Being a good listener.

@alokijon (665)
Malaysia
January 31, 2011 3:16am CST
In through out our lives, I am sure that there were many times we became the listening ears for our friends, family or relatives. They just need somebody that can listen to them. It doesn't matter whether we can solve their problems or not. I always play my role as listener not their problem solver. I need to empathy not sympathy of them. I just do not want to involve too much in their problems. I just want them to let go all their feelings and after that try to find their own solutions for their problems. Have you ever in this situation? How do you handle this situation? What is the meaning of being a good listener to you?
3 responses
picjim
@picjim (3002)
• India
31 Jan 11
Its good to listen.Especially you are lending your ear to a friend to lessen his bottled up emotion or feeling.I read an article in yesterday's paper which says talking more than listening leads to elevated blood pressure.Not only are you doing others a service by listening to their grievance,but also doing an activity which is useful for your health.
alokijon
@alokijon (665)
• Malaysia
31 Jan 11
Wow that is new to me. I do not know that by just listening we can elevate our blood pressure. There are some people are not good at listening because they tend to insert their own believes and dogmas. What do you think?
picjim
@picjim (3002)
• India
31 Jan 11
Those who talk more risk increasing their blood pressure.Those who listen are less at risk as per that article.What you say is true those who insert their views aren't good at listening.
Valadas
@Valadas (83)
• Portugal
6 Feb 11
Good discussion ! Being a listener as been part of my life many, many times. I was actually endorsed today by my best friend ,by text, and she was really, really depressed. She was feeling bad about her bad grades and said that was just wasting money to her mother because of that. She got to a point that said that she would prefer not to have been born so that she wouldn't have to take up with these discussions and bad grades and stuff... And kept on going by saying that she would kill herself if she could! I tried to help her just by saying to her that it's better if she thinks about good stuff in her life... like friends, family and good memories for example. And that to me is the meaning of being a good listener... it's to try to help your friends, or whoever you are listening to, to feel better and cheer up in that particular moment. Good listening isn't solving your friends problems, those are to be solved only by themselves! ~~ Help your beloved ones! :D ~~
alokijon
@alokijon (665)
• Malaysia
6 Feb 11
Most of the time the troubled people only need our present. They don't our money and so on. For just being there these kind of people will be very happy. They just want to let go everything that they have in their heart. Once they flush out all their problems they will feel relieve. Later on, they will have a peace of mind and can make a good decision by themselves and for themselves.
emarkoff
@emarkoff (11)
• United States
12 Feb 11
I would suggest simply listening to their description of their concern and letting them work it out for themselves. It is easy to try to fill in too many blanks for others when most of us simply cannot know or understand totally what is going on with other people. The best we can do is allow them to vent their frustration without offering too much advice.