of them is outside home. What's the use of mobile phone, if hubby/wife cannot inform the other partner? I would never do so. I have stored all my cell numbers, colleagues/friends' cell numbers and office telephone numbers in my wife's mobile phone so that I could be contacted any time by her, when she is away from home or its vice versa. Likewise, I have stored all her numbers in my all the mobile phones to keep in touch with her, as we both are working and remain away from home many a times. Have a nice day!

Hi there eureka! While reading your post, I was like surprised reading your story. I also wonder why guys/men are like that - insensitive and uncaring. I was living in with my ex then and he seems not to wonder if I am worried. His alibis went worse and unreasonable when I noticed that it is becoming an everyday or every other day routine of his. And my hunch and instinct was right. He is hiding some things from me. I hate the feeling of getting worried of him if he is fine, what happened to him, but it isn't because I am getting suspicious with his actions. As things has been confirmed last December, then I could no longer bear not to speak up.

yes! I'll do exactly the same thing that you did if he was like that to me..honestly, I am very familiar with this situation where in I know that my BF is someone like your husband who was very insensitive to me.. what happened is that, I was out and I do not have a spare key with me in his house so I had to text him and ask him if he's still home and if he can just wait for me till I get back home before he goes to gym but as usual, he never did texted me back and me, very tired and exhausted and would just want to go home was stuck in the mall waiting for his response till I decided I'll just wait for him outside his house. so to my surprise I saw him sitting infront of the computer playing poker and chatting with girls online and he cant even manage to text back on me! another thing is, he can manage to text other girls but he cant text me when its really important for him to do so..

Husband should not treat their wives like that. I wonder what is your status at the moment, are you still in good terms or not since communication is important and there is no relationship that will grow if both couple would not learn how to communicate. I'm sorry to hear this but I don't see love in there. Even if you say that men aren't showy on what they feel, but it sounds like your ignoring each other and your both showing cold shoulders. This will just end up on frustrations if not fixed immediately. What is your concern about your husband still not around on time that he supposed to be at home? you better tell him what you feel about this and he has to also listen. A wife that does not feel the love and care of a husband is so difficult and these would start your relationship to tarnish.

Hi sweetie. If someone treated me that way, i won't care a flying fig what happens to him. What goes around comes around, i believe. He should learn to think of others for a change and not just himself. TATA.

eureka hi, it's been a while since I've been here due to my laptop crash & had to get it repaired... Anyway, I don't blame u for deleting your numbers from his phone I think I would do the same... Having a cell phone is useful in emergencies & others.. I think if u can text others then give a little extra minutes to texting your other half once out of the day especially if your gone from home long periods of the time...We just want to hear how your doing, what's on your mind, if your safe & okay, or just to know your thinking of us, etc.. I think our spouse thinks they should call us only when it's really important or issues involving the kids but true that's not only when we want to hear from them; I want to hear from him even when it's not important, I want to hear how r u, I'm thinking of u, or just to drop a joke, etc... Eureka, your a strong woman to be taking this all in, patience with him & handling home & family... I think your thinking is right to just ignore him & concentrate on the children since they are the innocent ones in all this.. It's wonderful that we have our children to give them all that love & they give it back to us & wishing that our spouse would give us some of that love.. Some friends here said something about reverse psychology, I think you should try that sometimes maybe he would change his attitude & not only think about himself but of your feelings too.. Have you both tried counseling or marriage counseling? Hang in there, I'm praying that all the uncaring spouses in the world would stop thinking of themselves only & think, WHY DID WE GET MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE??? Take care & God Bless U...

My husband doesn't do that...though he sometimes does yell when I call to ask about something. But my friend's husband is the same as yours. He doesn't text or call to tell her where he is or if he is going to be late and she's worried sick about him. This happens even when their daughter isn't well(though he did text her to ask her to keep him posted!). He doesn't pick up her calls or text back saying he is busy. I'm going to give her this idea of yours! Maybe it will work for her Like you said...she'll probably be doing him a favour!

Hi Eurekafemme, Stories like this just make me so glad that I'm single and remind me why I will always stay single. I don't miss those days. My ex was usually at the bar or hanging out drinking etc with friends and I remember feeling angry and feeling guilty for feeling angry because what if he was working or hurt and then I'd worry instead and finally he'd stumble in all drunk and disordly and well let's just say that I don't miss those days at all. Hope things get better for the two of you.

Do you think that he will notice it ? Maybe is it time for a true explanation with him ?

Divert your attention with other things. Don't make him feel that he is your world. And lets see what will happen. Maybe that is the nature of man. I myself experienced the same. I stopped sending text and calling him. I was already tired of feeling neglected. I was surprised that he makes an effort now to communicate with me. I am using reverse psychology...:)

Hi euurekafemme, Yes, I will do the same if it was me. I want to see how far my husband will try to contact me. That's a sad thing to hear between you and your husband. Guys are so tactless. They don't care about how girls worry for their safety. Is it because guys are tough? Or they are less at risk for danger? I hope you can solve this problem my friend or anyone from mylot.

Hello dear! I didn't know about this in your married life,you sounded so much fine in our forum. I replied first in your latest discussion that's why I can't comment about your married life in that discussion,but now I know. I don't know why your hubby is like that. I have so many questions to ask but I know it's out of the line and I know it's too personal. I just hope all things will become well to both of you. From what you asked,I guess I wont do it,even if he doesn't even bother to txt or call me,he still needs to know my number for some emergency reasons. I'm sure your hubby will still add your number again in his cellphone dear.

Just talk to him about what you feel, likes, dislikes, and agreed upon on something positive. Husband should love his wife, and wife should do the same. Or, find another person to settle this problem. It's not good if you shout to the whole world about your wants and needs. There's no solution for that, in fact you're degrading yourself because you don't know how to handle your husband especially your life. Be civilized to talk to him in a manner that both of you could understand what you're going through. Maybe you're husband is thinking that you're okay, because you don't talk to him frankly. Or, if you talk, but not in direct actuations, just nagging or accusations. If you respect and love your husband, then, make the right move, that he'll respect and love you in return. If you're hopeless with what I'm saying, then, maybe there's no solution for your problem, but to go on with the way your life meant to be. Or, I think your husband lacks the initiative to be with you? Think totally with your own, why? Maybe it's because...etc..etc..Be sensible enough with your married life. If your husband had a problem, then by all means, ask the experts for advice. Unhappy marriage is not good especially for the children. Try your best to be right in your thinking and actions.

y u dont remember ur husabands numbers?

Hi. Well, no. Come on, regardless of your hubby's shortcomings, you still need to keep his number in your phone book just for practical reasons. You never know when you really might need to get in touch with him due to an emergency or something. Just keep the number. You don't need to answer if he calls or reply to any message that he sent. We men are really dumb and can be insensitive sometimes, and it's not excusable. But just keep the number for your sake and not for his.

hello eureka, The thing is,was it accidentally or someone deleted it (umnnn,not to add more suspicion dear) But why he didn't bother to encode back your number ,men,so many alibis. Okay,i can feel you are stronger more than anyone can think of. Keep on,do not lose any respect of yourself.(that's the only thing you can be proud of) Martyr's are not born,they're made...and i am sure you are not one of them Have a great day always