Jealous with my husband's friend

You have the right to be jealous. If I will be in your shoe, I will feel the same. I am very open to my husband about my feelings. I would advise you to talk with your husband.

Hi dear, Keep away the jealous but be practical, I think this the need of the time and if found in appropriate, involve nicely and resolve tactfully. Best regards, Thank-s

I will not blame you, I can it will be best if you will talk to your husband so he knows and can set up some limitations....let him know how you feel, I will feel the same when I am in your situation!

You have the right to be jealous. Actually we are on the same situation, I can read also messages of my husband online or even through his cellphone. What I did is I get his cellphone temporarily, which he agreed. and if he has important messages I will tell to him and he will answer it, he has another mobile phone to contact him if needed, and only few knew this number. Now, the girl (my husband school mate) didn't send messages anymore, because my husband is not replying. Her last message was the other day telling their upcoming reunion.

I don't think its really jealousy but its more like your female intuition. Jealousy is a natural feeling but it becomes a problem when we get consume by it and we don't know that we are. The only bff your husband should have is you. Try not to compete because you are already married but let him know where you stand.

i agree with the others that you need to have a heart to heart talk with your husband. you need to tell him how you feel. being open to each other's feelings will make your relationship stronger and better. don't learn to hide things that can make your relationship grow weak instead, use these situations as opportunities to make your relationship stronger. it could also increase your trust to your husband if you get to talk to him and find out that there is nothing to worry about after all.

Hi Astreadido, It's hard to say if your jealousy is justified or not. It sounds to me as if he is being very open about his friendship with this girl and he isn't hiding anything from you so I'm guessing that it is really just a friendship and that you shouldn't worry. Talk to your husband about how you are feeling. Maybe when she comes home, she can come to your home and visit with the both of you. I'm thinking that if you got to know her better then you might see that she is not a threat to your marriage?

hello, dear. you have every right to feel jealous. but instead of clinging to this negative feeling, why not talk to him about the whole situation and how you feel about it? i am very sure that there are two probabilities that could happen. it is either your husband will listen and understand you and explain it as what should be expected, or he will be offended because you do not trust him and that you watch him all the time. whatever is the result of telling him how you feel, you have to tell him. do not be a martyr bearing the grudge, and one that would possibly blame herself in the future by doing nothing. God bless.

Jealousy is a normal feeling. But in your case, when you're husband given you the right to have an access to his internet account seems like giving you the assurance that he has nothing to hide to you. And he probably expect you to trust him. Despite of this, you still feel jealous, nothing is wrong in communicating with him and discuss about the girl, but not in the tone of you are in doubt about their being close. Try to be observan first, if you really feel something unusual and think that it affects you that much. Better discuss it with him for your peace of mind. Maybe he can even sense your feeling, but want you to be open to him just the way he wants you to feel about his being open to you. Why try to reciprocate the gesture? Discuss how you feel, besides, he gave you the access, meaning you know what's going on between them. Let him know your feeling so he would know their limitations as friends.

Hi asteadido, I understand your predicament. I think it is best that you exert effort to befriend the girl. As you have said, she is also your daughter's godmother - it can be a start of a beautiful relationship between you and the girl. You can start it by chatting/sending message to her through facebook. You can also share with her your experiences and challenges in life. You can also ask her how is she doing. You might just be jealous for now because you really do not know the person but if you just let yourself be open to the idea of knowing her then I don't see any reason why you cannot nourish the relationship. Who knows you'll end up being best friends.

It is normal to feel this way. Just don't let this things go into your head. The more you think about it the more anxious you are about this issue which can affect your relationship with your husband.Talk to him about this. Tell him you are not comfortable having this woman. He would understand just don't shout or get angry the more you'll push him to something he doesn't like. Just make it nice and simple. :)

I can understand your feeling about your husbands friend, well, the good thing here is that your husband allows you to read his facebook messages its his way of saying trust me to you. Trust your husband and speak about your feelings over him getting close to her friend. :-)

i agree with you that its hard to not being jealous at such a situation,,but the fact that he gave you loggin details means he has got nothing to hide. maybe he just wants a close friend from her.. there are somethings you need to talk with other people rather than speaking with you spouse. so dont be jealous

If i were you i will also be jealous. That's normal you have feeling like that. But you should keep moving before you find something real going on there between her and your husband. Or they will thought you as some crazy lady.

Talk to your husband what you feel and what you expect from him. Agreed upon on how to do the right thing, and be prompt with that agreement. Never give an indication that you are jealous with his friend online. Observe and be watchful for his actions towards this woman. Try to stretch your thinking now, and observe them when this woman arrive this November. Do the right thing always, if you think that they're doing bad, then, that's the time to confront them and decide what you want to do. Be professional and think naturally but under the passage of the law. I understand your situation and do really care for your happiness. Solve that insecurities or yours through proper actions. Hope this will help.