Helpful Members- Not Appreciated??????

hi jujunme I have had some newcomers call me an old bossy so and so and that to me was not funny and was uncalled for they were complaining about having so many discussions deleted and I advised them to please read the mylot information and rhe rules of discussions then they would know what not to put in their discussions. this actually made these few ones mad at me. this hurt as those discussions were deleted like I told them they would be.Nobody forced me to try and help and they took it as my showing off blah blah.So this sort of makes me leery to offer help.' I think maybe mylot needt so step in and do something to get newconers to really read the information insteaqd of letting us get bricbats thrown at us for daring to help.

I'm really amazed that there are people that are really interested to help others with their problems, and that is what we can see here in myLot. MyLotters are good people that try to help each others, but sometimes the're not appreciated as you said. For example: Any member creates a discussion, and a good mylotter post a response, a good one, a helpful one, but a large one, so nobody reads it because they're too lazy, nobody comments, nobody thanks, and obviously that good response won't be chosen as the better, just because they're lazy and don't want to read so much. There are other cases when people create discussions about personal problems, looking for advice, and a helpful member gives his/her sincere opinion, an opinion that would help solve the problem, but then is immediately rejected, because it is not what the discussion creator wanted to hear(or read in this case) These are just two examples, but the list is a long one, and some people that really want to help are not valued.

I am always greatfull for advice on here,as far as i see it if we are going to chat or talk about probs etc and do a disscussion then we must be able to accept some constructive critisism from people who respond.

unsolicited advise is always welcome especially if given in a nice way. But there are people who give advice with a hint of sarcasm in their posts so the natural reaction of the receiver is to go on defensive mode and throw back some sarcastic words so the tug of war starts. This is very common in politics and religion sections so I avoid it.

Hi junjunme, I always believe that MyLot is my extended family and I treat it just as a family... there are all types of people around - some helping some hirting, some loving and some caring... A very healthy mix. I am happy that I got the correct advices and correct help at the right time and I am really grateful to everyone here... even the admin because without Alice, we would have been more of a chaotic family.

well... for me am a new member here and off course if anyone should take his or her time to assist you to respond to your question you should be at least be greatful for such thing. because it doesnt mean that the person doesnt have anything to do than to come and respond to your question but because of the interest he or she is having as a devoted member.

I find myLot to be of great help to me as a whole as there has never been a time tht I have found any sounding advice not to be appreciated. Even if the response is negative, I am one who will read and re-read to see if there is some truth to what is advised. Although I may not agree 100% of the time I find any advice given is certainly a treat as no one is obligated to respond to me so by a member taking the time to read my discussions and or responses and there after comment is certainly very appreciated. I also am very proud of the fact that I can be helpful also and I can sense that by the response back to me.